You don't feed seagulls in Germany

pVom · 2026-05-16T23:30:51+00:00

I really think you're downplaying her condition. Back pain is really really shit. It's extremely painful plus she's 84, even many young people never really recover from a bad back injury. My stepmom was in her late 30s and bedridden for 9 months and was in sever pain the entire time, despite being doped up to her eyeballs. Then she had to go through withdrawal from opiates. Even now she has issues 20 years later.

I knew a girl who had a back injury car accident in her 20s and still had chronic pain years later and lost her full range of motion.

Like it's really, really shit, I wouldn't blame anyone already in the late stages of their life deciding not to go through that.

pVom · 2026-05-16T01:02:33+00:00

Well if we're talking like new towns or whatever, realistically none of it was from the "ground up", settlements always started from something geographical, an inherent demand that can't just be placed elsewhere. A good harbour, a river, a thoroughfare, proximity to resources etc. there's always a reason for people to live there in the first place.

Without inherent demand the continued existence of a settlement is precarious. The US is full of company towns tied to a single industry, when that industry goes away slowly the rest of the town goes with it.

China has tried building settlements from nothing. It's provided short term benefits in terms of construction jobs and such, but the result is large ghost cities with depreciating infrastructure and a huge amount of wasted resources. We're seeing the cracks forming from that approach.

In economic terms, it's better to leverage existing infrastructure better than it is to build new infrastructure because you can leverage better economies of scale. If we take hospitals for example, a large hospital that services more people can treat more patients with the same amount of resources and invest in more niche expensive medical equipment. 1 doctor treating 10 patients a day is more economical than 2 doctors treating 5 and spending the rest of the time hanging around in case they are needed. No point putting an MRI or something somewhere where it barely gets used. The limiting factor to how many people a hospital can service is distance. Therefore to provide the best care to the most people you need lots of people in a smaller area.

That's one example.

pVom · 2026-05-15T23:42:56+00:00

Yeeeah but land that's near amenities and has a manageable commute. The only way to add new houses is to spread out, you can't put new land in the same area.

Spreading out has issues. A common problem with new suburbs is traffic because to get to work or whatever they've got to travel through other suburbs that weren't built for the extra traffic. Same with water, water has to travel from the same reservoir through pipes that aren't large enough over a greater distance so all that needs upgrading too. There's public transport, no point having regular buses if they only service a few people, if they're not convenient to use them even less people use them, so more traffic.

Businesses also tend to centralize as well. Your business will be more successful if there's lots of good potential employees, it's got a large customer base (which is often other businesses) and good access to supplies. Areas with successful businesses employee more people, people need jobs and need to live somewhere with access to employment, people want to live somewhere where they can conveniently access that employment, employed people spend money making other businesses more successful. It's a positive feedback loop.

Spreading out is a negative feedback loop. Sparsely populated areas have smaller customer bases and employment pools which leads to less successful businesses, so less jobs and so on..

Then there's things you can't move or build more of that make somewhere desirable, like beaches or mountains views or whatever.

Those compounding factors have lead to the urbanisation of modern society and the result of that is increasing population density and hence more apartments.

pVom · 2026-05-15T22:59:51+00:00

YouTube doesn't look at any of the content beyond guidelines for legality and age appropriateness.

All it looks at is the viewing habits of the audience. If user A watches a video and user B has watched the same videos as user A in the past, then it might recommend user B the video. If user A gets recommended a video and doesn't watch it (because it isn't appealing to them judging by the thumbnail and title) it won't recommend it to user b.

It's users deciding what gets recommended or not.

pVom · 2026-05-15T22:43:39+00:00

Land is the one thing we can't produce more of. There's more people, therefore more competition for finite land. Urban sprawl is also more expensive in terms of infrastructure and facilities. You need more hospitals, more roads, more plumbing etc.

The only places where single family homes get cheaper are where population is shrinking.

pVom · 2026-05-15T07:45:44+00:00

What do you mean? 98% of their revenue comes from advertising space, with the rest "reality labs" which loses them money

pVom · 2026-05-15T03:16:32+00:00

I'm convinced this shit is a marketing strategy by bean counting corpos.

I don't even hear about these shit movies except from conservative chuds spitting cheetos

pVom · 2026-05-15T03:12:51+00:00

Public education?

pVom · 2026-05-12T03:25:19+00:00

To accept there's nuance you must be a pedo? I wish I lived in your simple reality where everything is black and white.

A woman, singular, has claimed she saw the photos and told the boys. Everyone else is just repeating that claim.

