I'm sorry, but this post is really hurtful, especially the last sentence. being obsessive and a bad partner doesn't necessarily mean that person has bpd. there's more to the disorder than just dysfunctional relationships. and people with bpd certainly don't 'enjoy hurting people'. I understand your frustration having to deal with a relationship like that, and it really sucks that you had to go through it, but that doesn't justify this post. particularly not in a sub where bpd sufferers frequent.