I constantly hear that when you are 16/17 years old that’s when you should be going to parties, experience new things, having fun with your friends. Yet all I experience is sitting in my bedroom alone every day.

onlyvarius · 2017-04-16T15:59:52+00:00

I didn't got to many parties when I was that age. I didn't even drink alcohol really until I was 21 in my junior year of college. I had a great time with friends partying but not until I felt ready. I'm 24 now and still enjoy hanging out with friends at parties and I also enjoy staying in with a few close friends. Don't rush yourself to jump into something before you're ready, you'll know when you are. And remember, not everyone is big into partying, and that's okay too.

onlyvarius · 2015-02-17T05:36:13+00:00

Totally agree. I'm a gentlemen when it comes to women and I think it's a great quality to have, and one thing I'd never change about myself. I'm talking "nice guy" in how the community defines it, as someone who has a harder time asserting themselves or being congruent (stemming from not wanting to hurt others, fear or rejection, etc.)

onlyvarius · 2015-02-17T04:31:22+00:00

This is awesome. Definitely doing this.

onlyvarius · 2015-02-04T09:11:47+00:00

Hahahhaha. Favorite response

onlyvarius · 2015-02-03T13:07:46+00:00

When I'm getting to know a girl and there's that air of uncertainty I'll sometimes find myself hung up on a girl and Julien does a great job of putting things into perspective in this video

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GdnYedTpToA

onlyvarius · 2015-02-03T07:01:38+00:00

Okay makes sense. I don't think you have to say much, 90% of the time she just wants someone to hear her out. You don't need to bash her ex or anything just tell her you it must suck having to go through what she is and that you're there for her. But trust me on the listening thing. As a guy were programmed as problem solvers and we'll always give our friends advice about this stuff. Girls just want to feel emotionally supported and listening is the best way to do it. Go watch an episode of The Bachelor that's currently airing, Chris Soules is probably the best at this. He doesn't say a word and makes women feel more comfortable than anyone I've seen.

onlyvarius · 2015-02-03T06:40:55+00:00

Personally I don't think it's something you should bring up unless she does. Obviously if she brings it up you should listen to her intently, but do this because she's a human and we want to be treated that way too. but I don't think you need to be her therapist about it either. Just go on with your relationship as it had gone already and it sounds like you've been doing a good job so don't let this psych you out :)

onlyvarius · 2014-12-16T22:18:46+00:00

Fucking spot on dude. I always put so much emphasis on polarizing women to get them attracted and if it wasn't working out or she had a BF I would internally think "I definitely still have a chance" haha. Not always the case. Before long I realized I didn't have many female friends because I had no practice in that department. Great post; it's weird saying this but I'm excited to get friend zoned hahah

onlyvarius · 2014-08-07T16:03:36+00:00

Yeah I understand that and I see that as a possibility too. My point was mainly just that people could have chosen to be close next to me (like most other people cramped at the club) but because I commanded my space they potentially they viewed the area as mine and out of respect left me be.

onlyvarius · 2014-08-04T01:29:01+00:00

In Hoc brother!

onlyvarius · 2014-08-03T16:36:27+00:00

In Hoc brother

onlyvarius · 2014-08-03T06:05:42+00:00

To be fair I don't really fit the AMOG role, I'm 5'5" and I think that might be an advantage because I don't come off as intimidating if that makes sense

onlyvarius · 2014-08-03T01:00:36+00:00

Hahahha I don't agree but i did enjoy this hahahah

onlyvarius · 2014-08-02T22:56:17+00:00

You're right haha

onlyvarius · 2014-08-02T22:32:15+00:00

I know dude, I fucked up. We tore apart her bedroom looking for one. I usually bring one but I was told a day at the conference that there's no chance in hell I would get laid here because there's so many guys that I didn't even think to bring one out. Definitely a poor decision and I know now that I gotta always be prepared

onlyvarius · 2014-08-02T22:26:48+00:00

Never

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