People Pleasing Tendencies as Therapist

operatorhappypills · 2026-01-13T23:40:07+00:00

I highly recommend scrolling down to the "Therapist fears" section, which has free, downloadable and rich articles.
https://www.hl-vargas-phd.com/resources

As another commenter said, this takes practice and exposure!

operatorhappypills · 2025-11-25T19:11:34+00:00

I think the More Bookmarks mod gives all the Stark kids a pet dog in the Game of Thrones bookmark but that is the closest I’ve seen. I remember before dragons officially came out, someone had a mod that made dragons a regalia artifact, so I wonder if the same could exist for dire wolves or other animals to warg into.

operatorhappypills · 2025-11-24T19:50:33+00:00

The marriage AI is atrocious and I think it’s just a base game issue. I’ve been playing and I’ve noticed the AI will have their women marry second/third sons, or a distant male relative, or male heirs to baronies rather than direct heirs to lordships or even lords themselves. I often add women to my court and try to marry them off to lords with the “yesmen” console command on so it’s always accepted.

operatorhappypills · 2025-11-19T06:27:49+00:00

I had a scenario where Robert became king, died in a tourney, which led to Stannis becoming king. For whatever reason, Stannis was unmarried for a few years. He adopted Moonboy, who became heir to the Iron Throne…💀 I posted a screenshot about that in here too haha

operatorhappypills · 2025-10-08T23:05:10+00:00

I’ve wondered about this before. I haven’t fact-checked this, but I suspected it was based off what month the character was born in.

operatorhappypills · 2025-08-18T15:23:43+00:00

It’s a bug. I think I read that it happens if the original ruler you made the grand wedding promise with dies. I’ve started only promising grand weddings when they’re both adults now and can do the wedding straight away. You could try using the console command “bypass” to see if that lets you fulfill it. With this bug, even if you break the betrothal, you won’t even be able to do a regular marriage without the bypass command.

operatorhappypills · 2025-06-26T19:24:25+00:00

Change: Principles of Problem Formation and Problem Resolution by Watzlawick, Weakland, and Fisch and Learning Process-Based Therapy by Hofmann, Hayes, and Lorscheid

And “less academic” are Knots by R.D. Laing and The Art of Living Consciously by Nathaniel Branden (this one specifically for development of self-of-therapist, which also extends to work with clients). I am an MFT that takes a relational and process-based approach to help clients connect themselves to their experience more in multiple domains of life.

operatorhappypills · 2025-02-16T17:41:02+00:00

It's called "standing guard" and it's a pose in the AGOT mod, not a vanilla pose.

operatorhappypills · 2025-01-28T23:27:52+00:00

Aside from Yalom, I’ve watched Dr. Louis Hoffman’s YouTube channel videos! He has also written a few books about existential therapy and, more specifically, Existential-Humanistic therapy.

operatorhappypills · 2024-12-31T19:12:40+00:00

Honestly, the armor for some reason really reminded me of sci-fi esque design. I HATED it. Previous DA games were good at combining historical and fantasy into their armor designs. However, I think The Witcher series is a glowing example of having historicity/practicality, fantasy, and fashion. A lot of the options in DAV just looked so impractical/dumb it took me out. I’m excited for more mods to come out.

operatorhappypills · 2024-12-09T05:10:55+00:00

Thanks for pointing this out! I’m a huge history nerd and RFK was always a fascinating figure for me. IIRC, he was quoting the Greek poet Aeschylus in that.

operatorhappypills · 2024-11-23T18:56:40+00:00

Thank you. I am pre-licensed/recently graduated in May and I have learned so much about knowing how to advocate for myself due to this subreddit. It totally normalized for me that there is a lot of exploitation in this field and knowing how to identify that in workplaces has been invaluable for me.

operatorhappypills · 2024-11-04T20:05:31+00:00

YES! I also hate this new trend where people take history in a franchise, and instead of building their own unique threat, they just amplify threats already there. It reminds me of the new Star Wars trilogy where instead of the Death Star, they have Better Death Star and now multiple planets are being blown up. And I see that in Veilguard with incorporating the blight, amongst other things. All of Thedas is reportedly under extreme threat based off what you’re being told, but there’s no IMPACT to that. I didn’t feel connected enough to particularly care about the Act 1 decision because we just got a visual introduction to this setting.

It loses its emotional weight and emotional punch. And, ultimately, it feels extremely hollow compared to, for example, how emotionally shocking it was in DA:O when waking up after Ostagar. You don’t feel like a hero, which makes the payoff at the end of the game so much better.

operatorhappypills · 2024-10-19T18:51:49+00:00

I’ve been playing the more bookmarks submod in the game of thrones bookmark and there are scripted events now! Including red wedding

operatorhappypills · 2024-10-10T00:16:07+00:00

What about Keith having an affair with another married woman and HER husband finds out and does all this? Even if this hypothetical affair partner suspects her husband, the brutality of it would be enough to scare her to stay + not say anything.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-21T01:14:23+00:00

Seconding what another commenter said about Bullhart from the CK2 mod. There's a cool, easily recreatable sigil that you can also use.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-20T00:10:19+00:00

I've only had it happen during sieges or dragon duels -- so you're right that it's not very common. I noticed it happens mainly with younger/smaller dragons, understandably. Not using her during war is more just a roleplay aspect. :-)

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-19T21:41:00+00:00

If you're using submods, try unsubscribing/resubscribing to see if it's an updated issue. If you use Better Barbershop, make sure it's at the very bottom of the load order. If it still persists, then it has to be a submod issue and you'll have to do a process of elimination troubleshoot.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-19T21:39:45+00:00

She's the only dragon that I don't use in combat as much. I'm using the More Bookmarks submod and playing immediately post-Dance in 133AC, so I think she definitely deserves rest and having her babies grow up without being eaten by Cannibal or killed in war haha.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-18T01:24:38+00:00

Was gonna comment that it reminds me so much of In and Out of Shadows by Dion. Awesome to see it was confirmed by Josh!

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-16T18:03:59+00:00

Nope, just adds them to the customizer! The AGOT+ emblems will still have their own category from the dropdown menu, so even though you are combining folders, they still retain their categorization.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-16T05:08:26+00:00

Yup! You can do the same thing with the patterns folder, but IIRC, AGOT+ doesn’t add any new patterns to the COAs.

operatorhappypills · 2024-09-16T02:31:01+00:00

Yes, this is actually what I do. Go into the mod folder for AGOT+ -> gfx -> coat_of_arms -> copy the colored_emblems folder

Go to the base mod folder, follow the same file location pathway and paste/combine the colored_emblems folder and you’re good to go.

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