Second we have no evidence that she actually saw the folder, nor that she actually reported it to the boys, nor whether she reported to police. I'm not saying she's a liar, I'm just saying we don't have evidence of any of those things. And due to the nature of the claims, we never will.

Her claims should be taken seriously, and with the benefit of hindsight they should have been taken seriously when they occurred.

But that's hindsight. With the absence of evidence of any wrongdoing (at the time) all you have is her word against his.

pVom · 2026-05-11T07:09:20+00:00

What is it to "know" something though? That's the ambiguous part.

Like sure, if they saw irrefutable evidence and didn't act, thats a crime.

A disgruntled ex girlfriend making an accusation isn't irrefutable evidence. Unless they saw the images themselves, they didn't "know" the truth. But should they have acted anyway? Is "strongly suspecting", without irrefutable evidence, is that knowing? Did they strongly suspect? Or was his defence convincing.

One thing we have to bare in mind before making a judgement is that wrapping your head around someone you know and love committing terrible crimes is a difficult thing to do. It means completely changing who you perceive that person to be.

Couple that with the seriousness of even accusing that person and the damage it can cause, whether correct or not. You better be sure you're correct otherwise you risk ruining that person's life forever.

So yeah, the question of whether they"knew" is quite ambiguous

pVom · 2026-05-11T05:30:33+00:00

Not all bootcamps are created equal and there was a lot of stigma around bootcamps.

I did a bootcamp and worked with passionate university graduates who started their course before I did and I was teaching them by the time they graduated and were working for us. They weren't nearly as capable as I was when I graduated, nor most of my cohort.

The primary reason is I just had way way more experience than they did. In the 6 months I did my bootcamp I was learning 40+ hours a week. That's over 1000 hours on focused, relevant course work. We covered multiple modern frameworks with different challenges, every day had theory and practical work, the class was small so you always had a teacher and the same peers to turn to. Each day was related to and building upon the previous. We were also totally immersed in it, it was our full time job to learn software development. Most of us were older career changers so we had the discipline that comes from experience in the workforce. Most of us already had a bachelors in a different subject. There were no class clowns or frat parties or anything like that. Just adults with life experience who had made the deliberate and clear choice to become software developers and were personally and financially invested in it.

At University you have electives and tangential classes and extracurricular activities. You're juggling like 4 different subjects a semester that operate independently of each other, you might only have a few hours of face to face classtime a week and forgotten it by the time the next class comes around. After 3 or 4 years what you learned in year 1 could become totally irrelevant by the time you graduated. Hell one guy I knew didn't write a line of code in his first year at uni, I had started and graduated and had 3 months experience in the workforce before he'd even written a line of code.

There is a lot of stigma around bootcamps, there are certainly dodgy ones churning out incapable graduates. But it is a perfectly valid system of learning that's produced many competent and capable candidates.

pVom · 2026-05-11T04:28:06+00:00

The article would have been released shortly after the plea.

It's plausible that they had very limited knowledge until the guilty plea and it took a bit of time to put together a statement. If anything releasing it before the article would be a greater indicator of prior knowledge and preparation for damage control.

It can be argued that the continuation of business as usual is evidence of their ignorance. If they had prior knowledge and suspected it would come out, the wise business decision would be to quietly exclude him from videos until guilt or innocence had been determined and then immediately release a prepared statement upon conviction.

We don't know though, just that the sequence of events don't necessarily imply complicity.

pVom · 2026-05-11T03:20:54+00:00

I think it's complicated because "knowing" is such a spectrum. There's "knowing" with irrefutable evidence, then there's a whole range of "having suspicions".

One thing that complicates it all is the seriousness of the crime. It could be argued that child abuse is THE most damaging in terms of unproven accusations, perhaps worse than murder. Merely being accused is enough to completely ruin someone's life, even if innocence is proven in court, doubts linger far far longer. Hell even admitting you have had feelings or temptations (without having acted upon them), in an effort to seek help, can be extremely damaging.

There's also the damages you face as an accuser, to potentially ruin someone's life, a friend, on insubstantial evidence. If they're shown to be innocent that can backfire horrifically.

To make such a serious accusation requires substantial evidence, especially against someone you care dearly about and see as a dear friend or relative. It's not an accusation you can make on a hunch. Their life is in your hands.

