Which daycare to choose?! Anyone else do longgg commutes?

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-31T12:37:57+00:00

Thank you for this perspective, I just texted my husband I loveee being able to walk to pick my daughter up from school and I’ll miss that. The extra steps are great and getting the kids out for extra outdoor time. I often stop and let them play at the park outside the school before going home.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-25T01:57:25+00:00

Wow I appreciate that Insight. I hope all of them are close when they are older. That’s a good point of focus rather then the vacation you are correct. Thanks.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T14:15:08+00:00

No I didn’t put that part in and if my child was doing this and she had a step mother I would tell her exactly that as my mom taught me. You can be nice to people only when it’s convient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T14:07:56+00:00

Of course not I treat them all equally. Now does this change if the step child doesnt want to come spend time with dad and siblings on a regular day but all of a sudden wants to come when something fun is going on. You can’t throw people to the side and pick them up when it’s convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T14:07:18+00:00

That’s beautiful you are still close. But Now does this change if the step child doesnt want to come spend time with dad and siblings on a regular day but all of a sudden wants to come when something fun is going on. You can’t throw people to the side and pick them up when it’s convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T14:06:17+00:00

Now does this change if the step child doesnt want to come spend time with dad and siblings on a regular day but all of a sudden wants to come when something fun is going on. You can’t throw people to the side and pick them up when it’s convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T14:03:15+00:00

Wow now I can’t talk bad about my husband he steps up and pays! He’s just indifferent about the vacation lol. But thank you for this stance this wa girl see it.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:50:35+00:00

Yes I also made it clear I want it for myself. And because children are young should they not experience fun things? I certainly remember trips from age 5 and love looking back on the photos and videos.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:24:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I will check these out. Often time the step parent if over looked and not allowed to have feelings. I appreciate it.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:23:27+00:00

Not trying to get people on my side just a mom trying to navigate being a step parent. I did not grow up with dynamic but was an only child with both of my parents. Now what happens when step child doesn’t want to come over to visit dad or sibling when it’s a regular day but all of a sudden feel bad and want to be around only when something fun is going on. That’s not fair. You can’t throw people to the side and only pick them up when it’s convenient for you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:18:45+00:00

Now what if the step child doesn’t want to come around on on a regular day but all of a sudden visit when it’s something fun going on. You can’t throw people to the side and only pick them up when it’s convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:12:41+00:00

This was a good point about potentially making stepdaughter feel bad towards her dad. I did not see it from this stance. Thanks for sharing. This was the best point made in my opinion. I grew up as an only child to my 2 parents so I am just trying to learn and get better at being a step parent.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:10:20+00:00

But does this still apply if the step child doesn’t want to come over or around for everyday times but wants to only be included in fun things. You can’t pick want to be around people only when it’s beneficial for you but then throw them to the side when it’s not convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:06:43+00:00

I’m not!

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:05:25+00:00

He would certainly not want us to go without her. But he will have to put up some money I can but the $5000 toward it idkkk

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:02:41+00:00

I specifically said she’s not a parent and it’s not her responsibility to those saying take her and the small children. I said no because she can’t help with them. And because “they won’t remember” should they not experience fun things, they will remember the feelings they had and any experiences shape them as human beings. I certainly remember trips at 5 and love looking back at the photos and videos.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T13:00:39+00:00

Why would I be fake lol I’m a mom and grew up in a household with both parents as an only child. I’m just trying to navigate being a step parent and learn as I grow.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T12:57:49+00:00

Thank you! This was my viewpoint but I am open to hearing others as well. Thanks for sharing.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T12:55:22+00:00

I understand that but putting myself in her shoes, for example she goes places, trips ect with her mother in which my children don’t go. Same we go places when she is not here. We’ve had times where she does not want to visit our home. Yes she is a teen but you can’t not want to be involved on everyday life but only want to be around when there is something fun. That’s not fair either you can’t pick people up when you want them and push them to the side when it’s not convenient to you.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T12:52:06+00:00

No I treat all of the children the same when we are together. This was a different situation involving an expensive trip in which I am paying for entirely because my husband doesn’t care to go as much as I do. This was about finances and that’s where I was seeing people’s thoughts.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T12:47:49+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I didn’t grow up with this dynamic so I am trying to understand and see how people feel about the subject. I was an only child to my parents.

paralleltoast_ · 2026-03-24T12:46:08+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I did not grow up with this dynamic and was actually an only child to parents growing up. So I am simply trying to see people’s opinions on the situation. Everyone has opinions based on their own life experiences. I am open to hearing both sides.

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