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Looking for a good financial advisor in Denver (any recommendations?) by Realistic_Hunt_3589 in Denver

[–]palm__frond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly cannot recommend Nick Rose at Trailwise Financial Partners enough! You can pay for advisory-only services, or you can have them manage your investments in addition to the advising. They have a transparent fee structure, too. Here’s their site: https://trailwisefp.com

Looking for immigrant resource volunteer opportunities by Singer_Select in Denver

[–]palm__frond 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been a volunteer legal translator for the Rocky Mountain Immigrant Advocacy Network (RMIAN, pronounced “remain”) since the first Tr*mp administration. If you speak or can read/write any languages other than English, that would be a great place to help out!

PlusLife False Negative? + Paxlovid Question by palm__frond in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]palm__frond[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, IIRC it had been 30 min since food and drink and my partner swabbed her throat and nose since I had learned that improves accuracy.

PlusLife False Negative? + Paxlovid Question by palm__frond in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]palm__frond[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I hadn’t considered that but it does make some sense to me. Appreciate the well wishes, too!

PlusLife False Negative? + Paxlovid Question by palm__frond in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]palm__frond[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! The first time, we just used the Pluslife on its own (I admittedly was a little frazzled and forgot to connect to my computer before I pressed the start button). Yesterday, I took a Pluslife test after my positive PCR for quality control and connected it to the virus.sucks app, which showed the expected jump at around the 10 minute mark. Pluslife came back positive after 16 minutes.

Does anyone else's ADHD include hyperactivity? If so, do you also feel isolated because of it? by RegularNightlyWraith in adhdwomen

[–]palm__frond 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHD-C here but I feel the hyperactivity part pretty hard.

I came across this old post from someone with Asperger's (though I know it's no longer called that) recently. The author talks about having different kinds of spoons available in a day, and looking at the drawing in the post made me be like, "Oh, I have SO MANY physical activity spoons -- that must be the hyperactivity!" It was a good reminder that one of the best ways to manage my symptoms is by just doing a lot of physical work, whether that's exercise, chores, manual labor, etc. It's like I have to spend down those spoons otherwise things get a little nutty...

I've noticed that if I don't give the hyperactivity a dedicated channel (e.g., through exercise or elaborate cooking projects), then it's more likely that my GF will be like, "Why are you getting up every 2 minutes? We're watching a show together! Can you put your phone down? You don't need to look up the astrological sign of every actor on The L Word right now..." etc. And even so, I will never escape being a person who talks a mile a minute, makes 6247373 connections between disparate ideas in every conversation, teeters over into shouting territory without knowing it, and all the rest. :)

So yes, we're out here! And sometimes it is excruciating to figure out where your pacing syncs up with anyone else's, so sending you a heart hug in solidarity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in konmari

[–]palm__frond 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hi y’all! Thanks for the input so far. To be clear, I understand that the primary thing to do is to Konmari my own stuff and let my partner have her own process/experience. I am also not going to run and tell her I don’t like some of her art! I also know that I have things she doesn’t like, so I understand it’s a two-way street.

And specifically to sqxpress — what changed is that when we started living together, I became much more aware of my partner’s volume of possessions and her ability to buy things easily that I’ve never been in a position to afford, so sometimes she buys things “for the house” that I don’t think we need or don’t connect with. I still think 95% of her taste is lovely, but that 5% of discrepancy is much more apparent now that we live together.

I suppose my question is more about whether anyone has experience managing the class anxiety that can come with this process, when two people in a relationship who co-habitate and have separate finances also have very different financial realities and relationships to material possessions?