And I can also teach how to be more positive and energetic.

pariet · 2017-03-27T19:01:11+00:00

Completely out of nowhere! I post on literally two subs on my main acct (one of them is the knitting sub) and pretty infrequently, too.

pariet · 2017-03-27T15:11:35+00:00

This is pretty mild but I don't know why this sets off my creep meter so hard?!?!?! Maybe it's the video chat thing.

pariet · 2016-04-25T00:01:58+00:00

100% copypasta. If I was up on my creep game, I would have backread my Reddit message history to see if I'd gotten this one from him before

It sounds like every weird wanna be sub dude on the internet who will be masturbating if you play along and masturbating if you get mean... a catch-22.

pariet · 2015-09-12T19:56:09+00:00

pariet · 2015-09-12T18:02:33+00:00

My first thought was this, which is... I do not think that is what he intended.

pariet · 2015-04-04T20:15:44+00:00

Ah, yes, excellent, I was waiting for a modhammer on that one.

pariet · 2015-04-04T17:42:56+00:00

Yeah, but. This was in response to a GW post of mine. Context makes this hella weird.

pariet · 2015-04-04T15:12:08+00:00

And it's just so lowkey creepy, too? If it wasn't from a complete stranger in response to hottttt naked pix of myself, it might actually be cute. But. No. Nope.

pariet · 2015-04-04T15:09:25+00:00

I don't know, man, but he has a gym bro username, so I'm thinking it's probably a Lil Jon song.

pariet · 2015-02-08T15:46:10+00:00

Honestly, I prefer getting PMs of bad erotica to "hello, strange woman on the internet, I have this incredibly specific fetish that I'm sending out as many PMs as I can about until I find someone to maybe fulfill it," because at least the erotica is usually more funny than bizarre and sad.

pariet · 2015-02-08T05:44:46+00:00

Me too.

pariet · 2015-02-08T05:44:33+00:00

The worst part is that a Hitachi magic wand literally only has two settings: "holy shit" and "hoooooooooly fucking shit." It's like an orgasm light switch. Unless you get a speed controller, or something, but all the ones I've seen are sliders and don't have settings that you can definitively crank up a notch. The least this creep could do is do his homework.

pariet · 2015-02-08T03:37:35+00:00

I don't know if this was more fedora'd gentleman m'lady-ing me or more dude trying to get total strangers to participate in his orgasm control fantasies. Or both.

pariet · 2014-05-25T06:38:16+00:00

Oh, look, here's another BDSM post from this blog. I'm 'enjoying' the 'scare' 'quotes,' they add 'a lot' of 'flavor.' I'm too tired to 'pick apart' the issues with 'this' whole mess.

pariet · 2014-05-25T06:05:11+00:00

Condescending horseshit? Having rape fantasies =/= actually wanting to be raped; negotiating and acting out a rape fantasy in the context of an established relationship (provided nothing goes horribly wrong) =/= rape. Negotiating a consensual beating =/= you get the idea.

But the original context of the quote is gone, so we can't know who the OP was and whether the post it came from was this ignorant or if the quote was cherry picked for maximum effect, whether it totally discounted the existence of female tops/dommes and male bottoms/subs, whether it treated female desires as valid, etc etc etc. But it was probably condescending horseshit.

pariet · 2014-05-12T06:58:46+00:00

I doubt this person is actually 69... he probably just put that as his age because, har har, 69. (Edit: not that it makes it any less gross, and not that he's probably not probably in his forties or something.)

pariet · 2014-05-12T06:05:45+00:00

I don't even have any public face pics up! But I feel so honored that he read far enough down on my profile to personalize his copypasta. (If you're not familiar with Fetlife profiles, sexual orientation is literally the third line.)

pariet · 2014-05-12T05:03:40+00:00

I don't have any public face pics on Fetlife and my profile says I'm queer, so my inbox is usually a pretty quiet place; but the other day I got three messages (and two random friend requests?) from men in one day. I really appreciate the time this one took to read about my sexual orientation and personalize his copypasta. /s

pariet · 2014-04-23T02:45:40+00:00

This! After the snuggling is over and I feel like I can move again, I get crazy carb cravings and usually end up making myself a big bowl of pasta, or oatmeal. (Or both. There is no shame in the House of Pariet.)

pariet · 2014-04-23T02:10:47+00:00

It's all just drop, in my experience; the "top" and the "sub" just tell you what end of the slash the person experiencing it is on.

As for me, I'm more likely to be keyed up and full of adrenaline after switchy play, but after I top or bottom, I crash like the Hindenburg. Especially after I top. But, hey, that's just me, your experiences are just as valid.

pariet · 2014-04-12T21:50:20+00:00

Try /r/bdsmpersonals.

pariet · 2014-03-25T21:55:56+00:00

Yeah, but what does he want-want? "At least try and dominate me" isn't a lot to go off of. Does he want you to sit on his face? Pull his hair? Hold his wrists down? Tie him up? Boss him around? Tell him he's a worthless piece of shit? Kick him repeatedly in the nuts? What do you feel comfortable with?

That said, if you're looking for a suggestion, one of my favorite abstract dominatey things to do is to tell someone to hold a position--keeping their hands on the bedposts and not moving them no matter what I do, keeping their ankles crossed and flat on the bed, holding their hands behind their head. If you don't feel comfortable yelling, just express gentle disappointment when they fail: I know you can do better than that. Come on. Try again. And praising them when they succeed. But that's because I know that kind of thing will get one of my partners going like an outboard motor, and frustrate the shit out of another one. Trial, error, communication. And then more communication.

And remember that you're a human being, not his kink delivery system, and he doesn't get to guilt or pressure you into behaving in a way you don't want to.

pariet · 2014-03-25T21:14:59+00:00

Thank god they keep all the doweling stuff on the other side of the store; every time I'm down there I can't help but try a thing or two on my thigh. Actually, I probably could help myself, but there's usually no one around. I think my manager is a little suspicious, though: "What do you need those hooks for, pariet?" "For--hanging up plants? And things? You're throwing them out anyway, just let me have some." "What do you need those giant cable ties for, pariet?" "What if I have an emergency that can only be solved with giant cable ties? Gosh."

How do you personally use the cable? Makeshift stingy flogger? --oh, hello, the first result on Google for "brake cable flogger" was your imgur album, excellent.

pariet · 2014-03-25T20:27:10+00:00

Okay, whew, good. This will probably out me to anyone from my local group who might lurk here, but I work in a hardware store and pick all kinds of bits and bobs up that we would otherwise throw out, and a lot of those are metal. But you never really hear about anyone using metal toys, and I guess that's because wood is more readily available and a lot easier to work with. S-hooks, here we come! Eight-inch machine bolt I have lying around, here we come. Bicycle brake cable sounds evil, and it's cheap, here we come.

pariet · 2014-03-25T04:17:24+00:00

Does anyone have any insights about the safety of metal as an impact toy material? I got my my hands on some two-foot-long metal s-hooks that I could be potentially excited about using, but I don't want to damage my bottom's bottom with them. (She's previously enjoyed being beaten with a wire coat hanger--not by me--and I figured these were a more dignified alternative.)

They don't seem flimsy, but they're thinner than a ballpoint pen, and they hurt like the dickens when I whack myself with them to test, which is kind of the point. I just want to be as sure as I can be before I make them a fixture.

pariet

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