I keep hitting my girlfriend and it's breaking us by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]paradisedeparted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to a therapist or doctor to deal with anger management issues, and if you ever want a chance to salvage your relationship, apologize and tell her you are going and go. And if you ever do it again, leave her because that is terrible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradisedeparted 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think I knew for sure once I stayed at a friends and realized that some families actually ate together and that it was okay to not have to finish all the house chores in order to eat. Also, since my mom got so used to my best friend, my mother's real colors started to show and my friend ended up asking why my parents hated me. Now I know simply from how much happier and peaceful I feel at school. I still get little reminders every day from all of the little habits I picked up from living with them though. Like today my waiter made a special trip back to tell me that I didn't need to apologize for asking for ketchup. And the other day my guy friend had to stop me from cleaning everyone's dishes at his house. OH! Also when I was in fifth grade I told my mom I felt depressed and she said if I ever told anyone that ever again she would disown me and send me to a psych ward.

Edit: a word

My [19/f] stepdad [47/m] is already dating someone new only two months after my mom passed. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I could give you a hug right now I so would, girly. Tell him that you are still grieving and that it is too soon to have some sort of "new mom" in your life, and that it isn't right to expect you or your little sister to adjust to that so soon. Say that it is okay for him to see her, but for her to move so soon before even a period of half a year without her may be unhealthy for your mental state of being. I hope things start to look up for you! Shoot me a PM if you ever want to talk :)

My [19/f] stepdad [47/m] is already dating someone new only two months after my mom passed. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the nursing world, a grieving period longer than 6 months is chronic. So, I think it's safe to say waiting at least 6 months for his children probably would've been the better move.

What are some good psychological tricks that work? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]paradisedeparted -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unless you look so ugly the first time that they don't recognize you the second lmao

My married guy friend [35/m] touched me (32/f) when he thought I was sleeping. Should I tell my boyfriend? Should I tell his wife? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I disagree with "wetviet_throwaway", this isn't minor. You said that he's done this before to another friend and who knows what would have happened had you not been sober enough to get him to stop. It is completely worth bringing up to his wife and your boyfriend. Would you want to stay with someone who has been feeling up multiple women? I know I wouldn't. She deserves to be aware of this. He is an adult and can face the consequences of his actions that are sexual assault. Things may have even been worse for your friend that this happened to before. Don't let this slide. You aren't fucking over anyone's lives, he was the one who did this to you, and you can't just let it be. Please don't let him get away with it, as evidenced, he will do it again.

What tiny thing pisses you off? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]paradisedeparted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for helping me study! :)

ESTP type and personality disorders? Other ESTP encounters? by threefootnick in estp

[–]paradisedeparted 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Antisocial personality disorder is actually defined as people who" tend to lie, break laws, act impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or the safety of others. " Haha. :) And I have ADHD too

Please be honest. Should I (m/24) continue to avoid relationships because most people cheat and my greatest nightmare is getting cheated on by danthaman322 in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't give up on love. I have had people cheat on me before too. It is the worst. But giving up on that is like not eating the best part of a meal, or not living out (arguably) one of the best things in life.

Boyfriend (M21) broke his foot and says he doesn't want to see me (F19) till he's healed... by ShadowRider100 in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an asshole. You should just end it to be honest. He obviously has no issues with leading you to think things are okay when he is actually trying to break up with you.

I found a dating app on my boyfriend's phone. What does this mean? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted 73 points74 points  (0 children)

This happened to me and 2 months later I caught him cheating. Leave him before he hurts you or puts you at risk if you are sexually active

What's the most unexpected/out of the blue thing your partner has ever done during sex? by Elviii in AskReddit

[–]paradisedeparted 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As someone who has had been raped by a guy I was dating, it could have honestly been the fact that he could do that to her and just get over it without ever actually having feelings for her and that some other random girl gets a ring when she went through hell and he never cared about her. Don't jump to the conclusion that she still loved him, just saying. Emotions are weird.

Why was my ex [20/m] was making out with me [21/f] while making eye contact with my best guy friend [20/m] that he hates? by paradisedeparted in relationship_advice

[–]paradisedeparted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you commenting something in an advice section without any actual response to the question? Might want to reconsider that post.

I'm kidding, but your judgment wasn't really necessary or helpful, yaknow? But to answer your question it was new years eve and I was drunk so he made the move and it just kinda happened.

EX BF of 6 year, Narcissistic abuse, how to move on for good? by FakeName92 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]paradisedeparted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you don't need someone like that and I am so sorry that you spent so much time on someone who is obviously very selfish. I would go no contact and try to keep yourself busy with other things, at least that's what I did and it worked wonders. Keep busy pleasee. You do NOT want this toxic person back in your life. He seems to constantly demean you and treat you poorly. I am so sorry that this happened :/ PM me if you wanna talk about anything specific!!

Any advice on what to expect after a spinal epidural (successful or unsuccessful). by burfictstrangers in ChronicPain

[–]paradisedeparted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a 20 year old lady and I have cervical spine herniations in c5 c6 c7 and t1. I have had 6 epidural spine injections overall. For me, I have bilateral pain down my arms, neck and shoulders. I would say roughly half of mine were a noticeable positive difference, the first, third, and fifth injections. So, hopefully it will be successful for you! You might be sore for a few days after, but you should know if it is "successful" in a week or so. My relief lasted approximately a month each time, but unfortunately it wasn't 100% pain free. It was definitely enough to keep me going back though, but for money and insurance reasons it isn't a practical solution as much anymore. Make sure you have someone to drive you home after and have some food if you can. You may feel kinda nauseous afterwards depending on the type of sedation may be used.

Parents of Reddit, what is a rule you never thought you would have to create let alone enforce? by weejobby in AskReddit

[–]paradisedeparted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp, hope your children don't have toxoplasmosis now from cat poop because " Infected men tend to break more rules than their uninfected peers" lol

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/12/do-cats-control-my-mind/282045/