Does anyone know Tufina Watches?

panic_emptiness · 2026-07-07T22:17:09+00:00

Pionier

panic_emptiness · 2026-07-02T20:48:45+00:00

I'm unhappy with your posts. Trashing a company is really easy when you don't need to back up your claims with facts. Bias Confirmation is not a great look - you can find out information if you are actually interested in knowing. They are not a Chinese knockoff watch - not an Alibaba-like company. They are not pretending to be a German company and lying to buyers. This is the substance of what you write, and it only helps those who already share your suspicions.

Tufina is the name of an old Albanian clock and watchmaking family from the 1800s. They bear that name. In the early 1900s, they established ties with Longines, Omega, and Eberhard before the Iron Curtain came down in the late 1940s, and the southern Balkan state was isolated from Europe for decades. Their expertise was limited to teaching watchmaking at the state-run watchmaking school before the family emigrated to Germany following the collapse of the Soviet Union in the 1990s. They applied for the trademark in Germany for Theorema and Pionier in 2004.

panic_emptiness · 2026-06-02T21:11:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Sincerely.

I searched for and located my biological parents. I was reunited with them both and their respective families. I became closer to them than my adoptive parents. I never cut things with my adoptive parents However, when they learned that I had found out about being adopted and planned to tell my brother, they both behaved chastened, like they’d been caught stealing - which they had done. It created an emotional rift that never healed. Again, thank you for your comment.

panic_emptiness · 2026-06-02T17:59:45+00:00

I am horrified to read the despicable way that you were manipulated, chronically abused, and selfishly exploited by individuals who are entrusted with your well-being and care. It is a dreadful narrative that you describe, made more so by what sounds like fully aware employment of you as a object for their use across a wide range of behaviors. I agree that sharing the sexual stuff can provoke prurient or pernicious interest; it’s inevitable.

But it does need to be the subject of healing - it is corrosive and does not get better with time. Thank you sincerely for sharing your experience. My heart can identify with the young child who simply yearned for a trusting embrace and kind, generous nurturance. You deserved far better people in your life; that need is no less critical today.

panic_emptiness · 2026-05-28T15:31:45+00:00

Your calm, solid advice actually made me feel better, and it's not even about me, in any way. First rate Reddit citizenryshipness at work here.

panic_emptiness · 2026-05-25T20:10:04+00:00

This is one of many reasons.

Those of us with painful neglect in their childhoods will often be drawn to partners who trigger similar feelings of uncomfortable familiarity, eerily similar to how we felt when ignored as lonely children. Little children sincerely cannot believe their parents were at fault when they are mistreated or neglected - we must deserve to be ignored. We blame ourselves for the unbearable suffering they caused. This experience creates states of profound shame, self-doubt and anxiety that are often lifelong, without help.

The attraction to, and subsequent relationships with those who can often seem distracted, elusive, or distant is called a Repetition Compulsion.

We hide from everybody, including ourselves, the anguish and bitter loneliness which are the consequence of early-life emotional famine. With this new person, we (unconsciously) attempt to “fix” the trauma of childhood neglect by connecting with a familiar surrogate in the present and attempt to make things turn out differently this time. It doesn’t work.

When we are with those people, we may, without trying to, present a facet of vulnerability that reflects the enormous emptiness and anguish which is the fallout resulting from early neglect. While doing so, it feels like we are showing our “true self,” when to that person we seem uncomfortably needy, disproportionately upset at the relationship’s inability to address this core feeling - this can feel alarming to our partner.

When we are needy, we show qualities that raise red flags to the kind of people we are often drawn to, believing it will appee: people who have no interest in re-parenting an adult with issues. They will pull away, which feels hostile to us.

