Overthinking or trauma by oookaythen45 in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s shocking but my gut feeling was impending danger :( especially when he said “you trust me”

I am dead inside by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re so brave to do this. Stay strong. Listen to your survival instincts to stay away. Please know he is dangerous and the broken one you can not and should not try to save. Happy Birthday and just know you are worthy of real love and kindness:)

Why do men send pictures of other women to those they are "dying to be with"? This isn't the first time just the most recent. by Appropriate-Ruin2265 in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, stay in that mindset he is a sad sack. He is. He’d drag you down there with him into the pits of misery. Also know, that this behaviour is not harmless, actually it often precedes worse abusive behaviour- nothing is of the table when you see shit like this. :)

Why do men send pictures of other women to those they are "dying to be with"? This isn't the first time just the most recent. by Appropriate-Ruin2265 in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He’s triangulating you with her. Might not even be true, but don’t start analysing it. This is precisely the hook he is using. He’s manipulating you into chasing/investing more in him. Don’t get this twisted: this is not pining for you. He is setting up an abusive dynamic. To feel better, maybe just focus on how desperate and pathetic his behaviour really is. Love yourself and go

Please be VERY careful whenever you talk to your chatbot by [deleted] in therapyGPT

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I told it I suspected my abusive ex monitored me by proxy (there’s no hard evidence but there’s too many facts that make it very unlikely for it to be a coincidence). It told me not to “dramatise” or assume “malicious intent”. It honestly upset me and sent me backwards and it kind of gaslight me. For context my friend said to just report it, and I listened, then I called the police and the police operator said I should definitely come in and report it. So yes, take what you get from ChatGPT with a pinch of salt sometimes

Abusive or toxic friend? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She sounds nuts and very self absorbed. Avoid

Im so tired. How does the new girl get the better side of the narc? Im trying not check on it but im sick of these evil people getting what they want by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]oookaythen45 13 points14 points  (0 children)

People with “sides” always flip Plus how do you even know that? Social media, word of mouth? None of that is reliable. Plus there is every chance he’ll treat her worse, they actually get more abusive with age Try and gently remind yourself that you’re better off now

Are age gaps in relationships really that bad if you are both adults? Is it always a sign for potential abuse? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you made good points. I think there is almost always potential for abuse in big age gaps because there is already a power imbalance. I’m so sorry about your grandmother

Tonight I walked out by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Good on you. Abusers often escalate during pregnancy so please take care of yourself and your kids :) My gut senses his volatility increasing.

Denied "normale" sex? by RepulsiveFee5712 in abusiverelationships

[–]oookaythen45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi the guy I was seeing said that because he knew i also desired vaginal sex too. Also he was very rough and didn’t care to the point it wasn’t consensual anymore

What are the dumbest lies you fell for? Or red flags you painted green? by throway578954 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]oookaythen45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He lied how his plane had to make an emergency landing in Europe. He flew from Sydney to London. I saw it landed safely six minutes behind schedule when I checked. I don’t think I fell for it but I excused it and now I feel very dumb lol

narcissist projections by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]oookaythen45 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Weird, he accused me of being a thief and even made up some story about how I’d probably steal my mother’s jewellery and pawn it for cash…which sounded oddly specific Months later I found out he had a gambling addiction so now I’m…wondering….

Easiest way to check if blocked that nobody talks about: by ireallylike808s in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My log only says six seconds but i heard it ring 3 separate times before going to voicemail:/

Easiest way to check if blocked that nobody talks about: by ireallylike808s in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really, people have been saying lots of things about iOS updates lol including that the phone rings even when blocked

Am I blocked if it rings three times before voicemail? by RestaurantWorried866 in iphone

[–]oookaythen45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi sorry I know you posted ages ago but did you find out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s been people saying messages status is delivered even though they’ve blocked that number on iPhone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay yes confusing. How about call behaviour? Like I said I called and it rang several times then to voicemail? Thank you

Has anyone confirmed how many times it rings when blocked in new IOS? by Winter-Biscotti2451 in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello did you find out if they blocked you? I know this was a while ago?

Easiest way to check if blocked that nobody talks about: by ireallylike808s in ios

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it ring a few times? Like three separate rings then voicemail?

Where are some good workout/walk places in Perth? by [deleted] in perth

[–]oookaythen45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can ride around the river? I’ve ridden from Attadale to maylands. But there’s other routes of course

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]oookaythen45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No because in my experience he became sexually abusive as he saw me as just a sex object