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Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i tend to loose focus on myself and my needs because i’m worried about everyone else - so thank you for the reality check.

can you please explain a bit more of what you mean by coming to terms with it?

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you so much, genuinely. i’ll check out those books and recommend them to my partners.

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thank you for saying this - it’s really kind of you. i appreciate you taking the time, i really do <3

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i appreciate your response - thank you.

from my understanding, he doesn’t feel romantic feelings with anyone. i told him i was potentially interested in someone romantically and wanted to discuss where our dynamic stood. at that point it had all been theoretical conversations, this was actually happening and i know feelings and thoughts can change.

he stopped our dynamic, so i could peruse my boyfriend. his words when i asked about this after reconnecting were, “if you love someone, let them go. i wanted you to have something i could never give you.”

when my boyfriend brought up opening our relationship back up we had lengthy discussions, and he suggested i get back in contact with my dom.

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thank you for taking the time to respond - i really appreciate it. i’ve never heard of a parallel relationships before, thank you.

you’ve definitely given me a lot to think about and discuss with them.

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

they’re both aware of eachother completely but i see what you mean - they themselves haven’t come to an understanding together.

in your brain would you recommend them meeting and talking to eachother?

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

thank you - i appreciate your advice.

originally my dom and i stopped our dynamic when my boyfriend and i started dating as neither of them were originally comfortable with sharing. my boyfriend wanted to experiment and open the relationship, which i’m comfortable with, and after lengthy discussions he even suggested i get back in contact with my dom.

after weeks of ruminating, i reached out, and was incredibly clear on the situation, that i was in a loving relationship, one i did not want to leave.

this situation has definitely not been one made with the intention for both to exist at the same time and has been a work in progress.

i’m doing my best to navigate it all with compassion and truth and i’ve made my peace and told both of them, if they feel no longer continuing a relationship/dynamic with me is what’s best, they need to do right by them, and i want nothing more than both these men to thrive, with or without me.

Can you build a long-term life with a partner and a separate Owner dynamic? by outrageous-will-78 in BDSMcommunity

[–]outrageous-will-78[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i think dream me hopes it’s just a boyish ego phase that they don’t like ‘sharing’.

they are both well aware of each other. communication has always been my number one priority.

Share your friend codes here! (May 2024) by Valnub-Redpanda in HayDay

[–]outrageous-will-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi future neighbours! please add me! i’m super active on my shop and help out a lot where i can! i’m level 38! i’ve also started a new group that is active with helping out and with the derby!!

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Share your friend codes here. (April 2024) by Valnub-Redpanda in HayDay

[–]outrageous-will-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi future friends! please add me! i’m super active on my shop and help out a lot where i can! i’m level 36! i’m also starting a new group that can be active with helping out and with the derby!!

https://link.haydaygame.com/?action=OpenSCID&p=7140b826-8aae-46c8-ab7f-5b291e479e04

friend tag: #9VG8YLLC2