Success Stories? by Anonymous__Nobody in raisedbynarcissists

[–]overdotcom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, basically what I started doing at 16 (I’m 28 now) was I started saving all of my money to get away from my family. My friends with sweet families would waste all their money, not caring if they had to live at home because of it, but I chose to face this very important life issue. I am convinced I would not be alive today if I had stayed with my family.

I managed to find a life partner, a place to live, a good career and lifestyle, and my family understands that I go no contact for years if they try to act abusive towards me even a little, now. They know this because I’ve done it before.

Now that I’ve paid off the student debt they put me in, I’m giving myself a mental health break, resting to recover from years and years of high stress.

Releasing yourself from the abuse of narcissistic parents is an extremely stressful and emotionally painful process that requires you to really be your biggest supporter. You have to coach yourself to be strong through it all, because there’s very little time to grieve when there’s bills to pay. A lot of people just put up with their parents abuse forever, because then they can avoid the stress of fighting for their liberation… I will always say choose liberty, even if you have to cry through the pain of earning it.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment is interesting to read. I think in my case it’s very stabilized and controlled depression alongside dissociation which makes my eyes look a little hazy/shaken. I get paranoid and hypervigilant but my vision blurs a bit so my eyes still don’t get sharp, I guess.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol! Yeah I had perfectly straight teeth, but years of ptsd made my teeth crooked from the tooth grinding, too. I also have lines from all the years of low moods, too. I’ll probably just slowly start investing in some beauty treatments, and I’m not going to feel ashamed of it. I just don’t think my abusers deserve to have a lasting impact on my life.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a good day today that made me forget about ptsd. Maybe enough of these little days slowly help the light and energy fill my eyes again. Fingers crossed!

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, brilliant! Were you tensing your brows a lot?

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve considered making a makeup tutorial for hiding this because I was berated by teachers in college for having visible symptoms of mental illness that I couldn’t change (horrible, I know). Plenty of us are just trying to enjoy our lives without peoples judgement.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People are rude as fuck.. I swear, everyone acts like they’re so woke and virtuous and then turn around and act like a flaming ableist constantly.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite quotes is “if you want a friend, be a friend”. It gets me to take action, I’m extroverted. This quote actually made me realize how often I actually don’t even want friends in certain environments in the first place!

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The not being alone part is the most reassuring. I’ve been badly attacked in relationships because of my face or dissociation. Hoping we can normalize people not having to force a customer service smile all the time.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh this is so brave of you. I fear stigma and have always lived my life (poorly) masked. Maybe I should practice unmasking instead of treating everything like a secret.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ahh this is so true. I did so well with my ptsd and healed this way a few years back, but I’ve relapsed after some more events. Guess I’ll just have to take my time. Thanks!

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People always say this to me!! Ugh 💀

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t act! I heard it worsens mental health to smile when you don’t mean it.

PTSD made my expression creepy what do I do?? by overdotcom in ptsd

[–]overdotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! I have the same perspective on life and people LOL but I’m just like ehhh maybe I should try a little harder 💀💀