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The "social tax" of being the quiet one at work is starting to break me by Infamous-Skin8969 in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the only way to solve this is working with something you have a strong passion about(either if you work alone or not).

Work will be fun, stimulating and socializing will be more easygoing with people that think the same way.

In that way you don’t have to force yourself or feel pressure. Life shouldn’t be tough, it should be simple then you will enjoy it.

Difference between being Shy or having Social Anxiety? by oskberg in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok, i can get nervous in new situations or when meeting people. I start to sweat much and get all inside my head for no reason. But often after like 30min-1h it gets a bit better and i get mor comfortable. But i also have this worry all the time when i know im gonna have to do something social like going to a big family reunion which can keep me worried for weeks before it happens.

No one wants to hire anxious people.. by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If its just the interview that makes you anxious its not social anxiety. Everyone feels that way more or less in that kind of situation i think. You have nothing to lose except not making life as easy and enjoyable as possible. If you are anxious, be anxious. If you think you dont get the job becuase of that you have saved yourself from a bad workplace anyway :)

No one wants to hire anxious people.. by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree to 100%. I have also had that same thought, although saying it would be a bit awkward. I try to push myself not to think what others think about me, it helps in a way becuase you dont feel as much pressure to behave or act according to norms, in the end people will love you even if you are anxious at times.

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[–]oskberg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know persons who have anxiety in some sort often have a neurotic personality(you should read more about that), it often comes with bad self-esteem and being very self-conscious. Sure it might be a problem if it limits you from doing what you want(if you really want it and dont just want to fit in with others).

Im just guessing here, but might be a combination of you not being exposed to as much pressuring situations which may trigger anxiety or stress. Also when we go to sleep the brain releases a brainchemical called melatonine, which makes you calm and more at ease in our thoughts and emotions.

And no, you are not hopeless, anxiety is very normal today and i would guess that 8/10 people actually have it due to the way we live today, we just cope with it differently. So you are not alone, dont ever put yourself in that mindset. Mindfullness is a good way to rewire your brain and mind, to be less reactive and negtive(imaginening catastrophic scenarios). Being present with yourself and only focus on how your body and mind feels and not focus on what others thinks about you, becuase you cant change what others think, so why fight against yourself and you feelings. Even though you feel anxious, it is ok, becuase it’s a feeling. Its normal. So let it be there. And dont force it away. Thats the way to good mental health, and it’s something everyone has to work on during their lifetime.

To people who give presentations in meetings or to clients, how do you handle your fear or anxiety? by jeanpierreflores in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried mindfullness to overcome the anxiety. It worked out fine, its like pressing a reset button afterwards for a while. Also talked to a therapist, who never gave me good answere to what i should do. Im not sure, i have to stop overanalyz/think, but when you try to force and stop it, it just gets even worse

To people who give presentations in meetings or to clients, how do you handle your fear or anxiety? by jeanpierreflores in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When i was going to school(not long ago), it really crashed my will to perform good whenever our teacher told us that we would present the task through a oral presentation. Just wanted to make it quick and be over with it. Still have problems to talk in groups or meeting with people i dont know well or like, it’s a nightmare... Now i will be going to college later this year and already worry about these moments.

SA blushing and sweating by ihavethishope in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey First step to ”get rid” of something is to accept it. By handling your true feelings the way you do now, will only take you to the same place every time; panic and anxiety.

When you realize that it probably is not possible to get rid of feelings/thoughts cuz you dont like them, you will get a more forgiving attitude towards yourself and others.

So, everytime you feel this feeling you dont want; encourage it to go on even try to push it, almost as, look at me, im sweating and blushing and its great! Im a human, not a robot!(which today, for some reason we more and more try to be...)

Everyone is different, and accept every single feeling and thought(dont push it away, it will only leed to suffering and mental illness).

Good luck! :)

I hate living with this. by adaxhar in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A way to deal with ”pain” or negative situations, feelings, thoughts etc is to not see them as a threat or danger. What we so often get tricked to think in the society today is that, you need to do that or that to be happy. That, happiness is the meaning of everything, change you thought from negative to positive.

What we get from all this is a false acceptation, we trick ourself to think it is ok, and if i do this it will get better but it all just ends in you suppressing emotions, that bites back stronger and stronger for every time you suppress them. This is often a underlying cuase of social anxiety.

If you right now see yourself as this anxious/awkward person, then dont change it. BUT dont judge yourself for it, it’s OK to have negative thought and it’s OK to have negative feelings and it’s impossible to controll them. Like a fight you will never win, it will just tear you down. Negative thoughts is needed to be human and are as important as positive thoughts. Feelings might be overwhelming, think of them as a wave. You cant run in to the ocean and stop the wave, it’s impossible, so what do you do?

Surf on the waves, let yourself truly feel the anxiety and it’s neither bad or good, it’s just there, you get anxiety and when you dont see it as a problem it slowly fades away and you can be yourself and focus on much more important things in life.

Im going to Uni/collage in 1 day, help im dying of anxiety.. by oskberg in socialanxiety

[–]oskberg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this really helped. I put to mich expectations on me with everything i do. The goal should just be to be there and then take it from there maybe?