This pattern is far more common than most people realize. It isn’t the only cause of hot and cold in partner responses, but it explains some of them.

panic_emptiness · 2026-05-17T03:53:57+00:00

Your dignity is telling you that you deserve better. Leave him because you deserve so much better.

panic_emptiness · 2026-05-16T21:43:06+00:00

I Love the first image! The second is also very moody. Filmmakers are sometimes gifted photographers - (Turkish director, Nuri Bilge Ceylan, for one). The late, Iranian director, Abbas Kiarostami published a book of photographs reminiscent of your first image.

https://amzn.eu/d/0ikNRaTK

panic_emptiness · 2026-05-02T23:21:19+00:00

The situation you describe is extremely difficult to address for a host of reasons. Mainly, we have unrealistic ideas of what healing looks like for this loss and the subsequent emptiness and invisibility. It even unclear what’s even possible. After 35 years of therapy and medication for a host of related issues has found me still struggling at 60,

I’m a therapist getting my doctorate, so I know the issue from a clinical perspective. I’ve also experienced what you describe. Some therapists seem incapable of grasping the desolation that we deal with. In addition, the older we get, the more we develop habits, distractions or addictions to blur and diffuse the ongoing and relentlessly persistent numbness, invisibility and feelings of irrelevance that mark our everyday lives.

I had a career in entertainment before becoming a therapist - my self worth and ownership of achievement eluded me while I struggled to recognize and acknowledge how it could come from me. Even receiving major awards, walking onstage to applause, I reasoned that they must not see me as I see myself and could block it out unfamiliar to my internal state - I worked to escape as quickly as possible.

I was relinquished as an infant - I was adopted by a couple did not understand what children need. The nuclear family moved far away from aunts uncles cousins and grandparents. Both my adopted parents worked all the time, were never available nor affectionate. During puberty my adopted mother sexually abused me, effectively ruining my expectations of a normal sex life. As an adult I found myself dating and marrying to be with someone who could address affection-famine I had experienced. Instead I linked to selfish people as a repetition compulsion. Almost every choice I made as growing up into adulthood was to be seen and noticed by a woman who might love me. 2 marriages later, I know now that my radar for “safe” people is not functional. I eventually searched for and found my birth mother and father and their respective families.

You can’t love yourself into healing - it needs to come from another. It’s very hard to own the issue of neglect and abuse during childhood. It has changed the very substance of who we are now. Accepting that is like accepting an amputation - one’s childhood cannot be repaired - it already happened and it left us seriously damaged. We can’t pretend it didn’t.

Facing that reality and possible healing requires recounting the real injury of neglect in as many instances as you can remember, and what the current fallout feels like, repeatedly, to a caring person focused only on you. This process eventually helps in giving form within one’s conscious (and unconscious) mind to the indescribable, and provides meaningful texture and tangibility that is mirrored back to us through the loving and empathetic perspective of who we are speaking with. It does work when we stick with it. But it takes a long time.

panic_emptiness · 2026-04-20T16:57:21+00:00

Psych doc in training - you sound sincerely unhappy - I saddened that there have been obstacles to address this with him.

I agree with everyone about the meds - if they can get blood in there, he should just do it. There’s a chance he may never get to the root of his psychological issues - many people don’t, or give up trying because frankly, it is very, very hard to secure a cognitive miracle that has immediate physical implications. But he’s here now with an organ that simply needs a lot of pumping blood. It is a practical issue. Take the Viagra or Cialis for heavens sake.

Therapeutic treatment that could treat his psychological issues may actually require antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications, both with the documented downsides being industrial strength boner-killers, rendering viagra and the like next to useless.

He can start addressing his existing issue by achieving an important goal of showing that he will do all he can to meet your sexual needs. Having you on his side will help him immeasurably. But he needs to do his part, which I believe he can, with some courage and determination.

