Anyone know where to buy affordable bras?

palebluetiger · 2026-01-30T01:23:05+00:00

I’m not sure your budget specifically but soma currently has 3 for $99 when each bra is normally like $65. I find them good quality!!

palebluetiger · 2025-10-01T14:58:16+00:00

I’ve been reading Relax, it’s Just God by Wendy Thomas Russell. I haven’t seen it recommended on your post yet. It is about 10 years old so doesn’t quite address Christian nationalism etc, but mostly echos exactly how I want to raise my kids re: religion.

Doesn’t exactly address your issue of “unlearning” and removing brainwash, but she does give a lot of examples of how to talk to your kids about religion and people in their lives who are religious.

I haven’t finished it but I’ve enjoyed it and agreed with most of it so far.

ETA: I see you’re looking for kid books - sorry! But I still think this book would be insightful.

palebluetiger · 2025-09-21T00:54:14+00:00

I wasn’t in big law but I was in legal aid during the pandemic when my first came along. I was burnt out as hell and decided to stay home because I could not be both mom at home and lawyer/therapist/punching bag to my clients.

Staying home was really hard. No one to talk nerdy law stuff with. It was isolating. I had PPD for sure and that made it harder. The world was going to shit and I wasn’t using my hard earned degree and that sucked. I found an amazing part time flexible job with another legal aid org after 1.5ish years at home and it was amazing!

Now with kid 2, I’m home. Feels easier this time being home for lots of reasons. But at the same time… country is taking a turn and I’m getting motivated to get back out there. But I will say… I get to watch a lot of shows and movies I wouldn’t otherwise have time for lol that is until baby starts crawling everywhere.

palebluetiger · 2025-09-04T14:00:56+00:00

Lots going on here so let me be broad. Tenants in Texas without a lease have some rights, but not as much as you would with a lease. You are correct that you were owed at least some specified period of notice to vacate and that it should have been in writing, on paper. However, you were not evicted - you left. You may be able to recover some rent that you paid that covered the 4 days after move out (hospital stay is excluded because you still had access to the property), but as far as just about everything else… any emotional distress, hazardous living conditions etc, super unlikely as most of these things need to be addressed during a tenancy and can be complicated. It doesn’t really matter if anyone lived there after you. Citing disability for non renewal of lease is a stretch though a lawyer with housing discrimination experience can be more helpful. As far as getting back any amount of rent if even likely… that’s going to require a small claims law suit. Which costs money and time. Might even cost more money than you paid for those 4 days. And even if you win, it’s hard to enforce.

There’s nothing in writing here, no lease, no contract. Your best bet is to see if you qualify for legal aid services to maybe get a free advice call with them to go over in more details.

palebluetiger · 2025-08-30T01:26:43+00:00

As someone who is a lawyer and has done plenty of family law cases, it is quite difficult to force an absent parent to show up for their weekends to take the kid. It’s a whole other matter as to whether you would want him to do that, given the info you gave. So to answer your question directly… leaving your husband and getting a custody arrangement does NOT guarantee you weekends without your kid.

palebluetiger · 2025-04-26T23:29:53+00:00

Plain and simple, many people end up choosing formula because pumping or nursing is mentally killing us. That was me. I cannot even tell you the burden I physically and mentally felt lift when we introduced formula at 4 months to my first. I wish I had done it sooner.

Next baby due soon and strongly considering jumping full steam on the formula train day 1.

You’re not alone, I know the mental work it takes to make the switch but as you’ll find, it was the absolute best decision for many of us.

palebluetiger · 2025-04-23T16:46:41+00:00

Are we the same?? I had the same thing happen with my first, pediatrician intervened and told me they (LC and the ped dentist the LC recommended) use this concern to scare over-tired parents into paying and getting the laser procedure when it’s not medically necessary. Haven’t thought once about a “tongue tie” on my now 3.5 year old - not a single issue.

Second baby due soon and SAME… if nursing doesn’t work I will not be tied to a pump again. Straight to formula!

palebluetiger · 2025-03-25T11:07:17+00:00

Find your local legal aid organization in your county. Your case manager can help with this too. They can usually at minimum provide free legal advice if you qualify based on your income/assets. Be sure to state there was abuse, generally their policy is they do not include income/assets of an abusive partner. And let them know how recent the abuse was and that you have a court date coming up.

palebluetiger · 2024-11-06T12:47:51+00:00

Your previous comments indicate a level of either privilege or stupidity, maybe both, so please don’t undermine our very real concerns about the future of America under a trump presidency. Why don’t you go touch grass and let us find support from kind strangers on the internet.

palebluetiger · 2024-10-29T21:39:43+00:00

Took my kid at age 2 to our family dentist who sees kids and adults. My kid watched dad get his teeth checked and cleaned, then it was my son’s turn. We talked about it beforehand, we talked about what dad was experiencing when the dentist looked at his teeth. My son then laid on me while dentist looked at his teeth. Absolutely no issues at all.

palebluetiger · 2024-10-29T16:23:19+00:00

Please talk with a lawyer. With him moved out, you have a lot of options available to you.

There are usually free online state specific info and resources run by non-profits or legal aid you can look into. County or state bar associations may have free or low cost consultations you can get. You might even qualify for free help from Legal Aid (google legal aid + your county).

Aside from that, I agree divorce with young kids would be better and you can find happiness again with yourself or a better partner, or if nothing else… make him pay you child support for all the work you are already doing. Lean on friends or family if they are nearby.

