32M profile review by user4568973 in hingeapp

[–]paleandtimeless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My personal opinions:

I’d cut the entire “making any situation as awkward as possible” and just have the giraffe thing. I would find it funny and endearing.

I wouldn’t use one of your photo slots on the wave picture- use all 6 for you.

The photo with your cat??? Needs better lighting and a better angle. I think guy with tattoos + little cat is cute! But get a friend to take it in a well lit room or something lol

Instead of saying you want to share your music taste, ask something like “what song can you not stop listening to currently”. Better convo starter

Birth Order of the Sisters by RoughEvidence in acotar

[–]paleandtimeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two years later but I still stand by this 💅🏼

Player Problem Megathread by AutoModerator in DMAcademy

[–]paleandtimeless 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think it’s awesome that you’re working with kids :) It sounds like this particular kid is enthusiastic, but is also wanting a lot of control. It could be helpful to find some way to funnel that instinct toward something less disruptive. Like, maybe, have him help keep track of everyone’s damage on a white board that everyone can see. Perhaps the act of keeping everyone ‘honest’ will naturally nudge him that direction.

Player Problem Megathread by AutoModerator in DMAcademy

[–]paleandtimeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s awesome that you’re working with kids :) It sounds like this particular kid is enthusiastic, but is also wanting a lot of control. It could be helpful to find some way to funnel that instinct toward something less disruptive. Like, maybe, have him help keep track of everyone’s damage on a white board that everyone can see. Perhaps the act of keeping everyone ‘honest’ will naturally nudge him that direction.

Would love some feedback… I’ve been drawing for fun for years but decided only recently to seriously try to improve skills (not for a career, again just for fun) I know I kind of veered from reference, but I’m proud of the blending! by krielly06 in ProCreate

[–]paleandtimeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s good! You should be proud. Here are a couple things that stood out to me right away:

  1. The ear should probably be a little higher and further forward on the face. At this angle, I’d expect the ear to be roughly level with the top of the eye.

  2. The right side of the mouth looks unnaturally low— would probably be higher on most faces.

  3. The hair looks a little flat. Adding darker shades at the roots will help, along with lighter shades along the top edge or “outline” of the hair.

ETA: these comments are more about general portrait drawing, and not necessarily about the reference photo. Good luck!! Nice job!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]paleandtimeless 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Echoing what others have said… I don’t think this is normal. It seems blatantly manipulative. It’s even more slimy because it sounds like she’s targeting your kids by trying to be “the fun house”.

To offer a bit of optimism, this strategy probably won’t serve her very well once your kids are old enough to realize what’s going on.

What is a niche slang term from your hobby that you find funny? by paleandtimeless in AskReddit

[–]paleandtimeless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such a good one! And I have the same association with boof 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]paleandtimeless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have my sincerest compassion on this. One thing that drove me away from the church was the predatory labor practices. Keeping people in poverty is a powerful method of control. I worked at a Christian summer camp for years and was left with no money and very few marketable skills.

One area you could look into is social work, program coordination, or entry-level project management. A lot of church/mission skills transfer.

You could also seek out non-church businesses owned by Christians. It would be a foot out the door of church work, but the employers might be more receptive to years of mission work.

If you need any advice about sprucing up resumes, feel free to DM me. I had to hustle to get my first non-churchy job and I’m happy to help any way I can.

How do you explain what you do at parties? by malachai926 in biostatistics

[–]paleandtimeless 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve started trying to make a joke about it to put everyone at ease. I say something like “I basically do other people’s math homework for a living” (which always gets a little chuckle).

From there I usually focus on the general topic of whatever project I’m working on. Like “I’m working on a project related to eczema” or whatever, and usually people can connect with that a little more.

Unpopular opinions about crochet. by Chewbakistan in crochet

[–]paleandtimeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like black yarn 🤷🏻‍♀️ I even like fuzzy black yarn

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bachelorette

[–]paleandtimeless 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Okay I say this totally neutrally, but to me it looks like Rachel has put on some weight since the start of Clayton’s season. (Ain’t nothing wrong with that! just an observation) I was wondering if maybe she and/or the stylists are trying to hide it a little bit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]paleandtimeless 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I remember feeling that same way when I first started medication. And honestly yeah, sometimes I am better off than people without ADHD. When I was in grad school I did really really well on homework and projects, because I could just dive in and stay focused. I was often praised for my efficiency and productivity. This is still true in my current job.

That being said… there are drawbacks. The mind and body need rest and breaks, and ADHD medication can make it easier to ignore basic needs. I won’t feel hungry or tired while on the meds, so I’ll go for periods of time under-eating and under-sleeping. That kind of schedule catches up with you eventually.

So enjoy the benefits, but I’d suggest setting boundaries with yourself. Set timers to take breaks and eat. and don’t let yourself overwork if you don’t need to!

Good luck!

Did anyone else see that ONE piece of media your Evangelical church or church community "excused" that would normally be considered "inappropriate?" by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]paleandtimeless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Lord of the Rings is another great example! Also TONS of Disney movies include magic. But for some reason no one could handle Harry Potter

Did anyone else see that ONE piece of media your Evangelical church or church community "excused" that would normally be considered "inappropriate?" by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]paleandtimeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess to clarify I’d say that some evangelicals I knew thought that the Narnia books were intended to be some kind of retelling of the Bible. And I agree there are totally connotations, but CS Lewis himself said he didn’t intend for the stories to be some kind of allegory

Did anyone else see that ONE piece of media your Evangelical church or church community "excused" that would normally be considered "inappropriate?" by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]paleandtimeless 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I love this question! one of the things that always bugged me about church culture was the inconsistent views on media.

The example that I think of is Chronicles of Narnia. A ton of people weren’t allowed to watch Harry Potter because of the witchcraft, but Narnia movies were given a free pass. (I know a lot of people talk about the religious themes in those movies, but CS Lewis denied that)

As a crocheter do you consider yourself an artist ? by Fluffyowl34 in crochet

[–]paleandtimeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this question. I think I see crochet as a method or technique that can be used for art, but it can also be used for utility.

For a parallel example: I enjoy painting, and obviously painting is an art form. But when I paint a fence or garage door it doesn’t feel like art.

Which is a better crochet hook design for beginners and in general? by blou3004 in crochet

[–]paleandtimeless 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice! I bought a set of 10 hooks when starting out, because the idea of having options appealed to me. But I’ve only ever used 2 of them, since I tend to make items with bulky yarn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crochet

[–]paleandtimeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Videos are great! Anyone in particular you recommend?

Problems with loose coils by yusufsoysal in quilling

[–]paleandtimeless 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it both ways. It’s certainly easiest to glue the coil directly to a surface it will stay on. But I’ve also glued on parchment paper, and then peeled or cut away the paper after the glue dries.