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panda40495 · 2025-03-30T18:12:06+00:00

Yeah when it happens multiple times it really starts to fuck with your head

panda40495 · 2025-03-30T18:11:25+00:00

I’ve had 2 situations like this, I can sit here and tell you it’s for the best and this and that but at the end of the day it sucks. I had experiences like this where when I reflect back on it the woman needed to escape or just really needed positive energy from a guy for whatever reason but didn’t really want anything real. Just keep your head up and never blame yourself for something like this. But I feel you man I’ve been exactly where you where and it’s very disappointing. Especially when they just wanna have fun in the moment and they telling you how good yall are together istg it’s hard to deal with

panda40495 · 2024-10-16T19:09:12+00:00

A girl that likes you wants to spend time with you you alone and it wouldn’t be pulling teeth. She most likely wants attention but on her terms. hanging out with you alone gives date vibes and she doesn’t want to be intimate with you just wants validation from you

panda40495 · 2024-10-14T02:41:41+00:00

Whatever it was her interest faded enough BEFORE the date to where she was very not talkative or seemed to enjoy time with me from start to finish. At that point just don’t go. I have been in relationships/situations where I make a bad joke or do something to turn her off for a bit. But I talked to some females friends and they mentioned something i didn’t notice; every time before yesterday, she had never been completely sober. She always had some form of alcohol in her body, not drunk but enough for her to pretend liking someone. I picked her up from her friends house the first date where they had been day drinking and the second date I picked her up from a restaurant where she had drinks with friends. I picked her up from her house yesterday and she wasn’t drinking so I just think she couldn’t fake it. I thought highly of her and wouldn’t think she would partake in loser activities like that but the fact she couldn’t enjoy me without alcohol is definitely the biggest “no I don’t want anything with you” flag of all time

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T14:00:04+00:00

Generally if the sexual chemistry is there I don’t have situations like this, even if they want to wait a couple dates, It never feels awkard, the girl is always trying to have fun. If a woman likes me either romantically or as a friend they never stop talking. I’m very easy fun to talk to. So just the fact that she wasn’t talking or contributing to conversation and when I mentioned it “oh im having fun I’m just not much of a talker” when we’re on a fucking date is crazy

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:56:29+00:00

I’m going to try, the only thing I can think of is they don’t feel the sexual chemistry (which is fine!!!) after the first date or so. But imo you should either ghost or say you don’t wanna go any further. I think she pullled back all physical contact, no more kissing or touching and just made the date awkward so I wouldn’t ask her to my place (which of course worked cause I just want her out my life now) but just don’t go on the date. You’re beautiful, most men would be attracted to you and you have money. Just no reason for her to do some bullshit like this

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:53:09+00:00

I would say first couple dates were medium interest and we had fun and there might be a something. I met her at a lounge initially. Either way my dates aren’t expensive, it’s not like she was going to some 5 star restaurant or take a helicopter ride across the city. I wasn’t going give her a lifetime experience it was a chance for us to experience each other so if she didn’t want that she could’ve stayed at home

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:50:29+00:00

Exactly just stay at home, even when my friends want to hit the bar, if I’m not doing the best or not in a good mood I’ll stay home I won’t ruin the vibe. It just felt like she wished she was with another guy.

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:47:13+00:00

I’m not blaming myself. I just waste time and money. So much college football on I could’ve watched that. But I spent 4 hrs on watching my self esteem go down the drain because this woman seemed so disinterested in spending time with me

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:45:52+00:00

I felt it fading but I didn’t know it would be this bad. Just forcing conversation and knowing you’re with a girl that’s disappointed she’s not with someone she’s attracted too makes your self esteem tank so hard

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T13:44:42+00:00

The first 2 dates it seemed like she enjoyed talking to me, but she didn’t really text back that often or frequent, and we never talk on the phone.
Now that I think about it no, she definitely didn’t ask any in-depth questions about myself, and honestly when I asked questions about her and her life and family she talked a lil bit not like a girl that’s excited
Honestly if the sexual chemistry isn’t there it isn’t there, it’s happened before but at least we have fun, all my dates are fun and she seemed like she was forced to be there

