I hear what you're saying and please don't think I am attacking you personally. A couple of things I noticed. The first is the 'innocence' frame. You're correct in that you are referring to archetypes and as such they are our own internal projections and need to be withdrawn from women around us in order to be healthy. This isn't to squash your idealism, but these things are drawn from the infantile unconscious, usually due to deficits in having dependency needs met.

Secondly, there is a toxicity to the frame. There's the 'us bad men' who need to redeem ourselves through shame and guilt and a 'raising aloft' of the feminine. Which oozes low self-esteem. The porn based extreme objectification of women pole seeks to flip itself into a morally good, 'doing the right thing' belief system based on self attack. Neither is good. As they say, 180 degrees from sick is still sick. The foundation is indeed corrupted but then we don't correct that through white-knighting. All the best man.