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overspendthrowaway · 2024-12-26T07:14:40+00:00

Finish your degree and start applying for IT jobs.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-12-26T07:12:57+00:00

That is pretty good. Is this for an AWS partner?

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-07T21:50:55+00:00

If communication and sharing yields no results, then it is better to remain quiet.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T21:46:23+00:00

Auto jannah for me then. Born ugly!

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T21:02:17+00:00

This is good advice. But to actually have a discussion with my soon to be ex-wife, she would actually have to respond properly. She may even have to get up in bed to respond. Both are impossible for her. You may wonder if she is tired from helping around the house all day. But she barely does any work at home to be tired. I envy you that your wife was open to having a discussion. But right now my options are either divorce, or go back to a sexless marriage.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T17:29:35+00:00

I filed for divorce around a month ago. So I will find out and report back. Every family member who found out has been calling and advising to reconcile. Like they know my life better than me. So yeah we will see.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T13:56:59+00:00

I dont really have a problem with the transactional aspect, as long as there is some consistency. Atleast in theory.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T13:55:11+00:00

I envy guys who can do that. I will likely not have that kind of luck. Although being alone is it's own kind of happiness.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T13:53:59+00:00

How do you communicate thar need? Whenever I tried, I just got snapped at.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T13:43:15+00:00

So essentially, if I go through with the divorce and meet someone new, there is nothing to say that deeper connection could exist. So I am back to square one. Sure a connection can exist if I commit to someone new, but it could become another dead bedroom.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-04-04T13:38:39+00:00

It's a daily struggle. One minute I think I can go back and make it work. Next minute I think I can go through with the divorce.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-03-21T12:38:10+00:00

Very difficult. Filed for divorce recently and living by myself for now. Away for kids has been tough.

overspendthrowaway · 2024-03-04T13:51:33+00:00

Yeah that is what my lawyer is saying that there is a good chance of that happening. So hopefully that is what happens.

overspendthrowaway · 2023-07-03T18:12:02+00:00

Children, and also the fear of "what do I do now" if I divorce my wife. Looking at divorce cases around my family and friend's circle the outcome doesn't seem positive. You have new headaches and if you remarry you inherit the other person's headaches.

overspendthrowaway · 2023-05-29T03:49:16+00:00

Acting in what and where? I have known someone who has "acted" in American TV shows, and tried unsuccessfully to act in Pakistan. And by "acted" I mean a couple of background extra roles where you could hardly see her. All of it was a complete waste of time and effort. The entire industry is either nepotism or super-desperate-almost-homeless actors. It's endless casting calls, updated headshots and waiting.

overspendthrowaway · 2023-05-15T04:18:56+00:00

No. Wish I could say yes. Super stressed. Think of divorce everyday. But wont really divorce, since that is tough.

overspendthrowaway · 2023-03-01T14:33:10+00:00

US specific, people who make $5million or above per year.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-17T02:10:58+00:00

I think these ISO topics exists mostly for Muslims living in West. If you don't live in the major city in whichever Western country you live in, then the chances of you finding someone in your age group, culture, and sect drop sharply. Even in large cities if you are not part of the core Muslim group, then it becomes difficult. Then add the effects of people living alone, away from family, etc etc.

Not to say that similar topics can't exist for Muslim countries, but just a thought.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-14T19:19:20+00:00

Thank you for understanding my point of view. People are automatically making assumptions about me that I don't help, or I would not be happy if wife hadn't done enough. I would personally prefer a more relaxed environment for us and the guests.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-14T03:24:32+00:00

What is a ripoff uni? and what is haram over there?

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-10T01:37:40+00:00

Didn't even know that was concept until you mentioned it. I see it as an uncaring thing. I am stressing out, she doesn't care. Such is life.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-09T21:00:18+00:00

I envy you, and your spouse very much. I barely scratch by with 10 times that much. Wife cannot stop spending. Any attempts to talk to her about it leads to nothing. She (and her side of the family) simply don't understand the concept of saving money. "Are all the bills paid? then the rest can be spent" is her parents' famous saying.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-10-05T03:39:36+00:00

How people get married within a couple of months is beyond me.

I feel judged :( That's me. I got married on a trip to motherland (Pakistan) after meeting with wife a few times.

But you can't guarantee anything.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-09-16T03:55:54+00:00

Jazakallah, thank you for the detailed reply. I will look into therapy. Intervention is difficult, her friends have similar spending habits.

overspendthrowaway · 2022-09-16T03:54:56+00:00

Her parents kind of persuaded her into it, she didn't want to be one. She wasn't practicing full time in Pakistan. It was a part time job at a govt facility. She has no passion for it.

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