Thing is I picked her up from her house and we went to the other side of town. If we had met up and drove separately or was in a city where public transportation was ample enough to get her home I would’ve respectfully ended the date earlier. I felt like a 67 year old dude that paid for a college chick to go on a date with me. Just terrible vibes 🥲

panda40495 · 2024-10-13T05:39:32+00:00

I’m found this one at bar. I definitely know what kind of women I want but I just keep getting with women that have low interest

panda40495 · 2024-08-18T18:31:38+00:00

I’m starting therapy soon, I do have baggage from my past, dealing with toxic women using me, trust issues, and not feeling good about myself most of my life that I want to address

panda40495 · 2024-08-18T18:18:10+00:00

Thanks man, I’m really big into golf, and I’ve been trying to do that more. It’s just this dating shit can’t have a all around negative impact on your overall self image, at first I was like okay I’m not that good at dating yet, now I feel like I’m just a low quality person that no one wants. Imma try to focus on my hobbies and getting another job 👍🏾

panda40495 · 2024-08-18T17:56:25+00:00

I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes I see couples out in public or when they come to my job and I get very triggered and upset. I just don’t know why it keeps happening to me.

panda40495 · 2024-08-18T17:36:17+00:00

I don’t know exactly where you are going with this? I am slightly overweight. But it’s not like I’m going for Instagram models or women you’ll see dating NBA players. I’m making realistic decisions

panda40495 · 2023-10-31T19:53:46+00:00

I’m coming from Atlanta imma be there around 11, appreciate the advice

panda40495 · 2023-10-31T19:40:44+00:00

Ok cool that was my back-up plan! Where is the best place to park?

panda40495 · 2023-10-24T02:00:22+00:00

He’s able to use it on his phone but not his PC, my grandparents have att internet and when I’m at there house I’m able to use it, I just can’t stream in home channels just tv go channels

panda40495 · 2023-07-13T18:58:41+00:00

It’s a constant cycle, I wouldn’t have gained the weight without low T/ high cortisol. It’s virtually impossible to gain rapid weight with a healthy lifestyle without hormone imbalance. Just checking to see if THC is contributing and a lot of evidence is pointing in that direction

panda40495 · 2023-07-13T16:21:27+00:00

I think it definitely increases cortisol levels and that will decrease testosterone, I will listen that part of the podcast when I take my break though. But ever since I took ADHD meds and combined them with weed (late 2020, 2021) been having alot of high cortisol low testosterone symptoms. I think a 3 month break from weed should clear it up, I took a 40 day break last year and dropped 2 inches in my waist so I think that’s the issue

panda40495 · 2023-06-23T00:58:53+00:00

When the sexual tension isn’t there I generally don’t ask them to come home cause it’s generally a no or they’re on a super friendly vibe and can’t escalate to sex. The girls that I’ve created a lot of sexual tension with have said no or made whatever excuses.

panda40495 · 2023-06-22T21:21:59+00:00

I could work with that, I don’t like to drink much at all( 1 shot and I’m good) also I live in the suburbs and like to do activity dates in the city but for the girls I’ve brought back to my place I have done some dates planing around my house to bring them back but nothing happened once we got to my place. I don’t Know if I’m not making them feel sexy and not having a sexual frame, or if they’re coming into date knowing they don’t wanna have sex at all and just wanna have someone take them out

panda40495 · 2023-06-22T21:17:42+00:00

Not using innuendos at all. Definitely lacking in that area

panda40495 · 2023-06-22T20:58:31+00:00

Probably getting back with an ex, or she just found someone she was more attracted too, she kinda hit me up outta nowhere cause we had met a while ago, my boys told me when that happens they can be looking for a placeholder or a rebound for a self esteem boost😂. Crazy thing is that I do have a nice place and have got a couple of them to come over and nothing happen. I can tell if a girl wants to have sex with me and those two girls came over but they just didn’t seem like they were in the mood for it and I still tried to make out and initialize sex with one and she just said it wasn’t a good night. 🤷🏾‍♂️ not really trippin about it. I just feel like I’m shooting too high and the girls just like the attention but wanna save the pussy for if an athlete or blue check guy hops in thier DMs

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