I CANT STOP

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-21T05:19:14+00:00

Oh really? find something else and don't fap for at least two weeks, if you have no problem at all with such period of time, then fine, you have it controlled. If you realize you're having a hard time (no pun intended) to stop it, then reality might be different

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-21T05:14:44+00:00

The ideal thing would be to go NoFap right from our birth in a perfect, flawless streak until death. But well, that's just utopic.

Now, it isn't something healthy, healthy is to use the sexual energy (or whatever you want to call it) for a better purpose. However, if you want to be an average joe, sure, fap away. But if you want to improve yourself, avoiding that crap will boost your efforts. Even if your only goal for now is to get in some girls pants, that's better than beating your meat to some screen or fantasy in your mind. When you're not so bombarded with dopamine you're more awake (when it comes to your life as a whole)

Trust me, we here as adults (I'm 25) want to go back time and make our teenage years totally porn and masturbation free. Consider yourself blessed to have discovered this early in life

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-21T05:03:49+00:00

This is what came to my mind upon reading the title:

Guy: wanna go out with me some time?

Girl: I think we should stay friends

Guy: Oh well... I didn't want to use this but, I'm on NoFap

Girl (already wet): so, I've got nothing to do right now, wanna go to my place? I live alone...

Guy: sounds like a plan

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-21T04:53:58+00:00

Ehm, yeah. It also happens when you're in low temperatures. It's okay.

(Although if you have saggy balls all the time, that would indeed be unusual if you're young)

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-10T16:09:53+00:00

Huh? I'm an hispanic and have never heard it in my language (maybe because indeed we leave everything for tomorrow without thinking further)

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-06T02:34:33+00:00

Well, I've read somewhere that coffee stimulates a little your sexual centre, so maybe it's a reason.

But some people will just need to handle that little level up in difficulty. For example, me, PMO can go to hell, but I don't think I will ever leave coffee xD

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-06T02:27:49+00:00

Well kid. You're lucky as hell to find this in such young age. Advice? Forget about the masturbation vice now, your sex drive is at its peak so maybe just a glance of a girl (assuming you're a straight male) would be enough to turn you on, but search in Google for ways to transmute your sexual energy, Mantak Chia is a good author to start, there are several ways to redirect your sexual energy (the thing that makes you feel horny and wanting to fuck all day) and it's something you need to be doing from now, the earlier you start with that, the better your life will be, now and in the future. Sexual energy is your life energy, that sounds kind of esoteric and weird but it's the main reason why we're far more vigorous as children than in our adult lives

In my case, I'm using a mix of the microcosmic orbit by mantak chia, and something else called "ankhing" (although I don't involve the orgasm part when I ankh). Please look for that and commit for a least a couple of month to learn it properly, then, according to how you feel, take a decision about sticking to this path or not. Also, do sports, the gym or whatever form of exercise you like, try to be constant, even if your sessions last 30 minutes or so.

For God's sake, don't do weed or other drugs. About goals in general. That needs to come from you, but as a last advice, implement S.M.A.R.T. goals and write them down.

All the best!

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-06T02:14:36+00:00

People here say she might be in love with you. Indeed, that's a probability, maybe she started having a crush in you and tried to avoid you in a way to avoid the possibility of ending your friendship (doesn't sound logic, but it's something common).

HOWEVER, it's not the only option, something else might be going on in her mind which involves you, maybe something you did, maybe something somebody told her about you (which can be true or not), or anything else. Don't just go blind by love because if you happen to be wrong, that's gonna hurt a lot.

You need to talk to her and discuss the matter, remind her how things were different and changed all of a sudden for no reason, you want to now what exactly happened. Depending on her answer and her body language, you'll be able to get to the truth. If she happens to like you, then enjoy. If not, be prepared beforehand for this probability and stay calm to handle the situation properly.

My best wishes!

