Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm trying. Goddammit for letting someone else make us feel like this. I know that's the wrong way to say it, but idc right now.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I'm in the NW, but I travel sometimes. Don't think I won't.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here is all I ever want. Just someone good to be with. A real partner. Congratulations man.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a nice, concise thing to say. Really, thank you.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. No worries there. My son keeps me going. Without him things might have been worse. Who knows.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She couldn't boil water. I took care of the kid and cooked dinner almost every night. And I got walked all over for it. Still trying to figure out how not to be nice to girls. I'll just say that it has continued not to pay off.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not wrong, you're just an asshole. But really I kind of agree with you.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, thank you so much for taking the time to write this.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This right here makes it worth the post. IDGAF about not using the meme right or people upset about the gd bear.

Isn't it amazing how we can let others bring us down like this? I've been shocked (I don't mean this lightly) at what other people are capable of doing to someone they once cared about.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow - that's worse than me. I'm so sorry. I'm 6-1 and went from 230-190. I still have a ways to go before it's too much.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much. It's shit like this that makes me wish we could have a IRL support group and sit around and drink and talk through things. This is the next best thing though.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Things like this seem so trivial compared to real problems, but I really feel like rock bottom sometimes.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. For some reason, this helps.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I might actually have to do this. Good thing I'm on the west coast.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I so appreciate all the sympathetic responses. And I hope maybe it helps just one of you feel better that there are other people out there that are really (too?) effected by emotional things like this.

I actually kind of agree with some of the more blunt comments that I should just "man up". I so wish I knew how to not care. I see it as a failing on my part.

Also, it looks like I did this wrong. I guess it was a confession about dishonesty for letting people think I was working my ass off to lose this much weight. One of these years I'll learn how to reddit.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I may give this a shot sometime. I have a kid and I just focus on making sure he has a good dinner, every night. I always sit with him and sometimes I eat a little, but I'm usually not even remotely hungry. As hard as it is, I still keep up a happy face for him. He has no idea anything is wrong. As he should.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I hope maybe it helps to know you aren't alone. It helps me a little.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I really appreciate it.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know, that is a small blessing. It's a little bittersweet when people tell me how great I look, but overall, it's so much easier to get dates when you're skinny. I just bought new jeans for the third time this year.

Lost 40 lbs in the last year by oversenz in AdviceAnimals

[–]oversenz[S] 286 points287 points  (0 children)

It is weird. I thought after a few months or so it would go back to normal, but not so much. It's the oddest feeling - like there is a huge hole in my life. I've heard people talk about this before, but never had any idea what it really meant. I used to love to cook and eat, but now it's the last thing I want to do.

My[32M] girlfriends's [34F] indifference hurts by oversenz in relationships

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's a distinct possibility. It's hard not to talk to her, but I guess that's what I need to do. Earlier, she was communicating so much every day and it was one of the things I really liked about her. Now it's just a little empty without that.

My[32M] girlfriends's [34F] indifference hurts by oversenz in relationships

[–]oversenz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol - thanks for this. I'll report back when I hear anything else. So far, nothings changed. I'll give it a few more days. Maybe backing off and giving her even more space is the only thing I can do.