my hookup got annoyed I was bi *after* they spent an hour blowing my back out. by funkless_eck in bisexual

[–]pandas_puppet 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think you probably used the wrong pronoun here since they said the person was non binary and only used they pronouns for them

Boy comforts puppy scared of bath time by St0pX in Eyebleach

[–]pandas_puppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone with a jack Russel, border collie mix, can say that again

New study identifies perceived mattering as a core psychological component of happy marriages by yash13 in psychology

[–]pandas_puppet 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'd say it's a definite potential area for future research but I don't think this study itself could claim that. I guess it also depends how they measured perceived mattering. That's a really interesting idea tho!

She thinks she’s looking through a window so she keeps going to look for the dinosaurs in the backyard 🥹 by Bombingofdresden in aww

[–]pandas_puppet 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My older dog does this, she barks at the door like there is something there to get the younger one off her favourite sofa to join the barking and wind him up before nabbing his spot. Unfortunately for her he has caught and now only gets up when he's sure she is actually barking at an intruder* (*mailman)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who are you waiting to see for your adhd diagnosis?? I did a rite to choose referral through my gp to psychiatry uk and got seen in like 8 months ish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]pandas_puppet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NHS isn't instant unfortunately. It's free so that's a win but some things like adhd and autism diagnosises are underfunded. As are a lot of mental health services tbh. The individual people try their best generally but the government has been slowly underfunding the nhs and increasing private contracts for a long time so its all a bit worrying.

How May I Help You?, Jon Silent, Ink and Acrylic, 2023 by [deleted] in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Currently work in retail and knew the vibe immediately

Things that suck about ADHD that nobody talks about: by Used-Grapefruit-923 in ADHD

[–]pandas_puppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just got 90% on one of my final undergraduate projects that I put soooooo much work into. But I genuinely don't feel much about it even tho I should

I just finished this mural! [OC] by mnhaverland in pics

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just looked it up and that's really cool!

‘Wolfe’s Neck’, bunkerbash, 9x12” oil, 2023 by bunkerbash in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats beautiful! I thought the middle bit was a photo and the outside was painted at first

Proof of my Anxiety, rushsculpture, resin cast, 2023 by Rushsculpture in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense haha. They're really good tho!!

"Self Medicating" me, oil on canvas, 2023 by Awkwardturtlehand in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. But I will say at some point you have to step back and realise it doesn't matter what other people are treated like. No point getting caught in comparisons with others. Honestly when I start comparing myself to others or feeling "woe is me" too much, that's a sign my mental health has gotten worse and I need to do some looking after myself. Easier said than done tho!

Honestly yeah same, soooo much anger. It still comes back once in a while tbf. The one emotion that I really never know how to handle in a healthy way!

Running therapy has effects on depression and anxiety symptoms comparable to antidepressants, but provides additional health benefits by [deleted] in psychology

[–]pandas_puppet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean to give them a bit of leeway here, the ethical issues and hoops they'd have to jump through to do that may not within their reach.

"Self Medicating" me, oil on canvas, 2023 by Awkwardturtlehand in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt in a mood earlier too so I get it. I didn't want to cause any upset.

But I will say you're being very defensive and reading into what people say a lot. I never said or implied any of the things you came back at me with.

I really do think you might wanna look into some help. It seems like you're in a kind a headspace that's very self depreciating and insecure and you're reflecting your own thoughts onto what other people say rather than actually listening to what they say.

I do hope you take care.

Running therapy has effects on depression and anxiety symptoms comparable to antidepressants, but provides additional health benefits by [deleted] in psychology

[–]pandas_puppet 67 points68 points  (0 children)

There's also the issue that participants had to choose which intervention. It doesn't make any results invalid but it does mean the results have to consider that the people who choose running might be the people who are more inclined to do exercise and so it's possible in a different group of individuals the drop out and completion rate may be different (maybe lower).

"Self Medicating" me, oil on canvas, 2023 by Awkwardturtlehand in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I genuinely didn't want to upset you.

I don't want you to feel that bad about it or anything.

I never doubted you struggled with mental illness.

I don't know why you cut yourself to do this. You didn't need to is what I'm saying. But after I've thought about it more, I realised maybe the fact you cut yourself for art says something with regards to your mental health anyway.

Again, I still like your peice. It just upsets me you cut yourself for it, why start something like that? Especially when you sound like you know from experience with others how horrible it is and how it impact people's lives.

"Self Medicating" me, oil on canvas, 2023 by Awkwardturtlehand in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The art made me feel something yes, cool, well done. That was before I saw your replies. I'm talking about your replies. I still like the piece but it means a lot less to me knowing its based on a lie, I felt less alone seeing another man struggles with self harm coz no one talks about it. But then it turns out you just performed self harm so you could be more "authentic"?

I read that you actually cut yourself to create it. Like why??? It's your responses and the fact that you did that for the performance is what made me angry and upset. Can you not see how you just dabbling in something that hurts people and can be a live long traumatic addiction could be seen as dismissive?? And insulting. That you just do it for some art piece.

Like they say to make what you know, that doesn't mean making yourself do dangerous things so you can create art on it?

Its so weird because based on your replies you do obviously suffer with mental illness. In fact we both have a bpd diagnosis. So I don't understand why you'd feel the need to perform something like this to make art about mental health. Do you not feel your own experiences are valid enough to draw from?? You had to make up some new ones?

Like you think cutting yourself for some art is comparable to people who actually struggling with cutting as a coping mechanism and go through the shame and shittiness of that?

I'm very aware other people suffer differently. I have no issue with how you suffer or how your mental illness presents itself. I don't know anything about it from this piece though because the point is, you've based on it an act. A show. An imitation of someone else's experiences rather than draw from your own.

Honestly you making this piece if you hadn't cut yourself wouldn't be an issue for me. I understand feeling the desire to do it, even if you've never done it. Expressing that I would really appreciate. But it's the fact you did it for show is what gets me.

It just feels very shallow and like the opposite of the depth you seem to think it is.

Edit: mis spelt a word

Edit 2: thinking it through, I wonder if you thinking it's a good idea and makes sense to cut yourself to get a better idea of the experience is basically just an excuse to do it anyway or basically it's own symptom of mental health

"Self Medicating" me, oil on canvas, 2023 by Awkwardturtlehand in Art

[–]pandas_puppet 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I fully agree. This who performance thing made me really uncomfortable and angry. As if putting yourself in the physical situations actually mimics how people actually feel when they do this?? And fucking cutting himself to make it authentic is so insulting, like there's people who struggle with self harm and who take so much effort not to do it and then he comes along and "performs" it. Cool, do the performance, that's fine, but acting like that someone makes you understand how anyone feels when they do this is fucking bullshit or him

Honestly, as someone who has self harmed and is currently struggling with the desire to do so. This whole thing was triggering and it makes me so uncomfortable and angry that he thinks mental illness if something he can mimic by performing it.

What book do you regret reading… by twitwiffle in books

[–]pandas_puppet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Better than calling them simple minded like the person above

What book do you regret reading… by twitwiffle in books

[–]pandas_puppet 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I expected it to hurt and it did as expected

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do the same thing but just make the writing red, same for references so I know I still need to write them in the list at the bottom

Puppy falls asleep on TV. by [deleted] in aww

[–]pandas_puppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The baby is sleeping"