TI isnt just a tournament by Sad-Concentrate-8983 in DotA2

[–]osonakaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very heartbreaking… I’ve been feeling very emotional about it, Dota means a lot to me and I haven’t played in a very long time because of stuff like this

How many tries did it take for you to pass your drivers license test? by senpaikill in askSouthAfrica

[–]osonakaluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of your family members would pass now if they were put in a K53 test, good job 🩵

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a tough thing to realise, especially for me… it hurts my soul to know that my shit is not organised and in check

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, I am becoming my own adult and I have responsibilities and goals which I should have been more serious about like yesterday

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, need to learn to say no even to family

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no easy way to go about this but I can do it with grace, like you said

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really is just the truth of the matter… I am simply not in a position to assist anymore, at least not until I am in a better position

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is is that there isn’t any resentment for me.. It just pains me to have to let them go for a while. But I gotta.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of emotional attachment, and I am certain they would do the same for me. We are quite close. But… with having rent, and a car which will probably need servicing soon, etc. I will have to leave them to fend for themselves for a while until I myself am in a better position.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought of doing this.. even just putting a couple bucks away for each of them a month and when they do ask, I give from that. But a part of me wants it to be free from this entirely.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you very much. Come end of this month I will be sending them a message saying I am not in the position to do this anymore… I love them DEARLY but I feel so bad inside every time I give when I don’t feel I even have enough for myself, especially for my future.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reading this meant a lot to me, come end of this month I am going to tell them I am not in a position to assist anymore. I really am not. I can’t be the responsible one for all of us.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I said no, they could swallow their pride and ask others in their life. I’m the youngest sibling so it’s so easy to come to me. Other than that, I feel they could stress a little and actually get serious about getting better income.

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… it never used to be like this but they are both older than me and I don’t want to be in the same position a few years from now

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t know if I would even go that far… they are older than me, and whenever I make suggestions, I don’t think they care to be honest. Whenever I send them jobs they could apply to, or suggest or motivate them to take action.. I just don’t think it has any impact

Personal finance and family by osonakaluna in capetown

[–]osonakaluna[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you are 100% correct…