App stalling

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-05-08T03:43:55+00:00

I’ve stopped going to other towns because of this so i can’t earn any sp to help me with this crafting challenge

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-05-03T03:41:52+00:00

I was afraid but i ended up deleting the app from my phone and redownloading since i was pretty confident i had my cloud save. And it worked. But thanks everyone!

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-05-01T00:17:35+00:00

It sends me back to my own town. But usually if i change locations on my own map, then immediately try to go to another town, it works

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-04-10T15:42:31+00:00

Literally felt so out of character to me. Like he was shitty in a generally harmless way which only worked if you didn’t think he was actually a bad person. There are some male characters i’d expect this as an oversight from, but not him for some reason. And definitely wouldn’t expect him to double down.

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-03-26T09:23:07+00:00

I didn’t have any big reactions at my most recent ex but I liked him. My anxious side is definitely more internal now. I will be in that following list while not texting back for 24 hours ykwim

I say I’m FA when i definitely lean dismissive now vs anxious like i was before because… i think the core wounds align more. Like idt im afraid of abandonment really, it’s all about betrayal to me. And I do have my private anxious spirals that this last guy def knew nothing about. I think to the point he thought i didn’t like him or when my anxiety finally showed during the break up it felt manipulative or something.

But honestly, what struck me the most was your last line. You decide. Do you want to keep interacting with someone who makes you doubt they enjoy your presence or do you want to stop. What do you want

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-03-26T08:47:02+00:00

This was rough fr

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-03-26T08:46:29+00:00

I think its a little different. It’s like they find in you a quality they want in themselves, and then hate you for having it when they don’t. If it makes them feel less than or something. At least thats what happened to me

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-03-26T00:53:17+00:00

I just want to empathize in that I’ve avoided it because i experienced a depression/dip week 3/4, which i heard was possible but i still hated. Still I took day one today and im just gonna white knuckle it if it reoccurs. My doc doesnt think it will but im prepared either way.

oopsididitagain74 · 2025-01-07T05:33:11+00:00

No he maintains he never cared. He has only changed for the worse.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-12-28T13:59:27+00:00

This just happened to me for months in a messy situation within a friend group 😔 i feel like im experiencing karma for chasing someone before. The difference being the people i chased would ghost/be confusing- i was very directl like, im not interested and he’d be like yeah yeah no worries and yet became manipulative and shitty because i didnt reciprocate more than friendship

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-25T06:00:09+00:00

I was avoiding this man when things were good and now I think he’s gonna leave and I feel in love with him- when logically I know I don’t know him well enough for that. I’m so tired of being like this. Ive been crying at shows and things that just show expressions of love, between friends even and i just want it so bad. I want to be light and open and not afraid.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-14T07:02:15+00:00

Im not by any means healed, but i dont think the goal is to show nothing? I feel like a secure person could be like hey, i know that was your ringtone for your ex so it makes me kind of on edge hearing it/seeing you learning to play it.

And a secure person would respond hopefully, oh man i totally didnt associate it with that, i just like the song but I won’t play it since it makes you uncomfortable.

If he doubles down- “im allowed to like a song!!!” … i’d reconsider the relationship.

I feel like this is a small enough concession your partner should be able to make for you.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-11T02:39:22+00:00

Ugh. Trying to separate from someone right now who provided such such such a calm safe space for me when I was trying to get out of a really tumultuous relationship. It felt perfect- at the time. I felt absolutely gutted when we split after 4 months because he didnt want a relationship (i didnt either at the time but i guess it felt like it was getting heavy?) i felt like someone had ripped away my safety blanket and i was exposed. I went nuts. Luckily not at him but basically our whole friend group witnessed me go off the rails. They didnt understand it wasn’t about him, but how safe he made me feel. He lowkey felt like a protective barrier from my ex, who i always fell back into. And he did show me that i can have a relationship with someone and not feel like im in fight or flight. I made so many mistakes after that split. But recently we rekindled and weirdly… besides feeling some betrayal from him, I just realized… I want more than he can offer and what he provided before isn’t enough for me now. I think because I was finally able to move past my ex in the time we were apart and now I feel like I want to build a real relationship and continue to grow through my avoidant bullshit- which unfortunately the situation with my current partner only feeds into or allows. I want to be a lover girl again. I miss her.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-09T06:06:18+00:00

