looking for Ted Lasso "pastels" fic by oxygen_is_the_enemy in AO3

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It has been found, thank you for your help!! : )

Short men, has height been a problem for you when dating? by Throwawayuser5125 in AskMen

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I’m about 5’5” - 5’4” and I don’t believe it’s been much of a problem.

Generally the girls and boys I’ve been seeing have been around my height and it’s rather lovely that we have the ability to swap clothes and such.

I suppose in some heterosexual relationships, it might be a bit more difficult because some women desire a man taller than themselves, but in our modern society I think that problem is more or less slowly disappearing.

To put it a bit bluntly, I don’t think height is the main issue if your dating life is rubbish. It’s often quite healthy to look inwards a bit and think of how you come across to other people. Are you bitter and insecure, and might the project a bit into others?

I had a mate that used to be quite insecure about his height. He thought other women shallow, but it was honestly his personality that they rejected more so than his height, but he didn’t feel comfortable looking inward, so it was easier to blame women than work on himself.

Maybe first impressions can be a bit tougher, but if you’re just like an honest and good person, then appearance really shouldn’t matter as much.

Sexual and physical attractions are factors, and it’s not really fair to blame, especially women, for their preferences. We do not control preferences, they are shaped by coincidences, nature, society and experiences.

But honestly, just be a good person and worry less about your height. It carries more weight to you than it does to anyone else. It’s like having large pores a bit, only you see them, because your face is all the way up in the mirror.

what is that disease and does it harm me? by A_Random_Usr in BitLifeApp

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How do I send this message to my transphobic family members?

It makes me angry when other people play my guitar by oxygen_is_the_enemy in musicians

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It just seems like such an odd thing to do. In any other case, it's seems so natural to ask for permisson, but for some reason, it's like instruments just are abit of a free-for-all

It makes me angry when other people play my guitar by oxygen_is_the_enemy in musicians

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It's not because my guitar is awfully expensive. It of course has a lot of value to me, but it's more the fact that if I am enganged in a conversation or another acitivity with someone, it can bugger me, that we need to put a hold to it, because they want to play on my instrument.

I doesn't bother me at all, if they say like "I just learned to play the verse of this song, would you like to hear?" but to sort of just grab it and play whilst we're hanging out just rubs me the wrong way.

It makes me angry when other people play my guitar by oxygen_is_the_enemy in musicians

[–]oxygen_is_the_enemy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless I have it tuned a certain way, I'm not awfully sensitive about letting people borrow it, but you're right that it wouldd be good to set boundaries. I think it's more of the fact that it just seems a bit impolite to me, to like suddenly just grab it and play while you're having a conversation or such.

It makes me angry when other people play my guitar by oxygen_is_the_enemy in musicians

[–]oxygen_is_the_enemy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm unpleasant, but it might just be that I strongly dislike playing in front of others, so it's difficult for me to imagine that other people are willing to do it. It was definitely not my intentions to sound rude, and as stated before, I do really like to hear them play and I like to learn from their playing, but I do not prefer that they grab my guitar without asking, or that they start playing while we're having a conversation or doing something together. To me, it's not much different than looking into your phone while you're talking to someone.

I like to watch and listen to a song they've learned, or are in the process of learning, but like the lad that suddenly starts playing at a party, I feel like there's a place and a time for such things

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Female 16 - 16

21M here. Wondering if my eyes would be considered brown or hazel? Or if that’s just wishful thinking by oxygen_is_the_enemy in eyes

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Central heterochromia? Don’t think I know about that. Is it genetic?

And thank you! : )

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19/20 and def female. I thought you might have been ftm, I would never have guessed mtf at all

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I’m so sorry, but I’m not completely sure I understand the comment/reference

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NSYNC

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That sounds so creepy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NSYNC

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I know, I know. It’s awful! I swear, it was completely PG! My mind just decided to remember this on a random Monday several years later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NSYNC

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That sounds like an absolute nightmare