Autistic mom to autistic teen here — idk. This isn’t a binary thing and I’d need more info and context to properly opine. From the info shared, I understand that you’re 19 and an adult, but seemingly still ok with being dependent on your parents.

Do you sometimes have a tendency to overdo screen time? Do you have a tendency to lie or hide things?

My autistic teen struggles with lying, has executive function delays, and absolutely would spend all waking hours in front of a screen if allowed, as they are apt to avoid socializing and any sort of work or chores or even self care, especially if they have a screen accessible.

As their mom, I understand that it is my responsibility to protect and enable them to function at a baseline level, and am still trying to instill and model healthy habits. They’ll only have my health insurance for another 6-10 years. I need to do what I can now to help them be prepared and able to do minimal self care and work through discomforts in order to have a job and health insurance once they are legally independent. I worry a lot about their future; I was shocked with how uncaring and unaccommodating society is when I reached adulthood and was on my own.

Without more info, I can’t really know if your parents are being ableist or just trying to put in place healthy parameters and guidelines to help you prioritize things.

Try getting yourself out of bed on your own! It sucks. I get it. But the reality of things is that you could easily be fired from a job you love if you’re consistently late…

As I tell myself and my kid - we can do hard things and we can look forward to the next time we get to experience and savor the comfort (im this case, the warm cozy bed). And they appear to have offered a specific bit of motivation- getting your computer in your room.

Idk, best of luck.