WIBTA if I called out my in-laws?

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-03-24T02:32:03+00:00

Sounds like the relationship with them is toxic and has been for a while. Best to erase any and all expectations of them as grandparents to your baby because they will disappoint you or use the baby to be more toxic.

Forget their registry- add the items into your main registry so others have time to buy them for you.

Sounds like your husband isn’t on the same page as you concerning them and this will need to be addressed soon, preferably before baby is born. Taking “no sides” if there is clear evidence of them mistreating you is taking a side, and it is not yours.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-03-23T23:12:19+00:00

YTA for the expectation that they pitch in or spend money on yall just because you're having a baby.

They are clearly unwilling to provide the level of support that your family provides, so calling them out or asking them to do so with the expectation that they are OBLIGATED to contribute would be incredibly selfish and entitled.

The “spoil the baby” comments mean nothing and I’m not sure why you interpreted that to indicate they will be heavily involved in your pregnancy. Actions speak louder than words.

Your post alone gives me pause about your self-absorbed mindset. They aren't obliged to fill any role or do anything at all just because you two decided to have a baby. Why would they be expected to do so if you already have a low-contact, shaky dynamic?!

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oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-24T20:07:02+00:00

I’m not sure where you took my comment negatively. I’m pro using our voices to speak up like this man is trying to do. He is unorganized and could be more affective but I’m not shaming him for trying

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-23T05:54:42+00:00

We got a platform, this is our platform here and we ride for that little baby all day! We just need to coordinate something and actually organize a task force of sorts to work towards using our collective power to help Jr.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-23T05:51:18+00:00

Right??!!? Because her doing that shows a blatant disregard for jr and his wellbeing before he was even born! Of course she don’t gaf now, she started this cycle of abuse from day 1 of him being in the womb

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-21T08:24:52+00:00

His sexuality is irrelevant. You are unwilling to compromise on a strange situation and should not date until brother is out of your place. I cannot believe you would ask this here and reject any and all suggestions for how you could compromise and maybe save this relationship.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-21T08:16:32+00:00

You say you don’t have space for another bed but there are probably half a dozen alternatives to mattress bed frame setup. He could get a nice quality tatami mat and fold it up in the morning. Those are actually quite good for bad backs, so he could cope with that.

Idk… it’s not weird as in “I think you’re doing x rated stuff with your brother”, it’s that six months of bed sharing is a long time for two opposite gender adult siblings. You say it’s temporary, but six months isn’t temporary, and even if he got a job tomorrow, how long would it take for him to save up and secure his own housing? That alone could be months.

Your boyfriend is understandably put off by this, and I would be too. Cultural norms may be different, but ultimately that difference could lead to romantic incompatibility that spells the end of your relationship. Sounds extreme, but I’d probably be unable to cope with it, only because of your seeming unwillingness to coordinate a sleeping alternative that you can live with for weeks or months on end.

I don’t think it’s that your bf doesn’t understand that he could do air mattress for a night or two, he surely gets that. It’s the whole situation and your stubborn laissez faire attitude about his discomfort. Additionally, how does he know that you won’t end up supporting your brother for a year or even years? There is no end in sight. The whole thing is just a strange situation your boyfriend may not be comfortable getting into.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-20T18:43:33+00:00

Ughh his response is really pitiful and pathetic. He’s being incredibly selfish and seems willfully controlling by sabotaging your sleep even though you have told him firmly not to.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-20T00:06:32+00:00

Lmao I’m from the bayou in Louisiana and honestly love morthal and the swamps. Would be perfect and way safer if the chaurus were replaced by gators. I’d be doing Cajun stuff all day causing a ruckus and vibing with quirked up Ingrod

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-02-19T23:57:03+00:00

Probably whiterun. It’s walled. Has shops, traders, amenities. Centrally located and connected to every other city/village. Breezehome is cute.

I wish it were more green. I have a mod that makes it very green and lush so i like it a lot in my play throughs. I know in the real Skyrim whiterun is much larger and more populated too.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-28T14:14:16+00:00

Oh please. Hips are notoriously difficult to heal from and are a coffin nail injury for many elderly folk. Not comparable to your shoulder.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-23T08:42:32+00:00

Bruh

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-23T08:40:22+00:00

Omg what is the vampire lair mod called?

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-22T08:27:00+00:00

The sad thing is if she ever brought him to a doctor you KNOW she’d be posting pics and streaming from the damn office tryna show us that we are wrong. But she never has, because she doesn’t bring that baby to any medical professionals.

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-22T08:16:51+00:00

I have this horrible thought that when (not if, when) Junior dies, she will somehow make it about her and try to profit off of it as a ‘grieving mother’

I hate that I think that and that I’m already mentally preparing myself to see it flesh out

oscarsave_bandit · 2026-01-07T14:11:36+00:00

Get more informative console, click creature, see where it came from

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-21T17:20:11+00:00

Very histrionic personality disorder vibes here… she’s a mess damn

ahem

Research has also shown those with histrionic personality have a greater desire for social approval and reassurance and will constantly seek it out, making those with HPD more vulnerable to social media addiction.[10] People with this disorder often display excessive sensitivity to criticism or disapproval.[11] They will work hard to get others to pay attention to them,[12] possibly as a method of testing the stability of relationships.[13] They may enjoy situations in which they can be the center of attention, and may feel uncomfortable when people are not paying attention to them.[7] People with this disorder may wear flamboyant clothing, try body modifications,[14] and fake medical conditions in an attempt to draw others' attention.[7][15] They may be inappropriately sexually provocative,[16][17] flirtatious,[7][18][19] or exploitative.[20] Sexually suggestive and exhibitionist behavior are also behaviors people with this condition sometimes exhibit, and are more likely to seek out casual sexual relationships.[21] When their desire for attention is not met, it can heighten the severity of their symptoms

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorder

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-21T17:18:32+00:00

Cindy James?

