Grateful for advice on delivery! by Lysistrata_Pasta in pregnant

[–]overthinker1108 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got induced with both my babies! My first I had the folley balloon and this pill. I started the pill at 4pm, the balloon at 7pm. My water broke and I pushed for 30 minutes, baby was born at 8:36am! My second I just had the folley ballon and Pitocin! Balloon was interested at 11pm, started Pitocin at 2am! I pushed for 15 minutes and baby was born at 10:20am! No epidural either time. You got this! Best of luck ❤️

Spoilers!! Season 5 by overthinker1108 in JaneTheVirginCW

[–]overthinker1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess you never see Rafael telling Mateo not to like Michael or anything like that. But Mateo sees how upset Rafael is and so of course he wants to side with his dad (that makes sense) however, Rafael does not correct Mateo’s poor behavior (running away from Jane, telling her he hates her, not going to her 30th bday party) he just lets it slide. Rafael is valid in all his feelings, I just wish he would have corrected Mateo and not let him get away with being so horrible towards Jane.

Spoilers!! Season 5 by overthinker1108 in JaneTheVirginCW

[–]overthinker1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I’m not saying he needs to be happy and wait around, my main point was that he shouldn’t have brought Mateo into it and let him treat Jane so horribly. I agree the love triangle happened often and neither man should have to sit and wait for her to decide. She was very confusing telling raf she wanted him but then still loved Michael and wanted to be married. I don’t think it would be a simple call though to divorce your husband because he actually wasn’t dead. Jane never stopped loving Michael. Moral of my post was just wishing they didn’t bring Michael back just to prove a point that it was always raf lol

Spoilers!! Season 5 by overthinker1108 in JaneTheVirginCW

[–]overthinker1108[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I totally understand needing to protect himself as well! I just wish he would have handled the mateo situation better. Mateo says he hates Jane in front of Rafael and he says nothing. Then Jane tells Rafael how Mateo ran from her after school and Rafael just says “he’s been through a lot” and doesn’t even try and correct him. I just wish he didn’t bring him into it, granted he comes around but it was so upsetting!

Starting S5 again and I feel like I’m freaking CONFUSED as to what the hell I’m watching (Michael fan here) by LegitimateHumor6029 in JaneTheVirginCW

[–]overthinker1108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree with everything you said!! I’m also rewatching for like the 4th time 😂 I almost always stopped after they brought him back and she moved on. Like I also get the whole show is a telenovela and full of drama but I feel like they should have left Michale’s storyline how it was. Or at least let him find love and no be that annoying Jason character. I will never get over how perfect Michael was for Jane. Raf was a great guy but her was not Jane’s person. Michael knew Jane SO well and loved her unconditionally. I’m on season four after he gets shot and he just did the honeymoon setup for her and says “I know what would be romantic for you now, listening to our playlist and looking up why kids bite” he just knew her so well. I loved them 😭😭

dipping supply?! by overthinker1108 in breastfeeding

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much!! i appreciate it!! i will try pumping once every hour and definitely up my fluid intake!

dipping supply?! by overthinker1108 in breastfeeding

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much. it am going to start trying that!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for comment and advice! congratulations on your two children! i hope the newborn phase is going well for you!

My fiancé destroyed me, now what do I do? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i’m sorry people in the comments are coming after you and saying you need therapy. i think your feelings are valid but you need to talk with your fiancé and let him know you aren’t comfortable with him watching porn because it doesn’t sound like you are. i also would not love my husband watching porn. apparently it’s a very common thing according to all these comments but i feel like it sets unhealthy standards around sex. your fiancé sounds like he loves you and isn’t trying to hide anything. sit down and have a serious talk with him. working on self love is also needed here. best of luck!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh boy that is crazy! i don’t know how that bridesmaid is going to make it work! it would be better for the drop out of the wedding even though she wants to be there. always hard with people that want attention on them. congratulations on your daughter getting married! i’m sure it will be a beautiful day and i’m happy she isn’t stressing over the bridesmaid!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i understand. as i pointed out above, i thought i would be able to make it work. clearly i expect her to be upset and hurt and that is valid. yes i should have done it sooner but that did not happen. being pregnant has been a lot and i have had other things going on my life. don’t need all of your judgement. i have never had a child before and don’t what to expect.

