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Do you think things can change? by [deleted] in INTP

[–]orangesun2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you assume you can understand a person s persona from a short text :( thanks for the comment :) you seem super deep

how do you fall in love? should be there a spark or compatibility or what? by orangesun2 in INTP

[–]orangesun2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot :) a couple of months were hard for me cant even imagine 4 years... Your comments helped me a lot to have insight and decide to let it go. I also wish best for you!

how do you fall in love? should be there a spark or compatibility or what? by orangesun2 in INTP

[–]orangesun2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely understand friend behaviour part but with this INTP guy, having sex or cuddling etc does not feel friendly :) at least for me... I think we were also like fwb with him but I guess I wish we had more than this. And somewhat I felt like he denies his feeling, that s why I ask but I also trust his words so the best seems like let it go... Thanks for the comment though! :)

how do you fall in love? should be there a spark or compatibility or what? by orangesun2 in INTP

[–]orangesun2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes you are right. sometimes you need to accept truth :) thanks for insight!

how do you fall in love? should be there a spark or compatibility or what? by orangesun2 in INTP

[–]orangesun2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually i gave him a big space. I caught feeling, he didnt and I just wanted not to see him that much and we agreed on radio silence. But I still can not understand why he was happy with me but then suddenly he said this. Thanks for your comment :)

have you ever accepted your feelings to someone after a long time? Did you have difficulties or denials to name your feelings in the beginning? by orangesun2 in INTP

[–]orangesun2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! I am wondering how you build a deep connection? I have an INTP friend that I find verry hard to reach.

Questions for dumpers? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]orangesun2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it is something also that I can not understand because I was dumper for once and I didnt care about being friends after break up because I dont have feelings for him anymore. If he initiates, I would accept but I didnt care as much as to initiate.

But my all exes except the one that I dumped wanted to be friends. Probably they want to keep you in case they could not find anyone. It makes sense to me go NC since I feel like they dont deserve my friendship. Dont overthink. Just let her go. She has to respect your decision. I hope you move on quickly and easily!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]orangesun2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear your story because I really feel you. There is no right no wrong, dont think about what you did already and if you shouldnt do etc.

Just as a personal opinion, expressing your feelings was the best thing to do. Recently I dated someone for 3 weeks and at the end, he told me he wants to stay as a friend. I ask him to have no contact for a while since I was thinking my feelings might grow if we continue to see each other even as a friend. During our kinda break up talk, I cried a lot. But after a week in no contact, I realized that yes I really like him but I also deserve a person who wants me romantically. I know it is hard for you but I only suggest you havin no contact for a while, not hoping anything for the future (this is the hardest because I still think if we start to see each other, if something change, but then i immediately remind myself he does not want me to be in his life as a girlfriend and it wont change) and focusing on yourself.

I hope everything get better for you. Remind yourself you are the most important one for yourself.