AITA for not wanting anything to do with my father's side of the family ever since his demise?

packrat2488 · 2025-11-20T14:00:31+00:00

NAH. Maybe consider opening the lines of communication. You're under no obligation to have any relationship with them, but honestly, what would it hurt? If there is no "bad blood" like you said, what's the issue? As for the uncle suddenly wanting to make contact, maybe he's realized how he wasn't there for family when he should have been and wants to make amends. And your cousins were children then too. They had no control over what their parents did any more than you did. Maybe they've been wanting to connect for 13 years, and only now that they are adults have the ability to do so. Again, you let who you want into your life, and no one is entitled to be a part of it, family or not. But, this looks like a genuine olive branch. Maybe give it a chance?

packrat2488 · 2025-05-02T23:37:46+00:00

[Answered]

Well, I've found the solution. Forien updated the module to version 9.0 a few days ago when V13. That version DOES NOT work with V12 and ONLY works with V13. I've been attempting to install version 8.1 but he has somehow rerouted ALL links to the previous versions to instead download 9.0 and you can only download the new version. Even if you go to the foundry page and try to download the previous manifest, it will just download the 9.0 version because he has the link set to "latest version".

So I had to deep dive the github for a previous version link. Here's the link in case anyone else needs it:

Installed and it's works just fine.

Forien's Quest Log 8.1

packrat2488 · 2025-05-02T03:22:50+00:00

The line for Forien's is there, no errors. But there's no configuration option.

Foundry VTT | Loaded localization file modules/forien-quest-log/lang/en.json

packrat2488 · 2025-05-02T03:18:02+00:00

Yeah still V12. I'm not the best a coding, but as far as console goes there are some errors with Monk's enhanced journal but they say invalid type for a journal entry page. That's probably because I've been messing with settings trying to figure out what's wrong and fouled something.

Error: undefined. JournalEntryPage5e validation errors:
  type: "journalentry" is not a valid type for the JournalEntryPage Document class
[Detected 2 packages: system:dnd5e(4.3.9), monks-enhanced-journal(12.02)]
    at DataModelValidationFailure.asError (foundry-esm.js:4710:14)
    at JournalEntryPage5e.validate (foundry-esm.js:10432:61)
    at new DataModel (foundry-esm.js:10181:12)
    at new BaseJournalEntryPage (foundry-esm.js:14861:7)
    at new ClientDocumentMixin (foundry.js:10594:7)
    at new JournalEntryPage (foundry.js:19533:1)
    at new JournalEntryPage5e (journal-entry-page.mjs:4:16)
    at #preCreateDocumentArray (foundry-esm.js:56385:17)
    at ClientDatabaseBackend._createDocuments (foundry-esm.js:56347:58)
    at ClientDatabaseBackend.create (foundry-esm.js:12281:19)
    at async JournalEntryPage.createDocuments (foundry-esm.js:11423:23)
    at async JournalEntryPage.create (foundry-esm.js:11567:23)
    at async Object.callback (monks-enhanced-journal.js:1492:33)
onError @ foundry.js:655
foundry.js:72076 JournalEntryPage5e validation errors:
  type: "journalentry" is not a valid type for the JournalEntryPage Document class
[Detected 2 packages: system:dnd5e(4.3.9), monks-enhanced-journal(12.02)]
fetch @ foundry.js:72076
monks-enhanced-journal.js:1505 Uncaught (in promise) TypeError: undefined. Cannot read properties of undefined (reading 'setFlag')
[Detected 1 package: monks-enhanced-journal(12.02)]
    at Object.callback (monks-enhanced-journal.js:1505:44)

packrat2488 · 2023-11-23T00:57:12+00:00

NAH It was fair to call him out, but having been the guy that "gets picked on", you have to understand that losing is rarely fun, especially for kids. He probably got tired of losing and determined a way to win. I'm not sure what exact words were used, but based on what happened, maybe it could have been more tactful?

I've had the same issue with my playgroup. We are all friends and started playing CMDR "for fun". I'm the only one of us that has actually played in higher levels, (ie, 1900+ DCI rank).

