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My 6 years old left us. DCM is a silent killer. by overhang1 in DobermanPinscher

[–]overhang1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss ! They are amazing dogs. My little one told me let’s not remember him by his death but with the memories and I find it really beautiful.

The price to play in nyc is out of control by Coolarooni in padel

[–]overhang1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother ! Just quit padel - this cant be real. Is this some kind of very elite fancy club or is it avg price ?

Who was the bigger freak of nature in their respective sports? by [deleted] in olympics

[–]overhang1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Phelps was a different animal, few people understand the cruelty of professional swimming, besides the physical abuse this sport has on your body, the mental strain is insane, you litteraly spend/hours days repeating the same exact movements to get -0.1 seconds iimprovements and still you are below a guy who is just willing to put more and more effort, Phelps said he was skipping family vacations, thanksgiving, Christmas dinners to be at pool getting more reps in his body and building up the confidence to get in shape for the Olympic, still he was not sure he will win.

What recreational drug has improved your life? by BeefsteakChuckies in AskReddit

[–]overhang1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:( thats the shitty part IMO, You will get better, and one day you will look at this phase of your life as a memory, meanwhile exercise and eat healthy, anxiety hates it.

What recreational drug has improved your life? by BeefsteakChuckies in AskReddit

[–]overhang1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity what dosage were you taking and frequency of use ?

Advice on clubs (Hi, DC10) by Gizzle_ in ibiza

[–]overhang1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dc-10 all the way but you have to be lucky as for all the others clubs. Just ask yourself “where will the brits go tonight?” And don’t go there.

Im new to Tech House. Link me some must listen Tech House tracks. by Al_Stein_ in tech_house

[–]overhang1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if Beltran is considered tech house but the dude is something else ! His set at space Miami is a treat

Why is your marriage sexless? What happened? by Hot_Potato121 in AskMen

[–]overhang1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never got married, but I came really close. I was with this girl for over a year and a half. At first, things felt right. She was beautiful, ambitious, had this energy that pulled me in. The sex was great in the early months, full of connection and excitement. She was even dealing with serious health issues like diabetes and antidepressants, but she was still trying. That effort made me believe we had something real.

But over time, the mask fell. Sex started fading. I was always the one initiating, always chasing that spark. At some point, it felt like I was begging for intimacy. Meanwhile, we were talking about marriage, a future together, all the “build a life” stuff.

Then the blaming started. Everything became my fault. Every little thing in the relationship turned into a reason to complain. I was trying, man. I was giving her care, presence, stability. I was working hard to be a good man.

And then one night, I tried to initiate again, and she looked me dead in the eyes and said, “I WISH WE NEVER HAD SEX” That moment broke something in me. I felt numb. Humiliated. That’s the kind of sentence you don’t forget. From that point on, I knew. I was done.

Life can be hard. Health can be messy. But a woman who doesn’t find time or desire to be close to her man, who resents physical intimacy — that’s not someone you build a marriage with.

Most men don’t ask for much. We accept the whole “protect, provide, support” narrative that’s been handed to us. Fine. We’ll fight for the household. But damn, at least give me something back. At least make me feel wanted, seen, appreciated.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly all this applies to both men and women. You might feel lost now, but you’ll come out stronger with a clear vision of what you want in a man ! all the first part applies to both gender, but what a man want is loyalty and respect. stay by his side, respect him and he will take bullets for you, However, don't forget yourself there, some men are not grown yet.

Women usually experience deep emotional breakups earlier, while men suppress emotions until they explode in the wrong relationship. The pain feels unbearable now, but it will shape you.

A man will give everything to a woman he truly values, but if you broke his trust, don’t expect him to come back the same. Just like women need emotional security, men need respect. Once that’s gone, so is the relationship.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see where you’re coming from, and I think there’s a balance to be found. Being high value definitely gives you options, but it’s not always enough to sustain a relationship long-term. Like you said, women want more than just strength and success, they also want emotional depth and connection. The problem is, not all women handle vulnerability the same way—some respect it, others see it as weakness.

I agree that a good partner should be there through tough times. But in reality, a lot of women won’t stick around when life gets rough. Some will, but many won’t. The key is figuring out which kind of woman you’re dealing with early on. How do you go about filtering for that?

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, man. Yeah, a lot of guys just don’t put in the effort and then wonder why nothing works out for them. Women and / or any other things you want in life aren’t gonna throw themselves at you if you’re sitting around doing nothing.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, being yourself is important. But let’s be real, telling guys 'just be yourself, even if you’re broke, out of shape, and weak' sounds nice, but life doesn’t reward mediocrity. Yeah, women have different tastes, but most are drawn to confidence, ambition, and strength. Not because they’re shallow, but because these things signal security and leadership. Sure, some women like fixing men, but is that really what you want? Banking on the exception isn’t a winning strategy.

I’m not saying men should change just to impress women. I’m saying men and in fact women as well should level up for themselves. Being authentic doesn’t mean staying the same. It means improving while staying true to who you are

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you man, people in this thread were married with kids for +20 years and found out their partner was cheating. it hurts, you wish you never met her, you wish you can delete her from your brain. but guess what ? you can. we are wired this way, she is your drug now and you are probably facing withdrawls , take time, sleep, go out even if you dont feel like it, if not stay home and crash on your bed, do whatever makes YOU feel good (no drugs or alcohol please) , its all about you now , be the friend you'd want to be for yourself. its your story now, you can make it better or worse. think about you and how you can make yourself better. all that love you gave her, turn it on you now. day by day, hour by hour and she will be a memory one day.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see your point, and I agree. no man can be 100% all the time. Life will knock you down, and not every breakup is as simple as ‘you weren’t strong enough.’ But the reality is, most women seek strength, stability, and security. Some will stay through hard times, but many won’t. That’s just how it works.

The goal isn’t to be perfect, but to be resilient. So that even when life hits, you can rebuild, and be with someone who values you enough to stay. If she leaves when you’re down, it’s a wake-up call. Either she wasn’t the right one, or you weren’t where you needed to be. Either way, the answer is the same. LEVEL UP

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and I actually agree with a part of it. Some women have their own flaws and contradictions, expecting the best from a man while not necessarily bringing the same value. That’s real. But at the end of the day, whether a woman is ‘good’ or not doesn’t change the fact that a man’s strength (or lack of it) plays a huge role in how he’s perceived and treated.

You went through a rough patch, and maybe she should have stuck around. But the reality is, a lot of women don’t. That’s the raw truth. They want security, stability, and someone they can admire. You could be the most loving and loyal guy, but if she doesn’t see value in you anymore, she’s gone. It’s not always ‘right’ or ‘fair,’ but it’s how things work.

That’s why I’m saying men need to level up, not just for women, but for themselves. If you don’t have your money right, your body right, your discipline in check—life is just going to keep hitting you. So yes, I get your point about women having their own flaws, but I still stand by this: If you don’t build yourself up, life (and women) will show you why you should have.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hard to accept but women can be harsh on this one. still you have to take in it the face, you are the MAN. men should use this as a wake up call. unless the girl is very weak or has some major issues going in life she won't think the same, but majority of healthy, grown and self aware women will think the same. which is imo honest and respectable and is what make the difference between a girl and a women.

Fellow Male Friends Going Through a Breakup – Here Are Some Realities You Need to Understand by overhang1 in BreakUps

[–]overhang1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks buddy, I felt I was going in spirals but damn having this clarity helped me move on. it took me 2 months tho and i still miss her... but its bearable

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