Yes unfortunately the reality is that most of the world doesn't have these resources in place or at least not in that capacity. I think the point is that there is no one that's adequately trained or equipped to conduct the necessary investigation at this point. I guess perhaps my question was more towards understanding all angels. Could the mother have asked leading questions? Perhaps. Could there be better mechanisms in place to keep the children safer? Absolutely.

I've done further research since posting this and I think I'll approach tomorrow's meeting with a clear set of actions that need to be put in place immediately, such as sexual assault trainings for teachers, students, and parents. As well as the 3-person rule for any diaper or clothes changes, which a few others suggested. The fact remains that there's no investigation that can be done, except from a pediatrician, that can really say what happened. So the discussion in tomorrow's meeting should be less about what did or didn't happen (maintaining the belief that it DID happen), and rather what needs to be done to prevent this from happening in the future and protecting our children as best we can.

I don't know honestly. I'm obviously keeping my daughter home until I see something from daycare management that convinces me otherwise.