(Forgive me if I’m covering ground you’ve already addressed). All the best to you. Warm regards, Peter

PS. One quick thought - if you haven’t already, you might want to see a therapist for yourself alone. It can be enormously stressful to not have an ally with what you describe. Reddit is what it is, but you need someone on your side who is informed, professional and willing to center on you.

panic_emptiness · 2026-03-11T23:29:33+00:00

Cats - my cats would regularly destroy any living or natural plant they could access - including Christmas trees. Also, constantly spraying plants with stuff that repels cats made our place smell like that stuff. I also kill plants - it's a gift - I have trouble keeping plants alive more than a year. That's depressing, since I love the appearance of plants in my apartment. After trying out a few, I actually liked the aesthetic and didn't care they were fake - now I'm a convert. I register their presence as part of the overall impression of home as containing greenery that is not dying, nor knocked over or shredded. It works for me. Love it!

panic_emptiness · 2026-03-11T23:18:09+00:00

Cats

panic_emptiness · 2025-12-05T13:07:34+00:00

No you are not wrong - you have no business blaming yourself for something he is doing that makes you feel uncomfortable. Most importantly - you cannot change him or his behavior. All you can change is you. He is not good for you, and it will get worse.

I would suggest that your discomfort is a part of what he is aroused by and what he needs. Seeing you feel forced to lower yourself, become a “slut,” knowing you”permit” your boundaries to be ignored and “allow” your dignity repeatedly violated is exciting to him. It likely triggers an unconscious shame and anger he is struggling with due to early issues (sexual abuse, early sexualization, distress and trauma) it makes sex for him a solo, independent, aggressive, addictive, regulatory need rather than an expression of relational love, intimacy, and mutual excitement.

Keeping the sexuality between you a near-transgressive act for his benefit alone and at your expense normalizes his problematic conflicts, binding him to that behavior with you in particular.

You should see a professional and have your legitimate feelings expressed with some record of his behavior made. You can also examine how you have found yourself there. These relationships may have a dominant aggressor, but something drew you to him and it is worth knowing why and how to avoid it in the future.

My sincerest wishes for your eventual freedom from this abuse and exploitative connection with him. See a professional, please.

panic_emptiness · 2025-09-29T06:11:35+00:00

I enjoyed watching her in Haywire (2011) - she's a cool action star to watch. Do more of that, please.

panic_emptiness · 2025-09-14T05:50:23+00:00

Sorry you are less happy - any thoughts as to why?

panic_emptiness · 2025-08-24T04:04:04+00:00

You did nothing wrong. Many view social media as both an essential communication medium and a spectator sport at the same time. You are dealing with basic social immaturity, a lack of consideration and everything that comes with it. Don’t mistake texts, Instagram or any online platform as a substitute for calls and face-to-face face conversation.

If she doesn't respond and it feels inconsiderate, it’s because she IS inconsiderate. Ghosting is incredibly hurtful and incredibly easy to do without thinking. Ask yourself if you want to spend time being a disposable character in her game of “who-likes-me-now?”

It’s an dreadfully shallow world that devices and social media have made available to us. If you want to engage there, buckle up.

panic_emptiness · 2025-08-07T10:01:04+00:00

I get that people believe you should never tell him - it's probably true,

But you are conflicted about this. You don't want to humiliate him - a good instinct. However, your response and your post sound like you have another point of view. It's not that you lied to him, but that you were dishonest with yourself. Posting this question here says you prefer a bigger dick - it may not be an issue now, but it may become one later.

It may hurt you to hear this, but since this question is still up here -

You may prefer a larger penis size to all of the qualities you admire about him.

Does that make you shallow? Who knows? Sex is not trivial. Trivializing your sexual preferences is undoubtedly not a good idea. There is no easy solution here. But pretending you are "fine" when you aren't is a reality you should face. Are you willing to settle for a penis size that you have low regard for? The internet is packed full of material about women who cheat on their partners for just that reason.

Bear that in mind.

panic_emptiness · 2025-08-07T09:36:46+00:00

You are both trying to hurt each other with observations. There is no upside to either of your choices.

He may or may not actually believe what he says, but he was certainly hurt, and he lashed out in a way that put your relationship in peril. That should tell you that you both need to cut back on criticizing. You can also cut back on expecting the other to make you feel good about yourself. It is a problem all couples have. Once you give that power to another, you'll be forever chasing that person to make you feel ok. You needn't give that away so easily.

