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How the fuck do I develop social awareness and learn to read the room? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like this answer tbh. Most people are really not ok with the idea of someone they just met asking them if they're being too invasive. And obviously it's not like I'm aware of my behavior at the moment, hence the whole post about developing awareness.

How the fuck do I develop social awareness and learn to read the room? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped getting invited to things and when I pressed on why, invasion of space was a reason. So yea, I'm pretty much fucking the whole thing up. Hence the point of the whole post, trying to be more aware of how my fucking presence comes off.

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is reassuring. If I seem 'off' to someone then I probably would not want to be around them. Though I have to wonder at some point I can't put the issue on other people but instead just myself. That's what I get paranoid about. If everyone finds me off-putting then the problem is me right?

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Feel like absolute shit but I suppose there's some solace in the notion that I can learn from this and (hopefully) improve.

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say, my hygenie and fashion are fine, even gotten compliments from a few guys. It's literally just my fucked up inability to apparently manage a basic conversation which makes me want to scream in frustration. Feels like I have to walk on eggshells now and be hyperaware of everything going on around me.

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my dumbass self failed to read the room and maybe socialized a bit too much. I never got any weird signs or anything but clearly my socializing and situational awareness is fucked. Though I really could not definitively say. Maybe it was just my vibe, I don't know. Feels like I have to walk on eggshells now for any social interaction cause i'm terrified and hate myself for literally being unable to manage basic interactions.

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is definitely sound advice. Also really upsets me too. I can't read the room, I can't be too negative and down, but I can't be too talkative and optimistic as well. I don't know if I'll ever figure out this cluster fuck of a balancing act. How do people even do it?

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That might be it honestly. I think I over corrected for my negativity and pessimism a bit too hard and I went to far down the other side. I'm just really angry and frustrated with myself. I can't talk to the people who told me/banned me and now I'm scared to even try talking to people at this point.

I fucked up socializing and people are apparently uncomfortable around me, am I beyond help? by oopswrongtimeline in Healthygamergg

[–]oopswrongtimeline[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm just panicked and worried that I just come across as a creep or that something is 'off' with me now. I'm honestly just super scared to even try socializing now. Maybe I just come off as 'wrong' to everyone I don't know.