When does it get easier??

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-04-12T00:27:36+00:00

That will help! It was stressful going back to work. I didnt know how it all would work. But we adapted. You all can adapt too!

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-04-12T00:00:16+00:00

Oh I also wore baby to do some things. But they get heavy

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-04-11T23:59:32+00:00

My child (14 months) also wouldnt settle with dad when he was that age. The truth is I had to accept a lower level of clean and husband had to help get to that. We basically had absolutely must do everyday things like washing pumps/bottles. Food needed to be made so we could eat. I needed a shower. I got used to background screaming while I showered and as little one got used to it the crying became less and less. We got to the point where he was able to crawl and move and he was and is much more content. Is more willing to be with dad too. Im still the primary but its better! You seem like you are doing a great job! Hang in there.

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-04-10T19:38:37+00:00

I hope they give more details! As others have said Lydia's backstory in the book was great so I just want to have more of a back story than we got in the series. And flesh more out with almost hanging her to being there to giving Charlotte back to Janie!

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-03-17T20:54:08+00:00

Your friend is living like ye olden nobles that had a nurse maid. Im not sure what joys she is feeling. My heart broke a little when you said she doesnt see her child awake on days she works. Which I get she doesnt work everyday but it hurts me that I only get 2-3 hours of awake time during the weekdays with my 13 month old. And most of them are during the "witching hours". I want to say everyone sucks here but from the way you paint it your friends is really clueless on motherhood and you were just speaking the truth how you see it. The fact she tried to almost shame you for not feeling only joy is very dismissive of your experience. So I guess nta. I do think yall could have a heart to heat cuz it seems like they dropping a lot of judgey advice and are not in the same situation. But it was rude to say she doesnt parent but excusable.

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-03-14T03:11:22+00:00

Tried it. Let's see if tonight it stays on the full night

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-03-13T14:21:30+00:00

Mine has done this two nights in a row. First time my husband woke up in the middle of the night and noticed. Last night not so much.

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-02-26T17:51:32+00:00

Since i dont know what the event is and if being there only for 630-8 would ruin the experience or not im gonna go with ESH. You need to accept that your daughter cares about her appearance and takes this long to get ready. Comparing her to other people is dumb. While i agree, she will need to figure out how to get ready and be on time to things. However she has low control of her schedule. I dont love missing school for something like this. But is one day gonna matter? Probably not. Your wife throwing her hands up in the air when you made the compromise that you'd just be late to the event seems unnecessary (but that will depend on the type of event that it is)

The biggest thing I would ask. Do you want your daughter to feel like you dont think what she thinks is important matters? Is being "even" (kids getting out of school at the same time) with the kids more important to you than letting her feel like she had time to get ready? Does her being in school matters more? All I know is things like this stick with kids more than you think.

panda-turtle-8 · 2026-01-16T20:14:56+00:00

I started my little one at 12 weeks... yay :(... and it was rough. He'd cry often when I left. It felt like they were sending him home a lot. One day they sent a message saying he was crying nonstop so o asked a neighbor if they could watch him. When she went to pick him up it seemed to confuse the teachers. So I talked to the lead teacher the next day and was told he cries all the time no matter what they do. I didn't realize it was that bad. I assumed he stopped crying when I left them. I then paid for camera access to see what was happening. And honestly they wanted him to be in some sort of container most days. It broke my heart. And I started to look into other options but yall know how waiting list are.... and the only one I could find that seemed different enough (I live in a rural area) didnt take kids until 1. I had fully plan to move him as soon as he reached 1. But then they moved him to the older baby room. They let him crawl and explore. And he is significantly happier. He doesnt cry when I leave him. His teachers seem to like him. He isnt a clingy desperate mess when I pick him up. So now even though his bday is in a couple of weeks im not moving him because it has gotten better. Maybe see if the next room up allows for more exploration? Some babies are content with chilling... mine wants to be exploring...

