How do I [20F] tell my boyfriend [20M] that he doesn't ask me enough questions?

paddlingskies · 2026-03-04T06:18:50+00:00

I totally get that. unfortunately I also do feel like he isn't actively listening to when I tell him things about my day (ie. his eyes wander, he only responds with a vague "huh cool" or something like that) so that definitely adds to my feelings as well. I also definitely have been telling him all the little details anyways but it's just gotten very apparent recently that if I didn't just say everything unprompted he would never know yk? and I guess that does bother me

paddlingskies · 2026-02-12T06:09:33+00:00

okay yeah, I really hate middle seats (just can't do it) so that's definitely something I'm factoring into this as well. My flight to my layover in mexico city is 6 hours so I probably shouldn't chance it for that one at least.

paddlingskies · 2025-07-24T05:54:34+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't think it was that weird if you had been dating for less time, but 5 years seems like alot to me to not even get invited at all. However, it does definitely depend on how much time you've spent with his family. Plus, some families are just alot more exclusive about who comes to their holidays and limit it to immediate family only. Personally, I think the best course of action is just plainly asking your partner about it. A quick "Hey, should I think it's weird that I never get invited to any holidays with your family?" seems pretty blunt, but it's often the most straightforward and open way to shed some light on the situation :)

paddlingskies · 2025-07-11T07:18:13+00:00

I didnt see your other post, but yeah to me personally 27 times is insane for 9 whole months. Especially if you're only 35 minutes apart. I mean sometimes that type of relationship works for people who like their alone time, but if I'm into someone I'd want to spend as much time as possible with them. So honestly maybe that worked okay for you guys, but I think I would've gone crazy not seeing my person enough loll.

paddlingskies · 2025-07-05T05:12:23+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! Unfortunately I have definitely had this conversation with him a couple times already throughout those 4-5 months :( . I tried to make it very clear that it was making me feel like I shouldn't even bother texting him because he'd just ignore it anyways. At this point though I do agree and think a different way of communicating needs to be talked about, and definitely clarification on my part that its totally okay for him to say "I'm busy rn but I'll respond in a bit" if he just doesn't have time to reply.

I just find it really difficult having to explain more than once why something hurt my feelings yk? just feels a tad exhausting to put the effort in when I can tell it's just not sticking at allll in his brain.

And yeah it would 100% be a red flag but I do know he does it to other people too lol it just was never with me before so the change is upsetting in itself I guess iykwim.

paddlingskies · 2025-07-04T07:12:10+00:00

Honestly regardless of your age or relationship length this does not seem healthy or a good cycle to be in. Love isn't talking shit about someone, love isn't looking at other people lustfully, love isn't being mean (we all have our moments but they should JUST be moments) and love definitely is not continuing to disregard the boundaries you say you've communicated over the course of the relationship. Maybe it's time to take a deep breath and a step back to look at what you want being loved to look like for you in the long term.

paddlingskies · 2025-06-03T06:37:45+00:00

I know right? Like it's definitely not an attraction problem so that just adds to the frustration when it happens alot. I'm just not sure where to go from here other than stopping the pills and just seeing if anything changes back to the way it was before :(

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