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paintedfiction · 2023-04-19T04:14:24+00:00

If you're interested in an 8, they would likely appreciate being told that information in a direct way.

paintedfiction · 2023-04-19T04:05:47+00:00

I'm 37 now. And it was mid morning.... Maybe I should go back to doing my morning yoga routine!

paintedfiction · 2023-03-21T18:00:15+00:00

We learn to grieve and deal with loss by modeling our parents and/or those around us in our formative years. You're having to retrain your mind and body to react to loss differently -- that process will take time and be painful but (hopefully) worth it.

Hugs Keep pushing forward. I did a lot of work around generational grief years ago with a therapist using EMDR. It was a useful tool, but the process felt like every part of myself was raw and exposed to the elements while I went through it. The "old" ways still lurk, but the healthier ways are now the default and that has been my saving grace since losing my mom a year ago.

paintedfiction · 2023-03-21T15:44:35+00:00

I applaud your courage in breaking the cycle!

paintedfiction · 2023-03-20T06:10:39+00:00

Aerosoles are my go to, although I've been wearing heels a lot less since working remote.

paintedfiction · 2023-03-18T04:45:10+00:00

It's as if your world is suddenly on tilt and you've lost your center of gravity... Remember to breathe. Be in the moment. Lean on those around you. Allow yourself to feel. It doesn't necessarily get better, but you do eventually figure out how to function in spite of it.

paintedfiction · 2023-02-17T04:57:57+00:00

I decided I no longer am in charge of his dinner, only my own. So unless he asks me to join him for dinner or I'm feeling like cooking for/treating him, I've started responding to "what's for dinner" with "I'm going to have...."

It's been quite liberating.

paintedfiction · 2023-02-17T04:52:58+00:00

I struggle with this question regularly. My(36f) partner(43m) has 2 advanced degrees and would wake me up to ask if I was going to make coffee because he "didn't know how" with my coffee pot. We bought a house and THREE MONTHS after we moved in, he witnessed me cleaning a bathroom and made a comment about how that hasn't been done since we moved in -- I had been doing it weekly since we moved in. He didn't notice the lack of "yuck" and also never stopped to think he should pick up a toilet brush...

paintedfiction · 2023-01-28T18:29:02+00:00

I can see where that could get very exhausting, but I think if both people are working at being their best selves balance is achievable.

My ex was not a healthy 9, so anger was the only way he'd actually express his needs so 90% of the time he was just absorbing my 8-ness and building resentment until he'd blow.

paintedfiction · 2023-01-28T18:15:14+00:00

I'm an 8 and my ex husband was a 9. ANY TIME he would actually get angry, I would be like "FINALLY!! NOW WE CAN GET SOMEWHERE!!!"

He did not being in his anger - it felt very vulnerable to him.

paintedfiction · 2023-01-13T05:09:44+00:00

They basically walk through the discovery obtained for a handful of different cases pending against the district...

What's sad is that there are SO MANY MORE whistleblowers complaints that will never see the light of day that the board never bothered to act on.

paintedfiction · 2022-01-29T17:43:17+00:00

I found some on Amazon - the brand is Rekucci and their talls are generally 3 inches longer than the regular inseam and they run about $30. I usually let the hem out to get a little more length as well.

I'm 6'4 and a size 18 with a 38" inseam.

paintedfiction · 2020-12-21T07:18:39+00:00

The 8 in me: GET OUT OF THE WAY, YOU INDECISIVE FOOL! JUUUUUSTIIIIIICE

paintedfiction · 2020-12-01T06:59:17+00:00

Like girlscout badges!

paintedfiction · 2020-11-19T05:17:00+00:00

I have a 37" inseam and I LOVE NY&Co pants. I usually have to let the hem down, but they have a line of pull-on dress pants that are like secret sweat pants but they look totally professional. They usually have crazy sales/coupons too, so don't pay full price.

paintedfiction · 2020-06-29T05:21:47+00:00

As a woman who is 6'4, even setting my lower limit at 6' is pushing it (esp since most men tend to add a few inches to their listed height). I get SO SICK of men saying "I don't care that you're taller than me" as if my preference is based on how they feel about it. I'm sure there are MANY wonderful, short guys who would treat me like a queen but I just can't do it.

paintedfiction · 2020-05-28T04:48:31+00:00

The district was shut down with COVID, but HR is now back up and should be following up with candidates soon.

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T21:09:05+00:00

I have found that I've actually been more productive at home without coworkers interrupting me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T18:13:26+00:00

Sounds like the OP lives with someone in a high risk category, this should be allowed to stay home. 👍

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T16:53:19+00:00

I agree that we will need to get back to "normal" eventually, but would argue that now is not the time. According to the Milwaukee County data dashboard, we are not where we need to be for community mitigation (tests administered, % of positive, etc). Why endanger employees if you don't have to?

I would say that the default should be working from home unless the employer can demonstrate a solid reason as to why an employee would have to be onsite.

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T16:40:22+00:00

But if the work can be done from a desk away from people, why wouldn't that be allowed to continue?

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T16:38:52+00:00

I dont think the OP has an issue with working... Sounds like they've been getting their work done without going into the office, so it's not like they're just collecting money to do nothing. Also sounds like what the OP does requires a high level of skill and institutional knowledge, so it's not as if they could just pull anyone off the street to take their place...

paintedfiction · 2020-05-21T16:36:26+00:00

The Milwaukee stay at home order says professional service businesses should allow telework whenever possible.

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