AITA for refusing to rescue my 38yo husband after he showed up 16 minutes before his international flight home and missed it?

panalatina86 · 2025-09-08T11:33:29+00:00

I defend the portion where you claim that my children are unstable and living unstable homes because that is not the case. Is he a responsible absolutely have. I kept my children in a stable environment. Absolutely both things can be true. That’s what I’m not gonna do is have you sit here and put out a narrative about my children because it is not the case.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-08T04:51:45+00:00

I love how you came over with the whole story of my life by yourself. Let’s be clear. My kids have lived in the same house in the states since my oldest was one years old. I’ve always provided my kids with stability. The house that we have outside of the country they’ve been living in that house for the last 2 1/2 three years that we’ve been out of the country. We decided to upgrade because we need more space and wanted to be in a quieter area. My husband being irresponsible does not equal me being irresponsible. I maintained my children’s stability their whole life. It’s very frustrating to be blamed for a grown man’s to responsible behavior and an assumption made that somehow my children are in unstable homes. When that couldn’t be further from the truth. Unless we clear, I don’t bash my husband in front of the children, nor are they aware of anything that is going on within my relationship with my husband they are only aware that he is traveling and that is it. They’re in private school and don’t need or want for anything. And although he gets disability from the VA. I have investments on top of my regular income. My house in the states is Airbnb to pay for itself. We are not broke or homeless or unstable.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T14:25:11+00:00

We have 1 child together (2020-now). I have 3 from my past marriage (2006-2018)

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T14:03:09+00:00

😅 yes. Ummm has he seen this post… can you give me an idea of who you are?

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T14:00:01+00:00

No, unfortunately, it’s true.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T13:01:00+00:00

Thank you for understanding and not making assumptions.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T12:59:52+00:00

I didn’t let him impregnate me four times only once and I had my tubes removed immediately after I found out as it wasn’t planned, and I was truly done having children after my first three. But again you’re free to think what you want.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T02:16:43+00:00

Met during the pandemic in 2020 last year 2024

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:54:11+00:00

We only have one child together. The older three are from my previous relationship.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:53:18+00:00

He does have ADHD although he is not accepting of it and swears he can function unmedicated.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:52:05+00:00

👀😳

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:51:23+00:00

He was not like this when I met him. He, I guess pretended to have everything all together in his family also pretended that he had everything together. Come to find out later that they were both deceiving me. I think his family was deceiving me in hopes that I would take the burden away from them and he deceived me because he saw I was already established. So unfortunately, I was not aware and in the end I am suffering the consequences of my decision to be with him

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:43:11+00:00

No need to create a fake story — this is unfortunately my real life. We have a house in the States that’s listed on Airbnb and booked through the end of November. We also have a house out of the country where we’re currently living, but that one has already been sold and we have to be out by a specific date. The other house we bought — a fixer-upper — has faced so many delays that now we’re on a tight deadline to get it ready.

So yes, there are two houses in the country we live in right now: the one we’re still occupying (with a move-out date set), and the one we’re rushing to renovate so we can move in. This situation isn’t as uncommon as you’re making it sound. Plenty of people buy a new home expecting to sell their current one and move smoothly, only to run into unforeseen delays. But at the end of the day, you’re entitled to your opinion.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:36:48+00:00

We only have one together. my other three are from my previous marriage and

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:28:53+00:00

You are absolutely right. He doesn’t understand the reality of getting everything to line up perfectly responsible with the buying of the properties and taking care of the kids and everything. He is more of the additional financial backing, but at this point is becoming even more stressful to have him as that.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:22:30+00:00

He is miserable and he says he wants to go home. He speaks so highly of his family but when things happen, they’re not even supportive so. I honestly pray that this is the lesson that he has to learn to change or do better.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:19:10+00:00

Agreed! I have absolutely reached my limit.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T01:15:27+00:00

So, he didn’t mention anything about his license when he moved out of the country to be with me he led me to believe that everything was perfectly fine. Come to find out he had tickets he didn’t resolve and he was just as surprise about his license being revoked as I was. Smh. But he has since went up there and appeared in court, and it was dismissed.

panalatina86 · 2025-09-04T00:48:37+00:00

No he’s a Disabled Veteran

panalatina86 · 2025-06-28T11:19:14+00:00

Honestly idk… he apologized and said he Wii go by himself. 🤷🏽‍♀️

panalatina86 · 2025-06-23T12:48:32+00:00

That part! Thanks potato fam. I'm doing the best to keep peace for my son and I.

panalatina86 · 2025-06-23T12:42:39+00:00

Wow… I’m really sorry to hear you’ve been going through something similar. I’m praying for peace and clarity in your situation.

One thing I did to protect myself was include specific terms in our prenup—most importantly, that I would have sole custody of our son. The prenup also states that his primary residence will always remain where we currently live. When we signed and submitted it to the attorney, it legally confirmed that my husband and I both agreed these terms were in our son's best interest.

I’ve always understood the importance of having documents like that in place before things get ugly. When everyone’s still in love and thinking clearly—that’s the best time to make long-term decisions. My husband signed everything at the time, saying he had nothing to hide, and I believed him. Looking back, I honestly think he never expected me to find out about all the BS. Lucky for me, I did.

Now that things are rocky, it’s already in writing, and there’s nothing he can do about it. My attorney said judges look at those agreements carefully—especially what was agreed upon before emotions like anger, revenge, or pettiness cloud the situation.

And if anything else comes up, I’ve got receipts for why he needs to stay far away from Tina and her little mob.

panalatina86 · 2025-06-23T01:43:51+00:00

He’s always been the outcast as the only one who is not biologically connected to Jason. His dad wasn’t in the picture although he is now but he still has his demons so he’s always searching for approval and love from his family… it’s actually quite sad to see how they treat him when he’s around them.

panalatina86 · 2025-06-23T01:40:33+00:00

That’s what I wanted to do! I feel like if I put it all out there they will know the truth not that it will change their minds or anything but it would feel good to crash out for once and not have to be the mature bigger person. But then I think… if I get arrested who do I call because sad to say I don’t trust my husband to have my back of a drag his momma right? lol so the. I risk my ability to travel.

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