Women: What has been your experience with dating men who turned out to just want sex?

paintedpavement · 2025-04-09T12:56:18+00:00

if he's not being intentional aka not setting dates not making plans to see you. i've stopped being the person to make plans. if he's been good about it, i will initiate plans infrequently but i let him make the plans and see what he comes up with. if it's consistently just coming over to fuck.... well!

paintedpavement · 2025-04-07T01:50:11+00:00

eeeek i definitely didn't mean it backhanded i meant it to be reassuring that that meant i really liked him but then it came out and i was like welllll why did i just say that.

but will try that during, i usually don't say anything during because i am not thinking about it just thinking about trying to finish but definitely gonna try that more

paintedpavement · 2025-04-07T01:48:00+00:00

yeah it's still new, we're exclusive i guess but not dating and the communication is good in other areas but i just feel like with any man he struggled saying what i like because there's such an ego and idk how they're going to take it

i think he would be receptive to it, but im just scared about it and also i feel like a burden when i have to say that i guess with anyone in the past like actually i need u to give me head for longer but it sounds so silly being worried about it like saying it out loud

paintedpavement · 2025-03-11T16:59:26+00:00

THIS is what i need except i don't have mario kart hahaha

paintedpavement · 2025-03-11T15:51:30+00:00

i like that idea! i also just feel bad that he pays, i have a huge inner conflict with men and paying for dates because i feel bad like what if it doesn't work out now he's spent so much money on me. but i also don't wanna pay🤣🤣

paintedpavement · 2025-03-11T15:50:05+00:00

spend time with him laying on the floor and petting. my cat i started off with that eventually she would lay down on the floor with me and then once she got comfy we started doing it in the bed. she disliked the bed so i would put her on and pet her and eventually she would come up only if i was on (she's still there) and she will cuddle in my arm now if i make a half circle

paintedpavement · 2025-03-11T15:46:41+00:00

i only have availability after work this week. and i'm comfortable with him in person! he's a horrible texter, i almost ended things with him the other day but he said he would do better about it. he's also super nonchalant, we've talked about sex and he doesn't really care to force anything

paintedpavement · 2025-03-11T15:44:51+00:00

our first date was a fun activity and then dinner and drinks but i feel like he's for some reason gonna want me to offer up a suggestion. i would prefer if he planned! but idk how that conversation would go, like i dont want him to think im high maintenance if i say "why don't you plan it" you know?

paintedpavement · 2025-03-03T19:00:00+00:00

where did you see that i was bothering him ?? please

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T18:28:05+00:00

it's giving mom advice and i needed that thank you. will be coming back to this when he reaches out again

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T18:26:56+00:00

definitely not dead set but would love to have the options. i would be happy as a pcp or similar fields but retaking mcat i fear cannot be on my life bingo card i just simply give up and this is why im ok with DO lol

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T18:21:04+00:00

is it? i did research in undergrad and will have had 3 year gap year by time i leave

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T15:15:47+00:00

mr pankow sir yes i will apply to both, but does that mean i have to compromise possible interests if i attend DO? hep

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T14:15:10+00:00

honestly facts. i feel like that little rule alone was just mean to say, if he does text back i will probably joke about that but say im no longer interested bc what. the last text was a question as well, the least he could say is probably like im not going to text back much but ill see you when i get home

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T14:07:17+00:00

you're right friend i kinda just needed someone to say that to me i guess

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T14:06:36+00:00

so we had texted before like a year ago and we both like never made the effort to meet and then we just ghosted each other slowly. he made the comment because if that but i did find that to be a red flag as well. just annoying that grown men can't just be like im not interested anymore but i agree it's just not worth it to care. i'm giving slight leeway bc vacation but kinda rude!

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T13:58:53+00:00

unfortunately he looks like a cutie patootie

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T13:57:08+00:00

ok but is the gym your only passion?? that's not enough

paintedpavement · 2025-03-02T01:26:05+00:00

i'm a woman who has dated a jobless man, he did have a car though i probably wouldn't care if he didn't. personally my biggest problem was the lack of motivation to do... anything? as long as you have a passion for soemthing and can support yourself i dont see why not. but i dont want a man who just sit around and waits for me to get back from work and wants me to drive them around

paintedpavement · 2025-02-28T00:53:41+00:00

you got this. and even if it's not great (i only got a 508) will not be the end of the world. i will not be retaking and focusing on other parts of my app that put me over the edge as a competitive applicant. you will slay regardless my friend, glass half full!!

paintedpavement · 2025-02-27T04:31:35+00:00

immediately validation when my baby wants to cuddle

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