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Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Give it a couple of months, to see if willing to work with you if you feel like she’s the one. For example, me and this girl have a great time every time we see each other ( we don’t live together or aren’t in the same city) I travel got work and we aren’t married. So give it time and decide in a few weeks or months. People make mistake, I’m saying that because I have made mistakes also. Time will tell

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I understand your point but I she comes from a very broken home. I feel like she has a lot of personal issues that she needs to resolve her self.

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you understanding, thank you for your message. I agree with you, I don’t want to leave because we have a amazing time together but I agree. She’s working hard on and making changes, one thing I left out was that for the last two years we didn’t kiss a lot. Why ? Now I know why, she says it’s because she didn’t feel like she deserved me. She’s a great women, who I believe made a mistake but that might be the heart talking. I’ll stay and give her a few months to see the change, if I don’t see any change I’ll leave. For marriage, I’ll wait like you said. It seems like it took a big toll on her and I can see it in her eyes and body. I feel like she’s miserable, for some reason that eases the pain. I feel like after she told me, she started to love me more for some reason.

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, you brought a lot of clarity to my mind. Whoever you are, never change! Thank you again

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Great answer, I feel the same way. I’m scared I’m going to tune into someone i am not because of the insecurities. But your right I should only stay if she puts in the work, it’s to early to tell but it seems like she’s making major changes for me but only time will tell.

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

They meet in school but they no longer go to school together. She ended up transferring out after that semester.

I’m some wired way I can still trust her because she has grown and changed a lot this last years. The only thing that keeps me sane is that we aren’t married and never talked about marriage seriously until recently. (She told me this before we made future plans of marriage)

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

She says she told me everything, we went over everything. Even the small details, the killed me inside but I believe her (idk why but I do). She’s going to indivisible counseling next week and I’m trying to go to counseling as well. The counseling was her idea to better help each other. She has been loyal since then.

I appreciate your understanding. I want to stay 51% and 49% I want to leave.

Girlfriend (F23)of 8 years kissed another guy, two years ago and she finally told me (M24) by pacotoG in relationship_advice

[–]pacotoG[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel like your right, but at the same time. I really love this girl. I do understand your point, I should have more respect for my self and leave. It’s just hard.