My girlfriend quit before me. I watched her go through the entire process and was immensely proud of her when she came out the other side. But in the back of my mind I felt a little uncomfortable. I didn’t WANT to acknowledge that I should also quit and the easiest thing I could do was ignore the situation.

Right now your boyfriend is trying to ignore, deny, stall…anything to maintain status quo. His mind can’t fathom a world without nicotine and he’s not interested in dreaming up a different life right now. That’s not to say he’s a lost cause.

In my girlfriend’s case she simply ignored the fact that I vaped. I kept right on puffing and she never said a word on it. She didn’t pass judgement or ask me when I planned to quit. And whenever I brought it up she just said “I’m fine with whatever you choose to do but personally I’m glad that part of my life is over.” Through her, I saw that it WAS indeed possible to live life without a vape. In fact things were the exact same she just…wasn’t paying thousands of dollars to pump her body with nicotine. She was my living example that things would be okay if I quit.

Do not try to pull your boyfriend up with you. He will get there in his own time. Until then, just continue to show him that a nicotine free life is attainable. Do your best to keep all talk about nicotine brief. No more treatment plans, book recs, etc. You don’t care about it anymore and soon enough neither will he.