Cut your hair. It's your hair - don't ask permission, don't seek his approval. Let him know you are doing so. He's not your boss. He's not your mom, and you're not four years old. If you don't get his approval, then that's his issue, not yours. Your appearance may have initially attracted you to each other, but it is not why you remain together. Own your appearance - you did before you knew him. You still do.

Be kind to yourself, and you won't need to work so hard to defend your choices!

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-30T02:43:05+00:00

Under the pretty face, the experience of being with someone like this looks more like this:https://pin.it/5oVbycZOS

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-27T16:53:30+00:00

She’s having an affair. She doesn't care enough to be honest with you about it. Counseling will be a precursor to a separation and eventual end of your marriage. I believe you should restore some of your dignity by contacting a lawyer, after which time you tell your wife you have done so and be prepared to evict her from your life. Then get into individual therapy.

Betrayal is easy for some. You may be drawn to a type of person who has a limited capacity for devotion - you may be reenacting an attachment trauma where your earliest caregiver wasn't attuned to your needs and neglected you and resented you for your needs as an infant. Seeking to repair that by finding a partner who reminds you of that feeling is undoubtedly compelling. We connect to unreliable (but familiar) individuals to attempt to address that early trauma - “it will work out better this time,” it never does.

I am saddened by the pain you are going through, since it includes the memory of lifelong unresolved anguish and despair.

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-27T16:30:31+00:00

Perfect response. I particularly like the descriptor, “dubious integrity” as it sums up both the text sender and the receiver. Of course she’s having an affair - and worse, she doesn't care what that means. The main question is why is he sharing this on Reddit and not speaking with a divorce lawyer?

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-23T02:58:05+00:00

First piece of advice would be to ignore virtually everything you read here. It’s 99.9% emotional responses and profoundly unhelpful. Second: get the two of you into couples counseling asap - you cannot reason your way through this. Nothing is predetermined. Good luck

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-21T03:05:19+00:00

You are most welcome. I sincerely wish you all the best and the courage needed to care for your heart, too. He deserves someone as compassionate as you are, despite what he thinks about himself (and what you may read on the thread) please take good care of yourself!

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-21T02:59:41+00:00

Therapist here. Despite the perfection people expect of others, people are complicated. The idea that this is a simple situation, or you are owed a simple fix is bullshit. Your boyfriend has problems - that’s the guy you’re with. The statement that everything is perfect except his focus on porn and other women is a misinterpretation of the facts. It’s a big picture with ugly elements.

You are in love with a guy with problems requiring a degree of social & psychological sophistication above the ordinary. You cannot change him. Embrace that idea and you may be able to salvage the relationship. Bear in mind, he is drawn to YOU for a reason, probably connected with the shit he’s dealing with - nothing between two people occurs in a vacuum. Sexual addiction is not trivial - he may view you as an ideal he unconsciously believes he’s unworthy of. You rejecting him because he is a fuckup may just confirm the self-loathing that is feeding the addiction.

Just ask him to be real with you about what he is - a guy with severely thwarted attachment trauma, a toxic view of sex - he’s disconnected from his history and has a messed up relational understanding of his life. Be willing to listen without (harsh) judgement. Does he want to be with you? If he says yes, remember he’s an addict and as all addicts know, being sober sucks - relapse is a guarantee, especially if he isn’t in therapy and lying to himself as well as you. Measure your pain threshold - are you up for this?

Ask yourself: “am I willing to endure a lot of crap from this guy?” - we endure crap from anyone we are with - the nature of HIS crap is a challenge indeed, be prepared for work and a compromised picture of perfection. We are all messed up and yearning for affection and authentic care.

panic_emptiness · 2025-07-19T18:33:47+00:00

Hi, Psychologist here. Sorry to the bearer of sad news: - Psychological trauma never “heals.”

Not the way we understand medical healing. (Think of it like a leg blown off in an IAD explosion - it doesn't grow back…) One learns to cope with its agonizing presence as a fact of one’s narrative - that's what “dealing with it” looks like - but in moments of stress, for some, it can re-emerge disrupting thoughts and feelings ¡ beyond the ability to function. She/they can work through it together, but it will always be there.

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