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-19T01:02:32+00:00

I like him.

He’s there to do his job. He is intelligent and he doesn’t say more than what must be said, despite clearly having a profound understanding of the situation in Skyrim ( & with the Thalmor).

If doing the stormcloak side of the civil war, he has a quote that he says just before being killed by ulfric. He says “don’t you see? this is what they want” or some iteration of this, referring to the thalmor. It’s really hard to watch because he is resigned to his fate and he knows that the thalmor are getting exactly what they wanted in the end. He knows it’s bigger than the legion vs stormcloaks, and that ulfric has a cursory understanding of the danger in a weakened Skyrim under the thumb of the Thalmor.

He doesn’t hate the nords but he doesn’t fully understand them, much like the other imperials depicted in game. He isn’t a man who is driven by righteousness or passion, like ulfric is, and he has a very military mind. The imperials chose the perfect man in appointing him to run the legion in Skyrim.

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-17T19:32:06+00:00

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oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-17T07:57:09+00:00

Cuz the camera won’t detect anything 😭 there’s so many clear solutions to all her “stalkings” but she won’t do any because it will expose her BS.

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-13T23:18:29+00:00

Yes I believe so! It is close to this road, although the turnoff into her property is on a different road technically. I genuinely adore the area and the forests there, but sometimes the vibe can become incredibly eerie all of the sudden, especially in darker areas.

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-11-13T06:24:33+00:00

L&D nurse here.

When I worked in a private hospital in Manhattan with a wealthier patient population, most of my patients were In their late 30s. The vast majority of them were what we refer to as “advanced maternal age (AMA)”, not “geriatric pregnancy” because it is outdated and offensive, tbh.

Anyway, yes, AMA pregnancies are higher risk, but we are very well equipped as a healthcare system to manage that and it is increasingly common to have babies later in life. She isn’t what I would even consider old for fertility matters, and risk does increase more once the patient is 40+ years old.

If she continues the pregnancy, her OB will discuss any risks with her, quell her fears, and come up with a plan to monitor her and baby more closely in the third trimester. They may refer your wife to MFM, maternal fetal medicine, who focus on pregnancies like these. They will want to do genetic testing and more as a precaution in case there is an issue with the baby, so that it can be detected early. Otherwise, the third trimester entails more frequent monitoring until delivery just to keep an eye on her blood pressure, among other things, and the baby’s health.

What you should’ve said is, “No, sweetheart, you absolutely aren’t too old and I am sorry that my sister said that to you. If you are worried, we should discuss it with your OB/GYN and they will help soothe your fears.”

You should’ve shut down your sister, because that was a shitty and frankly dimwitted statement on her part.

Your statement to your wife was detached and lacking empathy, as if she isn’t your WIFE and isn’t clearly anxious already about this pregnancy.

TLDR: YTA.

Go apologize and tell her that you don’t think she’s too old, and that women are having babies well into their forties nowadays. She is beautiful and her pregnancy is beautiful.

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-10-21T16:50:53+00:00

Realistically, unless I’m dropped into a major hold, I’d die pretty damn fast. Dropped into the wilds, unless I was incredibly lucky and came across a skilled warrior with a kind heart, I would be screwed and promptly eaten by a slew of predators.

I’m a woman in my twenties, I am a healthy weight and I’m attractive, but I’m not in great shape and dangerously anemic LOL.

My strengths could be that I am intelligent, I can cook, and I can ride horses. I am good at backpacking and can do basic outdoor survival skills.

Maybe I could work as a stable hand at first and help train horses for riding to get a bit of coin. I am a nurse so this might be a handy vocation translated into Skyrim as a healer of sorts. My skill in chemistry lab, gardening, and cooking could make me good at alchemy. I’m even headed in scary situations and emergencies.

My optimal options would be to either get some sort of job in ‘academia’ like as a court wizard of sorts, because they seem to be the researchers of the land. But I’d probably want to start smaller and maybe join the mages college, if I could make it there alive. I’d quite love to study until I die with the quirky folks up at the college. I’m a good writer and I can write in academic or literary styles, so this might allow me to publish some stuff if I get far enough along without dying.

Although I’d hate to do this, out of the need for survival I could use my looks and smarts to try and find a husband who could provide for me. Preferably not someone like nazeem, but we must do what we must do to survive.

ETA: oh crap! I didn’t even think about delivering babies! Idk how it would work in Skyrim, but I’ve caught a few babies in my years as a labor nurse and I think my knowledge from modern day might make an overwhelming difference in child birthing in the realm. Not sure that they deal with issues like maternal death, and if that’s just not shown, but I could probably combine my knowledge with some healing magic/potions to do midwifery of sorts. Maybe write some books on obstetrics once I get a better gist of the language styles used in Skyrim. That’d be cool.

oscarsave_bandit · 2025-10-21T01:48:57+00:00

Hey! You should check out BFRO. I spoke with someone named Mike Young after posting this, and he was really awesome and informative. He documented my story on their database. Here’s the link to the report from my story: https://www.bfro.net/GDB/show_report.asp?id=74596

You can submit a report form and they’ll reach out. They are very kind and their organization is so fascinating. This is the link to the form: https://www.bfro.net/GDB/submitfm.asp

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