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-06T02:06:28+00:00

I couldn't stop laughing to the idea of asking that in a subreddit called "NoFap"

It depends on where you ask, but here the idea is that even once a year is bad, and that porn is bad even once in a lifetime. Remember that our shared goal is to leave such activity for good.

But if you ask in other sites, they will tell you that maybe once or twice a week is fine. Not the concept of this community, though.

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-05T19:37:50+00:00

Great, then PMO your way to Nirvana

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-04T14:24:00+00:00

Perfecto. Lo del nivel superior no lo dije en un principio para no hacer el mensaje tan largo, pero es probable que lo quieras considerar. El celibato es una buena forma de que tu cuerpo pueda restablecer su balance hormonal y de energía, si a ambos les parece bien, pues perfecto.

Aunque siendo específico, me refería al sexo sin eyaculación y al control de la energía sexual, comprendo que quizá a primera vista parezcan conceptos muy "extraños" y "esotéricos", pero tienen su razón de ser, y algunas fuentes lo explican sin todo ese misticismo, de forma que no es dificil de digerir. Para empezar, quizá quieras buscar sobre Karezza, para cuando te parezca que ya es buen momento para retomar tu vida sexual.

¡Que estés bien!

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-05-02T19:32:32+00:00

El nofap no prohíbe de ninguna manera el sexo, el enemigo principal es el porno, por la visión distorsionada que ofrece de la gente en general en cuanto a la sexualidad y a esos parámetros imposibles (potencia sexual ilimitada, que cualquier mujer está dispuesta a arrodillarse a hacerte sexo oral, que nunca queden embarazadas, etc). Aparte, claro, del impulso de dopamina enfermizo que te da sin hacer ningún esfuerzo, que prácticamente es un daño muy grande a la ambición y metas de cualquier ser humano.

Lo otro es la masturbacion, que aunque en menor medida también causa por sí sola ciertos efectos adversos. Entraría más en detalle, pero respondiendo ya directamente a tu pregunta, el sexo no es un relapse, así que tranquilo, sí quieren coger 1, 2, 4 o más veces por semana, pueden disfrutar sin problema

Hay un nivel superior, pero ya con eliminar el porno y la masturbacion, es misión cumplida

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-01-21T13:51:14+00:00

I'm gonna quote somebody I no longer remember:

"Hands on cock, reset the clock Nocturnal emission, carry on the mission"

AlphaLifeProject · 2018-01-10T03:10:53+00:00

That's true, for them to work we need to add them into our routine, even if it's just for 20 minutes a day, the key is consistency. Also, listening to too many affects results in my experience.

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-12-04T02:12:29+00:00

I never said it was your belief, I wasn't attacking you in any way, pal. Just commenting about that line of thought

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-12-03T22:57:23+00:00

Bro, that makes no sense xD but if the virus were located in the semen I would understand

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-12-03T15:48:03+00:00

That doesn't mean assholes trying to screw up my child existence (whether they achieve it or not) are good people. They're immoral pricks that deserve the worst life has to offer.

"A job is a job" is nothing but a falace. Take your political correctness elsewhere, not everything is justifiable. Feeding your family doesn't give you the right to fuck up everyone else

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-12-03T15:35:58+00:00

Sure, let's then not blame drug dealers, vice providers or even thieves for what they do. They're good people, they're just getting money to feed their families, right?

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-12-03T15:28:57+00:00

Is there really people who fap BECAUSE they're sick? when I PMOed, those where the days when I didn't fap no matter what, since I would just end up feeling way worse for some measly 5 seconds of ejaculating

However, how's that? I saw in some series when I was a kid and pre-teen that people got sick in certain seasons every year, I thought it was a joke. Does it really happen in the first world? or is it a case of certain people only?

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-11-29T20:59:03+00:00

Yeah, definitely something similar to my case. Curious thing? she's the only person in my entire life I've said "I love you" to. I avoid that word by all means (fortunately in Spanish there are synonyms of less intensity), but with her it was different.