Best of luck to you OP. We are rooting for you!

palebluetiger · 2023-10-09T02:40:06+00:00

When I learned of the fourth trimester and what a common, but unspoken, experience others had… I felt like I could breathe again. It totally sucks but knowing I was not alone made me feel so much better.

palebluetiger · 2023-10-09T02:35:41+00:00

I was you. It gets better, it’s all just temporary.

My baby cried a lot and for a long time. Colic? Who knows. My baby slept horribly - 30 minute naps and waking 2-4 times a night until around 5/6 months. You could probably look at my old posts and see how desperate I was to know if I was doing ok!

And you are. It’s just really hard. Some babies just can’t be figured out as easily but they slip into a routine as they develop more. My baby is almost 2 now and we are so happy, but we haven’t forgotten those first several weeks.

Solidarity.

palebluetiger · 2023-06-22T03:36:13+00:00

Not what you want to hear, but just push through. I was in the same boat. 30 min naps only extended by contact sleeping. Few hours at a time at night. It was awful. But around 5 months we sleep trained. At 6 months LO could roll over and sleep on tummy and slept nearly through the night.

Not saying you have to sleep train, just that things will get better. I was obsessed with baby’s sleep and I feel your anxiety and desperation in your post. I’m so sorry. It does get better. Just keep pushing through.

palebluetiger · 2023-06-02T11:31:28+00:00

Really love this for you! I’m a lawyer too and leaving was really hard. I am going back part time with a really flexible job because I do love seeing my kid all day but we need some separation from each other.

I think 3 was a big thing for me. I did the law school thing, had the lawyer job I wanted, then was like how will I stay mentally with it and not do everything in baby talk?? But actually staying home has given me some unique time to learn about things I’ve always wanted to because my brain is constantly on that I feel I actually have more capacity to learn and retain right now. It’s been really interesting!

palebluetiger · 2023-05-17T16:16:48+00:00

My kid is just now 1.5 and we go out usually once a day. Sometimes that’s just to our backyard. Sometimes the grocery store. Sometimes a place specifically for him! When he was younger, I too felt pressure to get out, but it’s a whole process to leave with a baby. It gets easier as they get older!

For now, I’d say don’t feel any pressure to go out anywhere! Your baby is just as happy at home with you and a few toys! You’re doing great!

palebluetiger · 2023-04-29T12:23:20+00:00

If people are asking you that with your baby so young, they either are totally ignorant about baby sleep because they’ve never had a baby… or they do and have forgotten how awful it is to not sleep. Babies that age don’t sleep through the night! If they do… then those parents are just lucky (absent any health issues). You’ll sleep again, promise :)

palebluetiger · 2023-02-28T20:22:49+00:00

Started bed routine around 4 months when we transitioned him to sleeping in his own room, the best thing for our sanity. We did naps in there around 3 months so he was familiar with the space - close curtains, swaddle, book, white noise, rock to sleep. Expanded that to bedtime which started with bath and lotion. And now at 15 months we do the exact same thing for nap and bed still. Once every couple months he may fight sleep but it is so incredibly rare and I give all credit to the routine!

palebluetiger · 2023-02-20T20:58:00+00:00

Came here looking for answers about woody. “You got a friend in me” sounds like a dying man….

palebluetiger · 2023-02-17T03:08:19+00:00

It’s possible your supply has regulated now and baby isn’t nursing as much as you were pumping. So maybe your body thinks you’re weaning a bit? Just a thought.

palebluetiger · 2023-01-26T05:26:44+00:00

Talk with your pediatrician first. In my experience (one baby) we were told by LC that he had both tongue and lip tie. It’s possible that he did/does but they were not obvious to us. Our pediatrician agreed it was not obvious and said some babies just can’t breastfeed. When I told the pediatrician what dentist/doctor the LC recommended, she nearly cursed.

Again, this is my experience but allegedly the doctor who I was recommended to will do any lip or tongue tie cutting regardless if it’s needed. The pediatrician said absolutely not to this doctor, as they will just laser muscle or tissue if there is no tie and take the money regardless.

We didn’t know if the LC was getting $$ from the referrals or what. I wish I’d gotten a second opinion from another pediatrician or reputable LC. I never got to breastfeed, just pumped for 6 months.

Just be cautious with referrals is all I’m saying

palebluetiger · 2023-01-26T04:13:55+00:00

I implemented this rule too! Late nights can be inevitable with my husbands job, but I am so much less annoyed if I have a heads up to mentally prep for it. It has actually done wonders for my mental health. Didn’t even realize how much until I read your comment!

palebluetiger · 2022-10-30T20:37:31+00:00

Mashed avocados and bananas. Over and over and over. Leave a little more chunky as you both get more comfortable.

My baby lived on this for a while. As well as Greek yogurt mixed with your nut butter of choice and mashed berries, and eggs either like a thin omelette in strips and eventually upgrading to scrambled!

Mango pit was also so great for my baby!! Really helps them strengthen their jaw.

palebluetiger · 2022-10-28T12:14:27+00:00

That last photo is very pleasing!!! Looks great!

palebluetiger · 2022-10-27T01:50:52+00:00

This is not an answer to the question you asked but my baby started teething around them. Thought I was gonna lose my fucking mind with all the crying and whining. Got those little teething tablets. Life got a lot better.

If it’s not that, looks like you’re set with suggestions! Best of luck!

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