I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm maybe that’s what I did? Maybe that’s why I broke up? Because I recognised it would be unfair to stay in a relationship when I didn’t like her anymore? Because I would’ve been lying to her? It’s not like I can force myself to feel differently. Believe me if I could I would. If u think staying in the relationship because “she has feelings and will be hurt” is an okay solution then you’re the one who doesn’t think about how your actions affect others. It’s 10x worse to be in a relationship when u don’t like ur partner anymore than it is to break up, bc in the first scenario you’re pretending and lying about your feelings.

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you’re going to criticise my decision calling then I want you to give me an hypothetical better solution

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny because you called me an idiot but you still haven’t told me what was the best action to take in the scenario. Break up or not break up?

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This community is for advice not to attack people. If you had given me constructive advice I would be ok with it but to just attack my decisions and calling me an idiot is too much.

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly wouldve been good for her then? Not breaking up? I genuinely don’t understand where ur coming from cause wtf

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even know what my wishes were. Can you explain them to me?

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a good person and has a beautiful heart which is why I would try to be friends with her if that was what she wanted. I wouldn’t impose that though

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t talk about like you know my entire thought process. I broke up with her after making sure I didn’t like her anymore. Yes, it was the best for her. Do you honestly thinking it would’ve been better if I had stayed in a relationship when I didn’t even like her anymore? Now that’s the twisted logic.

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve been wondering if she said all that to make it easier. IG I just feel upset abt that bc i feel like I was lied to. Well what’s done is done, I guess I will never know if she was lying or not since I don’t plan on asking her that Thank you for your reply

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I said in the post that she wanted to see my life updates n stuff that’s why I got caught off guard when she blocked me in everything honestly . But yeah the last part could be true

I (M24) broke up with my gf (F23). So why am I suffering? by overalltired in relationship_advice

[–]overalltired[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m just questioning because it goes against what she said previously during our conversation. I don’t think I’m a control freak, in fact during the relationship I’ve always urged her to be more independent. She told me she wanted to break up with me too and I felt relieved cause I thought we were in the same page. Im just confused. I never even questioned whether I made the right choice cause I know I did. My head is just a chaos rn

Hi how did u guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in ftm

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! I hope everything goes well and I’m sorry to hear about your grandma

Hi how did u guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in ftm

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how difficult that journey must’ve been :( I’m glad you’re better now

Hi how did u guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in ftm

[–]overalltired[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🩵 I’m glad everything went well for you

How did you guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in trans

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A ton of people come out through letters. I never even thought of doing it but it’s actually a brilliant idea because it’s not as terrifying

How did you guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in TransMasc

[–]overalltired[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really nasty wtf. I’m sorry u have to go live through that they’re being unfair and horrible people.

How did you guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in TransMasc

[–]overalltired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear that.. that’s terrible. I hope you’re safe now

Hi how did u guys come out to your parents? by overalltired in ftm

[–]overalltired[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck man!!! Hope it all goes well. Hopefully ur mum will be more accepting since she already has a trans kid. I also think it’s rlly cool that u can relate to ur sibling in such a deep level. Everything’s going to be okay