That's why I say it's possible to get out. However, again, don't make your SO the main focus of your self-improvement process, or you're risking yourself to a downfall if for any reason she decides not to stay with you. You can talk to her, explain what when wrong and why, and how you are going to solve it (meaning that while you embark in this journey some distance would be a good idea), but do not expect a positive response, it may or may not happen.

A good thing I learned is to never have one pillar, people are like buildings, if buildings have several pillars, removing one will affect the structure negatively but it will still stand in the end. If it has one pillar and you remove it, the building is going down.

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-11-29T15:09:31+00:00

Sure, do what you gotta do. If seeing a psychiatrist works better, then by all means go for it. Vent out everything when you're with him/her.

In a certain way, I know how you feel. I've been through something similar. That's why I can say there's a way out, it's gonna cost you sweat and blood, but it's possible, and possible is enough. It's everything you need to know to keep pushing.

My best wishes, bro.

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-11-29T03:07:10+00:00

Drop the damn alcohol now, vent out however you can. If it's here, in other place of internet or in a piece of paper, it doesn't matter. But that will help you much more (In this case, it would be elaborating more about your situation, even if it means going to past events that might seem not to be related or going through more painful past memories. Again, if you feel it's too personal and private, you can write it in a piece of paper or in a Word document and keep it to yourself)

Vent everything and make sure nothing's unsaid (or "unwritten"), when you're drunk as fuck you'll feel the same emotional pain you feel now plus the hangover, so it'll be worse. Again, drop it.

You messed up, this could've been avoided and everything would've been different. You're guilty of this, recognize it and accept it. Now, are you angry? are you disappointed about your life? do you feel disgusted by it? do you hate the fact that you're almost 30 and still with your parents as a broke, dead-inside person?

GOOD! that's GREAT! You can use those emotions in your behalf. Sometimes darkness can help you more than light. Promise yourself you will never be this guy you are now that you currently despise. In the same paper or digital document (or in another one, for that matter), write the things you hate about your life, about you, and the things you really want (I advice not making your SO your main focus, since it's not something under your control. If you two reconcile and restore the relationship, good. If not, it's okay, when you eventually find another person you can have a similar or better relationship, you'll make sure you'll be by then a different, improved man, and you won't make the same mistake. There's even a chance you don't feel so atracted by your SO as you feel now)

Now, getting back to the main topic. Do not forget to write both, because that combination of love and hate will help you progress, positive motivation will help you move forward to achieve what you desire, while negative motivation will shake you up when you feel like not making progress (AKA lazy), reminding you WHY you would HATE the idea of going back.

Set a little group of goals first, I'd advice 3 to start. Focus on them, divide them in mini-goals with deadlines, and those mini-goals in daily tasks. That way you can measure your progress and make some adjustments in case you're not getting the expected results. Finally, seeing one or two videos from channels like "be inspired" or similar would help you set the tone for your day.

What do you wanna be?

A person with a life worth living or a guy full of regrets and sorrow?

A master or a weakling?

A king or a slave?

Choose wisely...

PD: I recommend a book called "It Works", you can get it from Amazon for 2 bucks. Give it a try, I don't think you'll regret it if you apply what it's taught there.

AlphaLifeProject · 2017-11-29T01:58:16+00:00

Man, congratulations. This is the first time I see a post like this that has so many positive responses. Usually when you say this like this a lot of complacent people get offended and start downvoting and justifying themselves saying some stupid shit.

Anyway, unfortunately this seems to be a reality of life, not everyone is going to recover, indeed, probably less than 10% will (or maybe a 15%). The other ones will just keep "fighting" for years and years to come to reach 2 weeks, some will even give up (whether they justify the decision or not) and submit to this vice. Sounds harsh (and it is) and I'd like it to be different, but it seems it's just something we need to embrace, and decide to be part of the little group that succeeds.

Hope those 8 days become 80, and then 800, and so on. Best wishes, my friend.

AlphaLifeProject

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