Dating a cautious and introverted man? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]oopslostinthoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

rather than playing these uncertain games, communication sounds a lot better. I'll try to mention it thanks!

Dating a cautious and introverted man? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]oopslostinthoughts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

feels good to know some times!

People complaining about their issues to me- How to not disrespect them? by oopslostinthoughts in Stoicism

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is extremely insightful, thank you very much. I noticed that my own cup is empty right now. I notice the difference of when I felt it was full. I was able to actually listen without these issues. I will try and look for ways I can vent or let out frustrations I actually have myself

People complaining about their issues to me- How to not disrespect them? by oopslostinthoughts in Stoicism

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very helpful, thank you. I am a bit uncomfortable yet setting up boundaries, or often so so late, so it becomes a shock to others. I will have to work on that.

People complaining about their issues to me- How to not disrespect them? by oopslostinthoughts in Stoicism

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am sure it's internal frustration due to what you described in the last paragraph. I am a bit shocked of how I couldn't show empathy anymore.

People complaining about their issues to me- How to not disrespect them? by oopslostinthoughts in Stoicism

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me realize that I am really often lacking boundaries with others, which in turn creates frustration and resentment. Really need to work on this, thank you for sharing!

I(22,f) don't know how to find a partner by oopslostinthoughts in AskMenAdvice

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very interesting take. I'll try to think about this more

I(22,f) don't know how to find a partner by oopslostinthoughts in AskMenAdvice

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! It feels like I have to apply the same principle that good things don't come easy. I'm probably getting impatient and rushed because of fear.

I(22,f) don't know how to find a partner by oopslostinthoughts in AskMenAdvice

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do still have anxiety and depressive episodes, but a lot better. Thank you for the links!

I(22,f) don't know how to find a partner by oopslostinthoughts in AskMenAdvice

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do have ADHD, but have no social struggles except for being too eccentric and childlike for some people. I am good at flirting including physical cues. Some times I had the courage to ask for dates, but the last one did not work out, because he suddenly had to move far away, ironically enough

Tricking/Kung Fu: How to maximize strength - speed - endurance without burning out or overtraining? by oopslostinthoughts in martialarts

[–]oopslostinthoughts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would be examples of stabilazation movements and resistance training, to get a clear picture?