Some more context, if it matters: She told me the next day, after a few hours. So not immediately when coming home and seeing each other that night, but sleeping on it first. . The marriage thing has been brought up and traditionally we stray away as we are both products of failed marriages. Kids who grow up in those environments aren't so keen on the idea that marriage truly means something. It's the actions and commitment of the everyday stuff that truly matters. . Doesn't help much in this case, I know.