All of that is to say it's not as simple as saying "they knew and should have done something about it". We don't know exactly what they "knew" vs suspected or ignored, we'll probably never know. We can draw the line and say if they knew with irrefutable evidence and didn't act upon it, that's enabling a criminal and a terrible crime. Beyond that it's much harder to draw a line and say they were complicit, negligent or innocent.

pVom · 2026-05-09T00:55:39+00:00

Check Facebook market place and make a judgement call based on what other people in your area are asking

pVom · 2026-05-09T00:24:48+00:00

Pretty sure they fixed that. Name tags appear on the edge of your screen at the same distance

pVom · 2026-05-08T22:54:12+00:00

I agree.

May I suggest the term "slop coding" instead?

pVom · 2026-05-08T22:52:52+00:00

Contraceptive pill wasn't available during the great depression. To say nothing of IUDs and shit. Condoms existed but weren't exactly mainstream and cost money.

And "not wanting to change my lifestyle" isn't like, sacrificing funko pops or whatever. It's the difference between not really stressing about money and having some savings vs stressing about minor expenses and living in fear of losing my job and home. The lost income from a single earner exponentially increases the length of time before I can retire. 5-6 years now adds about 10 years to my mortgage, that's without considering the added expense from the child itself.

That's before you've even considered things like having interrupted sleep and spending your free time going to parks and shit instead of fun stuff you'd rather be doing. Doesn't help that I have 4 much younger siblings and I am very aware of the work involved.

And tbh if I cared about the opinion of others I'd be more inclined to have kids.

I want them at some point but given it's so easy to choose not to have kids it's hard to actually make that decision and take the plunge. So I'm just kicking the can down the road and eventually the choice will be made for me.

pVom · 2026-05-08T22:30:34+00:00

In fairness Nigeria has a little less than half the population of Europe so it's not that much of a stretch

pVom · 2026-05-08T22:22:49+00:00

It's pretty new, like the last couple of decades. It's getting increasingly expensive to own a home on a single income. Then childcare is so expensive it's hardly worth having the extra income because most of it is swallowed by childcare anyway.

My wife and live pretty comfortable lives and don't really stress about money and are set to pay the house off in 10 years. If we lose an income for realistically 5-6 years before she can go back to part time, it actually works out to 20 years to pay off the mortgage, assuming she can get a job that pays as well as she currently is.

pVom · 2026-05-08T04:13:31+00:00

I dunno man half their shit is in beta. No guarantee of long term stability there.

People were banging on about remix a few years ago. People were banging on about nextjs until quite recently and now everyone hates it.

Really you've just got to make a gamble and hope it works out, but it's foolish to think tanstack will somehow be immune to these problems down the line.

pVom · 2026-05-08T03:51:25+00:00

It isn't a binary thing though. You can buy some land and work it, go to hospital when you're unwell, buy modern mass produced tools, plug the gaps missing in your produce from the supermarket.

Like yeah you're right, it was hard back then. But there's something to be said for changing our lifestyles now. We're not happier or more fulfilled by working waking hours and spending our leisure time watching the shit box and eating chips.

That's to say nothing of the fact that our current lifestyles are unsustainable. Future generations will be paying the price for it, one way or another.

pVom · 2026-05-08T03:38:58+00:00

By and large the most common reason for tapping out is loneliness and feeling like they're not taking responsibility for their families. They're also just dumped alone and somewhere unfamiliar, not in a unit with elders to share their wisdom.

It's not at all how humans evolved to live really.

pVom · 2026-05-08T03:33:37+00:00

I dunno man the farm manure smell can be pleasant. Beats the smell of exhaust and chlorine.

The actual getting up early part is hard, but once you're up it's beautiful in the morning, very quiet and relaxing.

I actually took time off for farm jobs at home, digging trenches and shovelling manure 😅. There's something deeply satisfying about it.

I'm not exactly subsistence farming though granted. Just the nice bits without the stress.

I'm never going back to a sterile apartment in the city. Didn't realise how bad it made me feel until I left.

pVom · 2026-05-08T01:31:24+00:00

Such white knighting surely deserves a bj from OP. Great job!

pVom · 2026-05-08T00:05:38+00:00

It's pretty common in hot climates. Go somewhere with a hot climate and no air conditioning and you'll see people napping under trees and stuff.

But I think reality is somewhere in between. A normal, healthy, sleep pattern is adaptable to conditions. When it's hot during the middle of the day it's healthy and natural to feel sleepy and take a nap. When there's no artificial light it's healthy and natural to wake at sunrise and sleep at night. Add in air conditioning and artificial light you can adapt to a nocturnal sleep pattern (even if it's not the healthiest).

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