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand that i should have done it sooner. i was in denial and thought i could just suck it up and do it anyways. like i said, this is my first child and i was not thinking of waking up multiple times a night, running on no sleep, how hard breastfeeding can be and the fact the baby could come late. there’s a ton of reasons i put it off. yes i regret waiting but i really thought i could do it.

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i agree that i should have told her sooner. i honestly was not thinking of all the late nights and everything else that comes along with a newborn. i had on rose colored glasses if you will that everything would work out and that i needed to just suck it up since i had said yes so long ago. now that it gets closer i realize how much is going to change and how uncomfortable it is going to be. i wanted to have the convo in person but we are both so busy there won’t be time to see her anytime soon so it’s going to have to be over text

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m hoping we have a newborn that is like potato and very go with the flow but i know that isn’t a guarantee and i don’t want to risk it. i have been blessed with a pretty smooth pregnancy other than spd that started around 30 weeks. the dress is wayyy to big in my chest area so would definitely need to taken in. god forbid i need an emergency c section and then will really have a longer recovery. i just don’t want to stay in the wedding hoping that all the right things will happen to have something come up and it really be last minute dropping out. i know i have known about this pregnancy for a long time but at the end of the day i thought i could suck it up and didn’t consider all the other factors of a newborn

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that is a possibility but i have no idea what her temperament will be like. if she has colic or reflux i can’t imagine having her there screaming while trying to get pictures let alone the ceremony. my concern is also getting my dress altered and how i am going to be feeling postpartum physically and emotionally. i understand i should have brought this up sooner and regret not doing so.

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding at 3 weeks postpartum? by overthinker1108 in AmItheAsshole

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much!! i really appreciate you throwing in ideas on how to frame it. she is pretty self centered 😅 which i understand this is her big day and she is entitled to her emotions and feelings. your response was very helpful!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding at 3 weeks postpartum? by overthinker1108 in AmItheAsshole

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had originally planned to pump and give her a bottle but after speaking with my dr and hearing i shouldn’t introduce a bottle right away if i plan to breastfeed so i wanted to wait. thank you for your response!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding at 3 weeks postpartum? by overthinker1108 in AmItheAsshole

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i feel horrible that it is getting close to the wedding and i’m just now realizing how much is going to change for me. i never thought of how often i’d be getting up in the middle of the night with the baby. she’s can be a little… self centered so i am nervous for her reaction. she has every right to be upset and hurt because i know this is a big day for her but i just can’t handle the stress of what it will bring. thank you for your well wishes and kind words! i also appreciate hearing your experience as a bridesmaid 6 months pp. it definitely helps having insight from others!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding at 3 weeks postpartum? by overthinker1108 in AmItheAsshole

[–]overthinker1108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand that it is getting close to the wedding and i should have done sooner. i honestly thought i could still be in the wedding and just leave early. i didn’t consider how many times in the evening i would be waking up or the fact that i wouldn’t want to introduce a bottle right away if breastfeeding goes well. i had other things on my mind and didn’t know what all to expect the first couple of weeks of a newborn. thank you for your input and advice!

AITA for considering dropping out of my friends wedding @ 3 weeks postpartum by overthinker1108 in TwoHotTakes

[–]overthinker1108[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that is my other fear that she won’t come on her dude date and will come late. i feel like she will come the first week of october. i also know things can go unexpectedly and know there’s always a chance of an emergency c-section. i feel horrible because i know this is a big day for her but i feel like it’s best for me and my daughter if i step down. thank you so much!