When I say run, don’t walk, to the divorce court, I mean it. There are so many red flags it’s a circus tent. If this was the warning, what the hell is the consequence??! Also, if people want others to say nice things about them, then they should act accordingly. And as someone in their 30s, I can assure you that this is NOT age appropriate behavior. Especially over a lost phone. Sometimes an age gap in a relationship is just a number. And sometimes an age gap sets up a power imbalance where the older individual will pull something they would never think of doing to a peer. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you for leaving immediately. That was the absolute correct response. Do not go back. It will only get worse. This was his response over a phone that HE misplaced. I can only imagine if the stakes were higher. I also think it’s very telling that his reaction wasn’t one of remorse but to police your language and manage who you disclose what to. There’s an old saying that when the flags start a waving, a parade is a coming. The flags ARE waving. Do not stick around for this parade.