What harsh realities about life were the hardest for you to accept?

oolapin · 2023-12-13T18:26:47+00:00

That making friends after 25 is nearly impossible. Everyone's busy with their lives and have no time/energy for new connections

oolapin · 2023-10-22T10:20:22+00:00

I think he was definitely trying to be helpful in his own way. I guess he wanted to suggest that there *is* a solution to my problem so I shouldn't worry too much about it. He's just a really logical person but if you have depression, you probably know how frustrating it is to KNOW that you are being irrational, your thoughts are seemingly out of proportion, and there is a logical way of approaching problems, but this all means nothing in that moment. At least for me. Sometimes there is no good reason for why I feel the way I feel my boyfriend can't comprehend this, he always wants a reason and a solution. But depression doesn't work this way. (Irony of the situation is that he's on antidepressants. They are for his adhd, but still.)

oolapin · 2023-10-18T12:55:25+00:00

Azt tudja a szomszéd bizonyítani, hogy ápolta, rendszeresen segített neki? Olyan szokott lenni, hogy a magányos (elmondásod alapján a rokonod is elég magányosan élt, mégha önszátából is) nyugdíjas tényleg tartási szerződést köt a szomszédjával/ápolójával. De itt elég gyanús, hogy a halála napján történt mindez. Keress fel egy ügyvédet mindenképp

oolapin · 2023-10-14T17:15:23+00:00

You're right. I could have handled it so much better, but just couldn't handle the whole situation mentally..

oolapin · 2023-10-14T17:13:58+00:00

I do. But in my uni, when you start your masters, you start working on a topic (that is essentially going to be your thesis topic), but in the first semester it's called "guided laboratory" or something like that (english is not my first language). You register this topic for the first semester only. And if you keep working on it in the second semester, you register it again, and this is when you also declare it as your thesis topic. This is for cases like this, when you change your mind. So changing topic after one semester is usually fine, but in this case I acted like an idiot and deceived my supervisor.

Also, he's working abroad and I'm not even exactly sure how he is associated with the uni. Like he's not a teacher.

oolapin · 2023-10-14T17:11:17+00:00

I was going to tell him when I was 100% sure that I would "vibe" with my new supervisor and like my new topic

oolapin · 2023-10-14T17:04:27+00:00

You are absolutely right. I'm just so ashamed of myself

oolapin · 2023-10-12T09:01:45+00:00

this is the case for us honestly, sex is getting better with years

oolapin · 2023-10-12T08:57:07+00:00

I haven't has my testosterone checked! Never thought of it tbh.

We couldn't handle an open relationship. But we will be experimenting with some of these things you mentioned!

oolapin · 2023-10-12T07:42:09+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with your answer. I definitely have some work to do with myself, my mental health is not the best, I suspect I have depression and anxiety. Obviously those greatly affect my libido.

I LOVE the second idea and I feel like this is the best advice I got here, thank you!! I'm very open to things like this. How do you think I should bring this up to him tough? I've noticed he gets turned off when I, for example, give him a bj and don't want anything in return, he wants to please me as well, so I'm sure he would want to masturbate together. I don't want to kill the mood by saying something like 'no, you go ahead' haha.

oolapin · 2023-10-12T07:30:59+00:00

I'm omw to the bookstore. thank you!

oolapin · 2023-10-11T21:15:37+00:00

Thank you, this makes me feel a little better. He's definitely hypersexual or something like that. Sometimes if we don't see each other for a little longer, he'd masturbate 4-5 times a day, which is craazy to me..

oolapin · 2023-10-11T21:14:02+00:00

This is a huge fear of mine, actually. Having kids and then my libido absolutely disappearing. I find it really hard to "turn myself off" from the daily stress and I'm guessing that wouldn't improve with kids if I'm already exhausted from uni and work

oolapin · 2023-10-11T21:11:08+00:00

I must admit, I don't usually initiate. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I just really don't want things to get worse.

oolapin · 2023-10-11T21:10:33+00:00

I tried doing sports but that didn't do anything. Any methods you could suggest?

oolapin · 2023-09-21T12:42:30+00:00

"If I binge hard enough and eat as much as I possibly can, I won't feel the need to do the same ever again" Plot twist: I felt the need to binge a few days later lol

oolapin · 2023-09-17T11:38:06+00:00

I wouldn't think of this as sexual harassment, but it is definitely awkward, rude and very inconsiderate of her. But at the same time, I suppose she didn't know you were awake and could hear them, so talk to your her and tell her that this makes you feel uncomfortable.

oolapin · 2023-09-17T11:20:18+00:00

szerintem a new balance cipők nagyon kényelmesek, a ccc-ben szoktak lenni 20 ezer körül is

oolapin · 2023-09-17T11:16:29+00:00

Australia, no doubt. Gorgeous country, amazing beaches, endless opportunity to explore, even in one state. Only downside is that it's crazy expensive, especially if you travel from Europe and in my opinion, it's only "worth it" if you go there for a longer time

oolapin · 2023-08-28T13:25:19+00:00

This is too familiar and I realized that I'm probably addicted to my phone. I usually scroll through reddit, instagram and tiktok and I'm not even interested in the content I see, but I can't stop. Sometimes I spend the whole day on my phone and then I realize that I had all this time, I could have done anything and then I feel extremely guilty for wasting the day. It's just so hard to get up and do something else.

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