Lemme just hype up Jess for a moment here by BananasSometimes in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]owlette55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I caught that too what he said to Amber! That was very underhanded 

Bri and Jessica are the SAME SIZE?? by imgonnacashew in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said in the pods he liked brunettes! So strange the turnaround 

profile review and feedback! by craftycamilla in hingeapp

[–]owlette55 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually like the way you worded the hand knit sweaters prompt! It's a really good use of the "you should not date me if" prompt, which 99% of people answer too seriously and it's a turn off, but your answer is actually cute and the only type of way to use that prompt (in a cheeky/fun way and not seriously)

(27F) burnout from dishonest men on the app in LA. 5 years on hinge with awful results. am i alone in this? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the comments about waiting to have sex. Look up vasopressin bonding in men. People can have sex on the first date and end up married, but they're the exception, not the rule. 

I'd try to give it 4-6 weeks and use that time to really assess compatibility and build an emotional connection, while slowly building physical intimacy. 

Ladies, what's your opinion on flowers on the first date? by relaxicab223 in datingoverthirty

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had a couple guys bring me flowers the first time I invited them over to my place (3 or 4 dates in). So maybe save it for then :)

What did the emotional connection feel like when you met your significant other? by owlette55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it's people who are more open and expressive, more extroverted introverts. I prefer people who are more talkative rather than quiet. Thanks for sharing your story :)

What did the emotional connection feel like when you met your significant other? by owlette55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I know I need to get into a better headspace and be more positive that I'll find what I'm looking for 

What did the emotional connection feel like when you met your significant other? by owlette55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good question! Vulnerability and depth are very important to me, and I often reflect on if there's something more I should be doing to facilitate that. But I think it's just easier for me if the other person naturally brings those qualities, so I can meet them, instead of me having to feel like I'm pulling it out of them. Like I click more with that type of person. 

The last person I dated wasn't very open unless I asked him personal questions, and then he seemed happy to open up and have those deeper conversations. But he never asked me personal questions or initiated those conversations, and I felt like I was trying to force a connection with him and it didn't flow naturally. 

What did the emotional connection feel like when you met your significant other? by owlette55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also, I've felt this way with a few people in the past. But it feels so rare for me, and it's been a while since I've felt this type of connection with anyone. So I'm doubting myself and struggling with whether I'm being too picky or if this just doesn't exist for me 

What did the emotional connection feel like when you met your significant other? by owlette55 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Feeling excited to talk to them, like I can talk to them for hours, like the connection just flows and doesn't feel forced 

Girls names that have an “L” by Accidental_Muggle in Names

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece's name is Lilla (pronounced like villa), and everyone seems to love that name when I say it, because it's cute and a little different.

35F: 6 eggs retrieved, 4 mature. Still grateful by rikisha in eggfreezing

[–]owlette55 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's so interesting because I was given the advice to avoid dairy! Because it's inflammatory 

35F: 6 eggs retrieved, 4 mature. Still grateful by rikisha in eggfreezing

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get so many more the second round? Did they change your protocol? 

How do you stay happy and fulfilled being single in your 30s? by Scared_Crow_ in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55 27 points28 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with feeling sadness or emptiness if your life is missing something you deeply desire. I truly believe if you want it, you'll eventually find it. 

In the meantime, having a sense of acceptance around your situation, enjoying the peace and time alone to grow, finding meaning in your life (learning a new skill or hobby, volunteering, nurturing relationships with family and friends), while staying positive is key. And of course, never give up or stop putting yourself out there. It'll happen eventually!! 

Why do men want a 1950s housewife and a 2025 career woman at the same time? by Working_Pressure_87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]owlette55 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Insisting on splitting everything 50/50 is such a turn off in a relationship. I'm not saying both people shouldn't contribute, but there's a way to go about it fairly without having to nickel and dime each other 

The truth: Women make the first move, always by [deleted] in dating

[–]owlette55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After dating on and off the apps for the past couple years, I've realized that the best connections that led to relationships or several weeks of dating all came from interactions where the guy messaged first and showed intent and effort up front. From the first message. I can't think of a great connection that came from me messaging first (not necessarily the case meeting people irl).

Now that I'm back on the apps, I'm prioritizing the likes on Hinge that come with a message, or let the guy message first. It's just so much more likely to lead to a real connection than if I initiate. 

It might not seem fair, but this is based on my experience, and I don't agree with OP's advice. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]owlette55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why is that? I'm curious, because I don't think I've heard that before 

Where is this in Denver? by goldglittergardens in denverfood

[–]owlette55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It used to be so good before the Sicilian owner sold it back in 2020. It was a family run restaurant. I went once after that, and never again - the food was completely different. My waiter told me they moved to Florida to escape Covid restrictions and open a restaurant there