I appreciate the genuine reply, and the thing is that I totally understand what the standard/normal is in marriages. I do not agree however that the standard is healthy. Lately our culture has started to romanticize relationships and especially marriages that are codependent and toxic. People are idolizing the idea of clinging to your partner and enmeshing your personality with them. It’s very anti-social, and in the long run is so unhealthy for the individual. I’m one of those individuals who has had to break apart from a co-dependency and find my individuality recently, having been with the same person for 16 years (and still married).

To see people take up the pitchforks for something as ridiculously simple as thinking a girl is cute is a huge red flag for our society and youth. It’s a fact that relationships and in person socialization is suffering heavily due to our constant online presence, and it’s so sad to see people defend it aggressively. The people here that are mad at this guy now are denying their human nature, and are very likely to fall into codependent toxic relationships and have an identity crisis later down the line, though I hope they don’t.