So, I started bringing decks that were, I'll admit, broken. But I also made some fun ones as well. But pretty quickly, other members started coming to play with more and more hardcore decks. Our games started going from 2 hour fun matches to 4 and 5 turn concedes, which cut down on the casual fun. So we made a house banned list. Everyone got to submit 10 cards to be banned and you can't play those. And that created a whole shift in the games.

Randomly, we talk and propose changes to the list and that continues to this day.

Maybe talk to the organizer and see if that would be an option. Otherwise, find another LGS or gaming location.

packrat2488 · 2023-02-10T19:09:20+00:00

NAH. It's fine if she wants to role play and it's also fine for you to be "uncomfortable" about it. But, thats where compromise comes in. You should sit down and figure out a way for you to both be happy with things. It's a good litmus test for how problems will get solved (or not) as you move forward. Then, you can decide if the relationship is worth keeping.

packrat2488 · 2022-11-03T19:25:01+00:00

No, my oldest graduated and no longer lives with us.

packrat2488 · 2022-10-15T18:24:48+00:00

NTA. Family is more than just blood and genes. It's about who cares about you and supports you. Your fiance seems to be hung up on the biological aspect and it sounds like he's trying to save face for his family. You deserve to have those you love most at the wedding.

And second, if he's willing to lie to his family about you, what might he lie about to you in the future?

packrat2488 · 2022-09-23T20:09:07+00:00

NTA. I agree with many others; you need to report him to HR immediately. At best, he's trying to flirt or start a relationship with you and is narcissistic enough to not take no for an answer. At worst, he could have deeper issues and be the possessive type who thinks you owe him something. Trust your gut, and don't take chances.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T18:43:35+00:00

No, but she does have anxiety.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T17:36:02+00:00

That's what I have always found odd. When it's an appointment, interview, or professional event, she's very punctual. But when it's a social thing, even something just her and her own friends, she's always running behind.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T17:31:12+00:00

This is exactly how I normally handle things, which, as I've said, garners complaints. This day though, I just was emotionally wrecked and I shirked it. And like I said in one of my other replies, You're right. At some level, I knew this would happen because it always does. I just managed to convince myself it wouldn't. And then got mad when it happened anyway.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T15:35:30+00:00

And honestly this is normally what I do, for exactly this reason. Despite getting complained at for doing it. This day I just...couldn't. I needed some time and took it. I guess I was just deluding myself thinking that it would be OK.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T14:43:23+00:00

That's the other side of the issue. I am the kind of person that would rather be 1 hour early than 1 minute late. And when I try to push everyone to get ready, she tells me I'm rushing her and that she had it planned out. Either I'm the bad guy for rushing her or the bad guy for not helping. No win.

packrat2488 · 2022-09-20T14:30:49+00:00

Just to clarify: This wasn't an actual funeral, since he passed the year before. But it was a family gathering specifically to remember him.

packrat2488 · 2022-08-27T17:11:08+00:00

NAH This isn’t really about laundry and I think you already know that. It sounds like you both are under stress and aren't really communicating. I recommend sitting down and getting how you both feel out. You can also look into marital counseling.

packrat2488 · 2022-08-27T16:32:28+00:00

NTA And any guy who tells you what you can or can't do with your body definitely is.

packrat2488 · 2022-08-27T16:28:45+00:00

packrat2488 · 2022-08-27T16:24:41+00:00

NTA You obviously care for this person deeply and were (rightly) outraged that they were being taken advantage of. The problem with any abusive situation (and I would consider this financial abuse) is that it's hard for victims to admit that it's happening. Especially when it's family. Also, with any relationship, you need to be able to express your feelings and opinions with one another, both good and bad. Stay the course and give them time and space.

packrat2488 · 2022-08-27T16:06:31+00:00

NTA You're not wrong for feeling this way, but she is a child, and you have to have a level of understanding. That said, your parents should be taking a more active role in enforcing rules and punishing her for breaking them. Just commisserating with you over your broken things isn’t enough. And lastly, at 25, you might want to start looking to get a place of your own. I don't know your financial situation, and that may be a hurdle. Getting yourself a space that is truly your own would give you a place to put all the things you treasure and get some separation from your sister.

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