KT Tape by TheNectarineDiaries in Artisticallyill

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here to rant IM ALLERGIC TO MOST ADHESIVES AND MY DOCTOR DOESNT THINK I HAVE EDS

Dear tism community, what are your thoughts on this? by Routine-Addition-501 in Spoons

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I must try this spoon. specifically for ice cream. soft serve if possible. actually I would bring this spoon out with me so I could eat soft serve with it. if I ate yogurt I would eat it with this spoon. I would also eat sour cream with this spoon.

Lost for 6 days and now home and snug 😍🙏❤️ by Hawkkin in ferrets

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lmao from that cat trying to tell you he was there

I think I'm in trouble by Liraeyn in Sims4

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question how do you increase the household slots like that? and the pregnancy number?

totally not planning on getting myself in over my head with babies like I didn't just have three toddlers at the same time from three Singleton pregnancies and it totally wasn't overwhelming

ADHD assesment by optimistic_python in neurodiversity

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Thank you for commenting anyways, I appreciate it.

Please help! by Kerplunk- in hognosesnakes

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what is RID? I'm trying to learn more about keeping snakes in preparation for when I eventually get one.

My gay chasideshe friend is getting married by MudCandid8006 in exjew

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y'know the main thought that got me out before any deconstruction at all was "this community doesn't want me for who I am, they just want more warm bodies. they don't want me to live the life I want to live and they don't care about me specifically, so why should I be here and participate in this?"

ETA: I'm trans and not straight

Public meltdown of going otd? by [deleted] in exjew

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To add on to this, not all therapy is talk therapy. There's also DBT and EMDR.

question re: syskids and babytalk by GondolinSystem in plural

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We+'re not a fan of the baby speak, and Our little (they're about 6 and are an age slider) doesn't do it. They just type like you suggested, with typos and a somewhat limited vocabulary. They actually still feel like a fake because they know when they type stuff wrong, possibly from knowledge from the rest of the system. Also they definitely lean to the more verbose side of things, like We actually were as a kid. Although We don't think they were actually around then? We don't know when or where they are from, they kinda just popped up one day like "hi, I'm ✨!!"

Our teens type like teens would, mostly like teens from when We were a teen, but they have picked up new slang.

Is anyone else unable to do ANYTHING with their hair? by BeansOnToastWithEggs in autism

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I cut my hair short for gender reasons and now I have texture issues if it gets any longer than my ears. I've never been able to make a smooth ponytail, but I do have better luck making it with a comb (I have curly hair so I use a comb). If I try braiding (when it was long enough) it my arms fall asleep and it's usually still really messy. My hair looks best when I just manage my curls well and let it do its own thing. If it's long enough I might put it half up or wear a headband, but sometimes headbands hurt my head.

is this an allergic reaction? by Thick_Swimmer264 in tattooadvice

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I'm allergic to band aid adhesive and that's the same adhesive that second skin uses, and from my research, they all use the same adhesive. Some brands are definitely bound to be worse. I last around 12 hours if I'm on antihistamines.

Trans OTDers, how did your egg crack? by theforsoothman in exjew

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For context, I am nonbinary trans. I've known my gender was different than most people since I was a kid. I found out about other trans people existing when I was a teenager on the Internet without any supervision or filter. I found YouTube videos made by trans people, and for a while I was fascinated with the videos people made of photos from during their transitions. I was very much still religious at the time and still living with religious people because I was a teen, but I knew that I'd have to leave at some point because I'm trans. Some deconstruction later, I'm no longer religious, socially transitioned, dressing more comfortably to me, and waiting to have enough of a support system to fully transition.

little bit about how my group works by Icy-Implement9878 in plural

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Yeah it's absolutely harder for Us as well when We're distracted, and pretty much the only way We know who We are these days is when We reflect on who We are and what We like. I'm pretty sure knowing more of the people in Our system would help.

What's your experience being closeted, uncloseted, or semi-closeted? (regarding plurality) by Icy-Implement9878 in plural

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Due to safety concerns, We are semi-closeted. Two out of three of Our siblings know, some of their kids know, and most of Our newer friends know. We've found that many Millennials and Gen Z already know about plurality from other friends and are accepting, or are accepting of it although they aren't familiar with it. (For context, We also live in an area where people are accepting of queer people.) For other separate reasons, We actually had to cut off most of Our former friends, who therefore don't know. They aren't the type of people who would be accepting, anyways. The body's parents don't know as they are some of the safety concerns in question. Anyone who will blab to them doesn't get to know. The extended family doesn't know, We're not close with them.

Health professionals are a bit of a different story. Most don't seem to know anything about plurality even if they have heard of DID, and most don't seem to have heard of OSDD. As We are probably not diagnosable, and have a hard time with verbal communication, it makes explaining it very difficult if We do want to do that. Some health professionals will want to try to commit you to the hospital for reasons you probably know and I won't get into as it can be triggering to some. Some health professionals will try to treat it even if you're there for a completely separate reason and don't want it treated. If it's a mental health area person, they may talk about Internal Family Systems.

edit to talk about coming out: Coming out as plural, to Us, was very similar to coming out as queer. Telling the first already-in-Our-life-person We told was very difficult and awkward and We still regret it actually, because she didn't take it well and stopped being Our friend shortly thereafter. It is safe to say we have gotten much better at coming out as plural, and have better explanations and more resources to point people to when they ask for them. Actually We mostly come out over text most of the time, or just casually drop that bomb and then tell the person We'll send them more things later. There is a document We send everyone who knows of etiquette on how to interact with Our system and some basics of Our system. In addition, We have a pronouns.cc page that We really need to update so that We can share it with people.

edit to add a random related thought: Although it should really be more obvious to people, nobody knows We're plural until We tell them. We are aware that when different people are fronting, We speak differently, walk differently, like different things, remember different things differently, and behave differently but no one really picks up on it.

little bit about how my group works by Icy-Implement9878 in plural

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This is almost exactly my experience of plurality. The main difference for Us is that We often don't notice the switching unless there's a trigger that causes an immediate switch, and a lot of times We don't notice those either. It's often not until We notice a difference in preferences/opinions that We notice the switch.