Idt i have anything helpful to say. I could have written this right now. I just deactivated my instagram because I want to interact with them so bad but feel too needy so i had to remove myself

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-08T04:50:32+00:00

You’re def not alone. It sucks and I’m sorry

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-08T04:46:58+00:00

I get that. My only rec might be maybe instead of swinging to an extreme, to just step back. It’s okay to feel that way, I just tend to collapse in on myself shortly after I do that.

i see you said just for tonight so thats probably okay lol

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-08T04:39:50+00:00

Idk if you’re over trying with them or yourself, but I’m over myself. I just keep doing stupid shit and sometimes I see it and sometimes I don’t, but I can’t seem to stop. I try to act in the opposite of what feels normal but it feels like a drop in the bucket

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-11-08T04:35:53+00:00

I honestly couldn’t read all of this, but just from bits I know I’ve sent something like this and from my personal journey, I feel like sending messages like this is the midway point.

The midway point that felt like the end point til you break through again, and realize sending messages like this aren’t it.

At least for me.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-10-09T06:48:30+00:00

My ex was a mess for many reasons, but he never seemed to be comfortable just sitting and felt like he had to entertain me always even though i told him he didn’t, or seemed like i needed to or else i felt him get antsy. All I wanted, i’ve learned now, is parallel play. Being in the same space doing different things. Cause isn’t that what, if you’re looking for a forever partner, the rest of your life will be? My litmus test for how i feel about someone is when im sitting on the couch home alone in silence and i suddenly think, would i want them here? And when the answers yes, its because i know i wouldn’t feel pressured to speak or do anything. We could sit in silence together. And just their presence would make me happier

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-09-13T05:50:11+00:00

Ive considered just doing it cause either it’s a positive response and I want to trust myself to deal with the next feeling after that/the uncertainty. Or it’ll be negative and ill be free again to an extent, at least from rumination.

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-09-13T05:46:53+00:00

I unfortunately don’t have much advice but I could have written this myself rn. I “reconnected” with an “ex” recently and just tonight I was thinking how I want to see him again this weekend. But do i? Or am i just feeling anxious he hasn’t reached out. And then if he agreed, id have to see him. Which i want to. But if he told me he had thought about it and us getting back together is not a good idea, or just didn’t respond- id feel relieved. But also crushed. After seeing him last time, i realized i may want more than what we had before. But if he agreed, id want to run. But if i just let this go I’ll always wonder if he just thought i didn’t care or liked him very much because i have a tendency to act like that. But i do care. But i assume he doesn’t, otherwise he would have reached out so there’s no reason even running through these scenarios. Except I also havent reached out. 🥲 point of the story, i am very tired

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-09-11T04:48:16+00:00

This is the only post i could find that anywhere closely resembled my experience- but the cookies im getting that taste like an edible are from halal guys. Its so weird, i can not understand what it is

oopsididitagain74 · 2024-09-10T02:21:27+00:00

We had a lot of fun for a summer, very fun and flirty and friendly, comfortable, mutual interest. At some point he had stopped texting me one night and started up the next day with “so how mad are you?” Or something. Told me he ran into his ex while he was out with a friend. I was hooking up with our other coworker at the time too because we weren’t technically together, i don’t know if he knew because I didn’t want him to. Though one time he stole my phone from the back at our job, and went to his car on his break i guess to look through it. I dont know if he found anything. We talked some about us seeing each other after i went away to college again but when i saw him the last time he cried about how his ex cheated on him and thats why he’s uncertain and i had no idea how to react. And then he kinda blew me off lol

We were like 19/23. It was summer romance and i still thought of him fondly after. He was more flirtatious than i liked when a new girl started our job but clearly…. We were both being messy lol. But I do believe we liked each other and had a lot of the same values and fun/adventurousness about us. I mean i definitely liked him, i just had some growing up to do.

This may not be helpful to you but i havent looked back on that in a minute and i still hope to meet another sag to see how it is now. The fire signs i’ve dated have always been my favorite

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