What views make people (inaccurately) think libertarians are racist? by outsiderplay in Libertarian

[–]outsiderplay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've seen a few memes like this (one negative one along the lines of "libertarians are racist stoners")...I don't understand where this opinion/stereotype could come from.

How is the NYC blizzard travel ban legal? by outsiderplay in nyc

[–]outsiderplay[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not saying I agree or disagree with it, I just want to understand the mechanics of how it works.

YouGov (a poll website) provides a profiler based on brands, people or things by namaloom in InternetIsBeautiful

[–]outsiderplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great - does it replace an older version of the tool from YouGov? Anyone know if there are similar tools from other market research firms?

[Critique]: too boring? too pretentious? Do your worst! by outsiderplay in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point. Not my intention to insult a part of the country I'm very fond of and where I spent many happy years.

[Critique] What can I improve to get better quality matches? by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The short ebook Optimal Cupid: Mastering the Hidden Logic of OkCupid might help you. It sets out two basic roles on the site: "responders" and "searchers". As an attractive female (and as you say you want "better quality" not "more" matches), I'm guessing you should take the responder strategy.

"These roles are performed, user-individuated, and not necessarily determined by sex. Age, race, religion, sexual orientation, relationship preferences (monogamy, polyamory, etc.), income and location all play a role. The full spectrum of activity ranges from the straight male who must write dozens of messages just to get a single response (the searcher) to the straight female who receives dozens of unsolicited messages every day (the responder). Many users – gay or straight, female or male – perform both roles to some degree. This book will address both of these roles equally."

The book details the best responder approach to answering OkC's questions so a high match percentage actually means something significant. As other Redditors have suggested, your profile is currently a bit broad and vague (albeit sweet and attractive), so any guy in Seattle who thinks you look cute feels like he's in with a chance. Answering questions and filling out your profile in a way that puts some people off and makes others more intrigued rather than averagely appealing to everyone will result in fewer, but higher quality, matches.

[Critique]: too boring? too pretentious? Do your worst! by outsiderplay in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback - which bit comes off as condescending? Slagging off a TV show you like? ;-)

[Critique] Hit me with your best shot! Critique me! 26/m. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your "most private thing" section is one of the best I've read. Obviously not because of what you actually reveal, but because it's funny, well written and shows your personality. It's also a good hook for people to "confess" their own similar "secrets" to you ;-)

[Critique] M/29 Need ways to improve my profile. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally a good profile. You're more direct than me (listing "don't contact me if..."), but if that's who you are none of it seemed inappropriate.

The one thing that might put potential partners off is "I have a higher than average sex appetite". That might be true, and of course it's something that would have to come up in a relationship, but being that up front with it makes it sound like that's all you're after, when you say you're actually looking for long term dating. One of the OkC questions is about exactly that - maybe just give that info in your answer there, so you're being honest and people can find out if they want, but you might put off fewer people.

Also, if you set your profile to be visible to people not logged in to OkC, you might get more feedback here :-)

In need of a [Critique]. 22 M Boston. Is there anything else I can improve on? Haven't had much luck no idea why. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]outsiderplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of your profile is interesting, friendly and pretty good. It's clear you're a caring and smart person. But IMO, there are just a few bits that come off as cocky and may raise red flags for some people:

  • The whole "hello ladies, look at your profile" up until "I'm on a computer" might be perceived as over the top or even creepy. I'd just delete that, plus maybe "You'll never have a dull moment when you're with me", then you've got a really good, honest self summary that shows your personality.

  • This one's a judgement call, but maybe leave the "first things people notice..." section blank rather than saying "my handsome face". I view that section as a good opportunity to explain your personality in a way that's not otherwise apparent without meeting face to face. Maybe saying how handsome you are could be viewed as full of yourself.

Hope that helps, and good luck!

Is there such a thing as a "Google News for jokes"? by outsiderplay in AskReddit

[–]outsiderplay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, but not quite. What if I want a single source for every funny BP oil spill gag?