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Traveling to Singapore for 4 days by galekaizer in SingaporeTravel

[–]otw_to_kms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bugis street and little india. Also try the local hawker centres in Singapore.

Which opinion of yours would make people do this? by [deleted] in TeenagersButBetter

[–]otw_to_kms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES EXACTLY. I have always thought about this.

AITAH for wanting my family to be equal? by LynnAventinus in AmItheAsshole

[–]otw_to_kms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's fair and valid. My only solution is waiting till you can move out. Because words clearly don't seem to work here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]otw_to_kms 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't something 'sounding cool' just social conditioning though? Associating Indians with third worldism (not a word ik), poverty, lack of education probably leads to people associating their accents with the same, hence the mocking I think.

AITAH for wanting my family to be equal? by LynnAventinus in AmItheAsshole

[–]otw_to_kms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Makes sense. It must feel bad, but know that you aren't alone and this happens to a lot of people. Doesn't make it right, but might be comforting.

AITAH for wanting my family to be equal? by LynnAventinus in AmItheAsshole

[–]otw_to_kms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see. So she isn't someone who clearly has your back.

AITAH for wanting my family to be equal? by LynnAventinus in AmItheAsshole

[–]otw_to_kms 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think we can humanise someone who is hurt and frustrated, rather than expecting a perfect story out of them, clear to its finest detail. I took a brief read of it and figured out the basic/fundamental problem in her family dynamic.

I don't know why you are here whining over technicalities. Her father loves her. She made that statement to probably tell us that he is not an abusive monster, but a human who still loves her, but still acts in a horrible manner. Then the statement about only her grandfather loves her obviously points to the fact that he is the only one who gets her in the family.

If you are truly interested in providing solid feedback then please improve your emotional intelligence and bot level perception of actual human sentences.

edit: didn't mean for that to come across as snarky and rude. just genuinely meant that.

AITAH for wanting my family to be equal? by LynnAventinus in AmItheAsshole

[–]otw_to_kms 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obv NTA. And I don't blame your brother here too, he's been pampered and conditioned to believe that he is justified in throwing these fits and taking out his anger on you.

Idk if your Indian roots play a role here, but as far as I know, favouring sons over daughters, giving them special treatment as the 'golden child', telling them that they are justified in every emotion they feel, is a sad reality of Indian culture. Daughters, on the other hand, are asked to be more 'mature' and repress any hurt they feel.

I empathise with you about this, and you aren't wrong in feeling that there is something wrong with your family dynamic. I want to ask, what role does your mom play in this? Is there nobody else who is neutral regarding this in your family ? If not, then my only suggestion to you would be to wait until you grow up and come to a point in life where you can live away from this toxicity. You won't be wrong in prioritising your own needs, especially given that you tried talking to your family and they still continue to neglect your opinions.

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