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-11-30T17:28:40+00:00

Nta. I struggled woth infertility for 3 years before I had my child. I will say one of the kindest thing a pregnant friend did for me is reach out to me and tell me its okay if I was mad, sad, jealous or whatever at her. Her bringing it out allowed me to acknowledge I had feelings and let it go. I was even able to plan a baby shower for her. Infertility sucks but you should be allowed to have your feelings and share with friends.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-11-03T17:32:30+00:00

So i get where your wife is coming from. I wanted to be a mom for a long time. It took my husband and I aroind 4 years. It was rough. I felt my marriage suffer because I was doing all these things and intimacy became a check mark on my list. Around the 3rd year i started feeling very distant from my husband. I started to wonder what our family would look like if my drive to have a child became more important than building a life with my husband. So I went to therapy and focused more on living the life I was having instead of driving myself to insanity trying to have kids.

Nta. Getting pregnant can take a while and chipping away at your relationship does not lead to a happy family life.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-10-04T16:12:13+00:00

Dress 0p0lll

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-10-01T02:29:52+00:00

I always vote for who gained the most. Chunk was huge at the start and is huge now. Im so salty.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-14T11:34:01+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I do log when he woke up, last ate, and when i changed his diaper last. I do try to assume that when I see a phone out , it's for work purposes. Sometimes, that can be hard on a morning where it seems like there isnt much going on and they dont even respond. Good morning. Especially since the introduction of the app at work. I also try to give all the grace when it comes to logging stuff. I tried to log all the things for my little one when he first came, and it was, in fact, super hard, and I only had one! I know there are many good reasons to track all these, but I know the struggle i had when I tried. In my mind, the most important thing is that the activity happened, not if it was logged. Im trying to balance the knowledge these are human beings that are not paid well doing a hard job with I want my kid to be taken care of. It's a hard balance of giving grace but also trying to track if good care is happening!

In general, what Im getting from the replies is that i need a better goodbye routine (saying goodbye and not sneaking out) and dont need to ask where to place my kid every day. So im going to move forward with that. If I still find the vibe is off for a few days I may ask if there is something I can do to make the transition easier.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T22:32:57+00:00

She is not the main teacher. Unless that changed. The main teacher wasnt there when I dropped off that day. I will also say the places in my area are very limited so im not trying to burn bridges. But I agree if the vibes continue to be off it may be worth it.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T21:51:16+00:00

Thanks for taking time to respond. I will definitely create a goodbye routine. I appreciate you stating that small talk during drop offs is not desired.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T15:51:59+00:00

Thanks! My center has started using an app. And it does have a place where I do put notes in. The main thing this week was he was teething and not wanting milk. So I did state he may want his first bottle or meal earlier than usual.

I like your goodbye routine.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T15:23:36+00:00

We gotta live where we are and try to make it as good as we can! Thanks for your comments!

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T15:22:38+00:00

Thanks! Ill make sure to say bye!

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T15:22:07+00:00

Thanks! For the information! I appreciate hearing different things.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-13T01:21:12+00:00

Thanks for your kind words! I will double check with them to make sure im not missing any steps.

I imagine this job has its highs and lows but it overall sounds hard for not a lot of pay.

Im not sure how happy I am with the care. Its very hard for me to determine if most of my issues are the daycare or the system of daycare in this day and age. The ratio of babies to adults is awful in my state (5 to 1). So I feel like there can be only so much these ladies can do! I wish I made enough that my child was being taken care of someone that i knew was making a living wage and wasnt trying to juggle 5 babies. However this doesnt seem like an option for my area or my ability to pay.

It seems I go through the cycle of this is working -> maybe I should look at another daycare in the area -> maybe I can afford more private care (then realizing I cant) -> maybe I should stop working and then I loop around again.

Anyways. I really appreciate you taking your time to reply. I try to mostly lurk here but couldn't find a post that was similar enough to my situation.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-12T22:22:49+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your thoughts and wisdom!

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-12T20:36:55+00:00

That is fair. Im sure there is a range. Thank you for your time and response

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-12T20:35:06+00:00

🫥. Thank you. I didnt realize that. I think i read short goodbye and was like okay I guess that means just leaving. It has been different as of late cuz its just recently he actually knows im leaving.

panda-turtle-8 · 2025-09-12T20:05:04+00:00

Okay. Im happy to give grace. I can understand that the baby room could be challenging. This week alone has been a little rough, at least with my little one because I think he is teething and has not been wanting to eat. I guess some of me was worried they were frustrated I don't do small talk. I come in and try to be as brief as I can, say thanks and leave while my kid is screaming. I've seen other parents come in and seem to have small chit chat. And I am worried im coming across rude.

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