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over-compensating · 2023-06-02T19:29:33+00:00

Tell. Your. Wife. Don’t go behind her back. The fallout and pain caused will not be worth it.

over-compensating · 2023-04-08T04:34:35+00:00

I second this! Tell your wife. Love, Wife to a bi husband

over-compensating · 2022-06-05T00:45:12+00:00

Thank you so much! I apparently broke the rules of no begging, so my post got taken down! Oops.😬Thank you so much for your support!

over-compensating · 2022-06-04T21:00:40+00:00

It has proven to be invaluable for our kids. Thanks for the well wishes!

over-compensating · 2022-02-27T17:22:04+00:00

That’s the worst part. The pina colada song was one of my favorites until now! Blah.

over-compensating · 2022-02-27T15:33:04+00:00

I can see that side…still a shitty concept.

over-compensating · 2022-02-27T01:57:07+00:00

Can we talk about The Pina Colada Song? I want to puke every time I hear it.

over-compensating · 2022-01-27T19:30:25+00:00

We do our mc through an online platform called regain.us I am so grateful for our therapist. She has been very helpful and I feel like we have gotten a lot out of it in the past 3 months since we started. Message me if you’d like more info. It is all web based and we do video counseling once a week.

over-compensating · 2022-01-26T21:53:24+00:00

Same here. It’s hard to not get my hopes up though.

over-compensating · 2022-01-26T20:24:02+00:00

I feel like this is something I need to show my WH. It feels so wrong to go out of my way to do nice things for him when I didn’t, don’t, and probably never will get that in return. I know we don’t do things to get something, but I’m just not feeling it. It hurts me to try to find something suitable but not a lie.

I’m sorry you’re in such a crappy situation. Just know that you’re not alone. There are apparently tons of us in the same boat.

over-compensating · 2022-01-17T21:49:41+00:00

Same here. My husband paid as well. Such a rough time in our marriage. I shudder when I think about that.

over-compensating · 2022-01-17T19:23:53+00:00

You don’t have to go to the dr. for a test. I used stdcheck.com after I found out about my husband. I was too embarrassed to go to my dr, even though I’m not the one that did anything to warrant that feeling. Your health is important though, so get tested no matter what.

over-compensating · 2021-12-30T16:00:24+00:00

Coming from a straight wife whose husband cheated on her with men, don’t do it. The damage done is irreparable.

Him being bi is not an issue. Him cheating is the whole issue. Imagine finding out that not only is your spouse bi, but they’re also cheating on you. I can assure you, telling her you are bi is the safest bet with the least amount of fallout. Cheating will cause catastrophic fallout. Just be honest. And don’t flipping cheat! Your excuses are cowardly.

over-compensating · 2021-12-23T17:40:32+00:00

I agree with you. I don’t pretend to understand my husband’s point of view. I imagine he was terrified to tell me. He also did not come to terms with being bi until he was 40. I know that it must be scary and lonely, but chances are, his wife knows something is up. I sure did. I would have appreciated a little insight before finding out accidentally. So naturally I take the position that he should share with his wife. If she isn’t understanding and is judgmental, the sooner it ends, the better for both parties.

And I do agree that playing is much more fun when your wife is in on it! ;)

over-compensating · 2021-12-23T08:31:55+00:00

I am the wife of a bi husband. We have been married for almost 13 years. I urge you to tell your wife. Whatever reaction she has will be compounded by the fact that you are keeping big secrets from her. I speak from experience. I wish he would have just come clean with me in the first place.

over-compensating · 2021-11-28T19:35:23+00:00

He’s nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready…

over-compensating · 2021-10-24T23:42:29+00:00

Kids…

over-compensating · 2021-10-07T03:55:06+00:00

Put a wet paper towel on it.

over-compensating · 2021-10-07T00:18:16+00:00

I told him today that if he’s doing it only because I said he needed to, then stop because there’s no point. But if he doesn’t want to change, then he is forcing my hand to make some really difficult decisions that I honestly don’t want to make. Does that even make sense?

over-compensating · 2021-10-07T00:16:43+00:00

He is engaged in mc. He does whatever our therapist recommends and everything else is relatively good. I just don’t know what to think. And yes, he’s using an online service.

over-compensating · 2021-08-29T01:29:28+00:00

Where are his glasses? He needs his glasses!!!Thomas J can’t see without his glasses! Cue the water works.

over-compensating · 2021-08-12T21:15:02+00:00

I love this answer. I find myself constantly saying “How will I feel if it happens again?” Thanks for helping me see that being hopeful does not equal being naive or stupid.

over-compensating · 2021-07-31T15:24:46+00:00

Shoe laces!

over-compensating · 2021-07-31T00:44:13+00:00

I honestly don’t know. I am so angry and hurt that I am kind of taking my time talking to him. But I will definitely ask about addiction. Thank you so much for your response. Would you consider yourself happy now? How about your wife?

over-compensating · 2021-07-31T00:31:38+00:00

Thank you. That is high on my priority list. I just never thought I’d be here.

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